I need help!

Lexxi

We got engaged in January and started planning everything for November with provisional bookings. Unfortunately we then lost our jobs, the wedding kind of went on the back burner and I just assumed at some point we would agree that the wedding would go on hold or be rescheduled.
We've just found out that a family member isn't too good and OH wants the wedding to go ahead for November but closer to where we grew up.
We've got new jobs now but the pay structure is totally different and with us being out of work our savings have completely dwindled.

We definatley want to get married in a church, OH wants a function room to ourselves for the reception so a pub lunch is out.

I just feel so helpless, I don't think we'll have enough to get the wedding we want and I don't want it to feel like it's a rush job just for this person, it'd make the day sad, you know?

I'm putting together a list of what is essential, necessary and out. Can anyone think of anything to add on it, some bits are sorted and I'm meeting with a reverand next week too..

Lexxi

Essential

Groom - got!!
Church
Dress
Suits
Shoes - got £40
Function room
Food
hair/make up
Witnesses
Invites - sort of got
Guests
cake - Budget £50
Music/entertainment to evening - Ipod and hopefully band £250
cars
Room decs, wouldn't be having centre pieces as it would bring the room in

Would like..

Button holes
Bouquet

Ok, basic list, will make more detailed shortly with things I can do to keep cost down, what have I missed?

Horace

Decide on your guest list and cut out hangers on (eg workmates, partners of friends etc).

It may sound strange but hop onto the DFW board and take part in the make £10 a day challenge and put that money away.

See what you can make or get someone else to make You can still have a wonderful day on a budget.

angel13

Lexxi wrote: »

Essential

Groom
Dress - have u got something you can wear already?
Suit - have u got one you can use already?
Shoes - have u got some in the wardrobe somewhere?
Church
Function room
Food
hair/make up
Witnesses
Invites
Guests - keep the numbers low
Button holes - are these needed?
Bouquet - or this?
Music/entertainment to evening - do u need an evening do? we wont be having one
cars - can u just use some that people own in the family so u just need ribbons or fuel or go for a venue/church you can walk to
cake - do u need this we wont be having one?

Ok, basic list, will make more detailed shortly with things I can do to keep cost down, what have I missed?

my ideas

jackieglasgow

Could you not try and see if you can get one of those £1000 weddings? You could get married in church, then have the reception for a grand if it has to be a "do", I reckon you could do the whole thing for under £2-£2500 if you want the whole traditional wedding experience.

angel13

where are u looking so i can see if ive found anything reasonable and cute in the area (i have been looking all over the place!)?

Lexxi

Angel we're looking oldham/manchester kind of area. I was thinking about trying to find somewhere to hire that provided a kitchen too as we have a chef mate and it would cut the cost of food as we would only be paying at cost. Only place I've seen so far is maine road but I think that will be so expensive
I have shoes,
The dress should only cost for alterations and maybe accessories tiara/veil if needed
I have the stuff for invites
I have a list at around 50 people for guests, this would probably be for the whole thing maximum, and also maybe quite a bit less
Button hole/bouquuet aren't definate yet

Jackie do you know if there are a few chains doing this as the one I found isn't near me?

Horace, great suggestion.

Thank you all

angel13

http://www.peakdistrictholidaybarn.co.uk/contact-us-c100015.html

something a bit different. you can rent the whole barn (sleeps 24) is a lot of money at weekends but seems like it is flexible during the week. so maybe rent this for one night midweek and get the food done there and celebrate there and go to a nearby register office/church in the morning.

angel13

http://www.georgehotelglossop.co.uk/functions.html
says it has been refurbished, has function rooms with no fee so just pay for the food. there are buffets for £10 per person (wish i could find these prices where i live!!)

angel13

http://www.village-hotels.co.uk/hotels/manchester-bury/celebrations
i think they do offers/packages

angel13

http://www.thebellinghamhotel.co.uk/Weddings.html
a midweek wedding package is £1000
looks nice too!