need some advise and support

McKneff

Can you imagine living like this for the rest of your life.

I feel for you but you are not being fair on yourself, he is using you
and you are allowing it.
Be good to yourself darlin, nobody else can make the decision for you.
Regards
Annie

LillythePink

F him off - all men are bar stewards - just found out my hub is texting his first love on a daily basis so I am in a very anti man mode at the moment

jonty1970

( all arguments seem to be my fault)
I agree with the other replies. He isn't right for you. A decent man makes you feel special and wanted and cares about how you feel.
I should know, I had an awful ex who made me paranoid about allsorts. He started off making me feel like everything was my fault, then it slowly started turning to slaps and vile insults, to full blown drunken attacks.
get out before you have zero confidence left and can't get away!

I now have a wonderful man who treats me like a princess!
You need to find a lovely man who looks after (and you him)

Meenu

you know he is upto no good you just have to face it

[Deleted User]

The excuses he makes about u shouldn't be searching on his phone are the usual excuses men make when they are caught out (altho he is making it because he does have a point). But u wouldn't be doing it unless u had an instinct that he was up to something.

See him for what he is hun.., and he's definitely not good for u if he is making u feel so low.

motherofstudents

You say that you feel really low and have done for some time. How did you feel before you met your bf? I think you need to build up your self esteem and he is not goiing to help you do it. Why don't you try to have a life of your own = do some classes, go out to the theatre/cinema, get in touch with friends. I'm suggesting this because if you are lacking in confidence and self esteem it will be much harder to assert yourself and tell him what you want in your relationship. If you look forward to where you will be in 6 months do you see any improvement or more of the same? Put yourself first, do things for YOU and think what you want out of life, then decide do you want this bf to share it with you or do you deserve better?

Angel10

You are in a very similar situation to me. I have found the same things on our laptop, and like you I am currently in limbo. We are married though, and not even a year. It was four months after the wedding I discovered all of this. Don't let it get this far for you please!! It feels so much harder to get out of, although I know it would have still been hard even if we weren't married.

I'm in my twenties and know I deserve better but it's getting the courage up to do anything about it. It's very scary. I completely understand where you are coming from and send you big hugs.

Pollycat

Anybody else concerned that the OP hasn't been back on MSE since early morning 14/5/2010 and that her first post on this was her last on MSE?