Divorcing Albanian Issue

gemmakw88

Hello

I need advice urgently. I was married at Brighton city hall on the 09/10/2006. However I was only 18 and looking back I feel nothing but regret and can see I was much too young to make such a decision.

My husband is Albanian, at the time of marriage I genuinely thought I loved him and it was a serous relationship which is why we got married as I couldn’t picture life without him. (much too young, I can only think I was taken advantage of) My life now is a completely different matter since after we separated in April 2008 he has been hassling me to help him with citizenship which I have told him no because we are no longer together and I would get into trouble. I told him I am not pretending that we live together because we don’t.

I have contacted him today as now I have got a bit of money together to get the divorce started, asking him to pay part as I cannot afford it atm but want it all over. He has threatened me saying “watch what you say don’t make me come after you”
I am genuinely scared of him and he knows where I live. He shouldn’t be in England in my opinion, I don’t think he even works and there is no reason why not.

What do you suggest I should do? I really just want him out my life. I want my divorce ASAP but I cannot afford it and he should be paying for it for making my life so miserable, that’s why I left him. I need to know if I legally should report my husband for still being here as we are not together and I don't want to see him.

Many Thanks for any help or advice you can give me.
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**confuzzled**

I can't really help much I'm afraid but I'm sure others will be along shortly who can
is it possible to go to your local CAB and see if they can help with finding out what funding you could get to help towards legal bills....would you qualify for legal aid??
Also if you're scared of him and seeing as he's already threatened you, call the police and inform them and also let them know he's trying to get citizenship and is hoping to force you into helping him out! They might be able to do something but if not at least you'll it'll be on record if, godforbid, he tries to threaten you again.

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Chloepad1

Hi
I didn't want to read and run. I think you perhaps need some legal advice, I am going to recommend you ring your local citizens advice bureau to get an urgent appointment. I am sure that although my knowledge is not really up to scratch on this kind of thing, then I am sure that other wiser folks will be along soon to offer help and advice

Tamsin_Temrin

Call the courts, ask how much it costs in fees and ask about fee remission (I think its called) which means you pay less in fees if you qualify. Even with kids etc you can still get a divorce through by yourself. The court staff cant give legal advice but they can tell you if a form is filled in right, and divorce is less complicated than you would think. Are there any children.

Then tell him clearly that next time he threatens you you go to the police - and do it.

Contact immigration - explain that he is threatening you to try and lie on the forms.

Do everything you can to get him away from you - good luck.

btw - I dont know how long it takes to get a toerag deported, but a straightforward divorce even if he is refusing service, can usually be got through in less than a year, i was told the record is four and a half months. Explain to the courts that you want things rushed and why (including threats) because trying to divorce him if he is in Albania is going to be a complete mare

RAS

gemma

You probably need to have contacted the Home Office in April 2008. I suggest you ring them now

Do you have children at all?

RAS

By the way DIY divorce is quite cheap.

iamana1ias

Did you get paid to marry him?

Raspberry_Ripples

iamana1ias wrote: »

Did you get paid to marry him?

Ouch!


Never mind "next time he threatens you go to the police" Go now, next time you might be too late.

Do you have any family that can help you out?

skintdragon

sorry to hear of your problem.

If the man is starting to threaten you, I would log ALL forms of contact with him; if you are able to record conversations etc, it may be a good idea to do so. Also might be an idea to keep face- to- face meetings down to a minimum for your welfare and safety.

iamana1ias

Raspberry_Ripples wrote: »

Ouch!


?

Happens all the time

something about the story doesn't add up. Why would the op stay in touch with someone she left after 18 months of marriage?

RAS

iamana1ias wrote: »

something about the story doesn't add up. Why would the op stay in touch with someone she left after 18 months of marriage?

Can you read?

gemmakw88 wrote: »

at the time of marriage I genuinely thought I loved him and it was a serous relationship which is why we got married as I couldn’t picture life without him. (much too young, I can only think I was taken advantage of)

This was a love -match - on her side anyway, however mistaken.

gemmakw88 wrote: »

since after we separated in April 2008 he has been hassling me to help him with citizenship which I have told him no because we are no longer together and I would get into trouble.

He has been hassling her repeatedly.

gemmakw88 wrote: »

I have contacted him today as now I have got a bit of money together to get the divorce started, asking him to pay part as I cannot afford it atm but want it all over.

She has made the move today becuase she wants a divorce - not exactly as if she has been repeatedly contacting him, is it?