Traditional or Unconventional?

ellay864

AimSay wrote: »

People keep informing me ours wont be a 'real' wedding if we do it the way we hae planned my reply is : it maybe not a real wedding but it is certainly a real marriage. That seems to shut them up.
We are spending the night before together and arriving at reg office in same car together with our 2 lil ones. We have a We are having a bbq at our house instead of a sit down meal and then going to the pub across the road. In the evening we shall amble up to the village hall where a friend is putting on a disco.
It took us along time to realise we have to do what we want or live to regret it.

Well said...and all the very best for Saturday :beer:

deano23285

you should do what you want, not what everything thinks you should do

lindaatno9

AimSay wrote: »

People keep informing me ours wont be a 'real' wedding if we do it the way we hae planned my reply is : it maybe not a real wedding but it is certainly a real marriage. That seems to shut them up.
We are spending the night before together and arriving at reg office in same car together with our 2 lil ones. We have a We are having a bbq at our house instead of a sit down meal and then going to the pub across the road. In the evening we shall amble up to the village hall where a friend is putting on a disco.
It took us along time to realise we have to do what we want or live to regret it.

Exactly how my hubby and I married. It's wonderful to have the dress, the favours etc and I wouldn't take that away from anyone, but it is about getting married first and foremost and how you do that is entirely your decision. xx

shellsuit

AimSay wrote: »

People keep informing me ours wont be a 'real' wedding if we do it the way we hae planned my reply is : it maybe not a real wedding but it is certainly a real marriage. That seems to shut them up.
We are spending the night before together and arriving at reg office in same car together with our 2 lil ones. We have a We are having a bbq at our house instead of a sit down meal and then going to the pub across the road. In the evening we shall amble up to the village hall where a friend is putting on a disco.
It took us along time to realise we have to do what we want or live to regret it.

That sounds like a fantastic day to me! And it's this weekend! :T

Hope you have a fab day!! xxxxxxxxx

Roz_V

ellay864 wrote: »

I went to one like that years ago where it was the bride's second marriage....the bride got on fine with her dad, who was there in the congregation, but he said last time he gave her away she came back so she should do something different this time :rotfl:

That's the sort of thing my dad would say :rotfl:


Originally I wanted the whole shebang, but then realised I didn't want to spend that much on one day and also there were lots of things that I was paying for but thought were a bit pointless!

We haven't booked anything yet, but hopefully we're going to get married at the Registry Office late Friday afternoon (about 3pm) We're then going to go to the reception venue and be served "afternoon tea" of sandwiches, scones & teabread, followed by a BBQ in the evening for about 150.

The day will still feel quite "weddingy" with dressed tables, bridesmaids (my 2 sisters and my SIL2B) and me in a white dress, but I don't want a full 3 course "Wedding Breakfast" - especially if we're feeding everyone a few hours later. The formal "sit down" portion of the day with speeches etc will all be done with the afternoon tea.

I think the most important thing is to make sure the day is "you" - you don't want to feel uncomfortable about anything on your day!!

fizzypotter

some of my friends were also horrified that I spent the night at home before our wedding but we've been living together 10 years so why would I go anywhere else? hubby also helped choose dress (white but short) and we arrived together. as everyone says, its what you want that counts, not what everyone else thinks you should do.
have a great day when it comes, we did !!!

lindaatno9

I was societies taboo bride. 3rd time and 5 months preggers. Best day of my life and blew the other 2 out of the water. I married the man of my dreams and we did our day our way. I still well up when I think of it.