Traditional or Unconventional?

BeckyArch

We're having a mix really, i'm going for the ivory dress and OH is wearing traditional suit, but we're having lego cake topper and rock night to follow the wedding.. i wanted to have a black wedding dress, but it turned out that when i put on the ivory one it felt like 'the one'.

Lik others are saying..have what you want. we're not having readings cos i hate them, we're playing heavy metal cos we love it, we're getting ferrari to transport the groom because we are both car mad, we're having the lego topper because we love lego!, we're having cupcakes cos we think they are pretty etc.. People have tried to tell us what we should and should not be doing...but its not their wedding.. it is ours..we have what we want!

mypie

I think for us we have just picked the things we wanted rather than what we felt we had to pick. I have got a short dress and also my bms are in dresses that are tea length. We are having grooms son in the wedding car with us after wedding as we feel that we are starting married life and including him in it all as he is as big a part as we are. We are having an acoustic duo singing rather than hymns or readings. Oh and an icecream van after the ceremony.

Taypier

Thanks guys. I'm not actually that unconventional as a person but certain bits of wedding tradition just aren't us. It's just how things are working out so far. For example, I don't get on with my dad too well so would not want him walking me down the aisle, especially not in a church as we're not religious. It would seem wrong to me. I'm not brave enough to walk by myself so we're doing it together.

A couple of girls from work are getting married soon, they are doing it all very traditional so they seem a little shocked when I admit that I'm not having bridesmaids, or don't gush over flowers. One girl is 22 and so far it's costing over £20K :eek:
I don't intend on breaking the bank for a our wedding but feel like i'm being tight compared. Silly isn't it!

Violetta_2

Hi Taypier for some people it's about getting married, others it just seems to be about the "Wedding" sounds to me like you want to get married to your beloved, & the other girls at work want to be a princess for a day.
I had a humanist ceremony which was very different everyone liked it & said it was so personal, my dad walked me up the aisle but he didn't give me away, I don't belong to anyone.
Oh didn't have a best man (which some people were horrified at) he had our best friend as his best woman to support him. I said he didn't need a best man, He's the best man or I wouldn't have married him. I had another best friend as a bridesmaid, but she just wore a pretty maxi dress that cost £35.
We had a fab day within our budget, celebrated with those who cared for us. Do it your way, it's not worth getting in debt over & it's stressful enough without having to please everyone else.

RainbowDrops

Taypier wrote: »

For example, I don't get on with my dad too well so would not want him walking me down the aisle, especially not in a church as we're not religious. It would seem wrong to me. I'm not brave enough to walk by myself so we're doing it together.

I recently went to a wedding with a similar situation.
The bride appeared at the top of the aisle, then the groom, who was waiting at the front, walked up the aisle to collect her, then they walked down together.
It was really lovely

Bride2be24

mine is pretty much traditional. only thing is i am not marrying in a church i am having a civil ceremony in a hotel

ellay864

RainbowDrops wrote: »

I recently went to a wedding with a similar situation.
The bride appeared at the top of the aisle, then the groom, who was waiting at the front, walked up the aisle to collect her, then they walked down together.
It was really lovely

I went to one like that years ago where it was the bride's second marriage....the bride got on fine with her dad, who was there in the congregation, but he said last time he gave her away she came back so she should do something different this time :rotfl:

Jo_R_2

ellay864 wrote: »

I went to one like that years ago where it was the bride's second marriage....the bride got on fine with her dad, who was there in the congregation, but he said last time he gave her away she came back so she should do something different this time :rotfl:

ROFL funny...:rotfl:

chatnoir

I think "tradition" is very relative, and is probably more to do with trends or fashions. LIke the fashsion at the moment is to have 50's inspired dresses, or a english tea party etc to some may seem alternative to some they aren't. If you look at wedding pictures from the 40's/50's most brides are wearing suit type outfits, not your typical white dress which was the fashion then but to some this would of been seen as alternative.
Think you should do what is best for you both and do what u feel comfortable with!

AimSay

People keep informing me ours wont be a 'real' wedding if we do it the way we hae planned my reply is : it maybe not a real wedding but it is certainly a real marriage. That seems to shut them up.
We are spending the night before together and arriving at reg office in same car together with our 2 lil ones. We have a We are having a bbq at our house instead of a sit down meal and then going to the pub across the road. In the evening we shall amble up to the village hall where a friend is putting on a disco.
It took us along time to realise we have to do what we want or live to regret it.