Dealing with the JC and Anxiety

Welshwoofs

wishface wrote: »

Help in dealing with the system when the system doesn't respect the problems you have. Problems such as being compelled to attend interviews with staff who are, let's just say, unhelpful, whiel having to deal with problems of anxiety and stress.

Just as an observation... almost every thread I've seen you participate in you come across as having a major attitude problem. Your written communication comes across as confrontational - if you are the same way in face-to-face dealings I'm not surprised that your perception of the staff is 'unhelpful'.

Oldernotwiser

Don't you think that to post on a site (which is about helping people to get their benefit entitlements) asking for information on a site that does this, is a bit of an insult, quite apart from what you actually said about members?

healy

wishface wrote: »

I don't want to discuss the issues here. I want to know if other people know of any sites. If you dont, then why are you responding other than to antagonise? I don't care to be bullied into discussing personal issues and your repeated fishing is doing exactly that. Please stop.

I cannot see that you have been bullied at all.

As said if you type your "issues" into a search engine I am sure you will find many sites where you can get people to help as you do not want to discuss them here.

wishface

dmg24 wrote: »

I have responded suggesting that, if you do not want our help, you will find the answers you need on Google.

richard9991 has posted giving you a suggestion, but you have not even thanked him, either through the Thanks button or by acknowledging his suggestion.



Do you really expect people to help you, after you have suggested that they are very nasty and intolerant?

You are the only person who is coming across as antagonistic.

Why are you trying to start an argument? The point of the OP was clear. It isn't for you to tell me how to respond to other people nor is it for you to drag this thread down by ignoring my saying taht I do not want to discuss personal issues. You are deliberately ignoring what I originally asked and isntead are hell bent on pursuing somethign I expressly said I didn't want to discuss.

wishface

healy wrote: »

I cannot see that you have been bullied at all.

As said if you type your "issues" into a search engine I am sure you will find many sites where you can get people to help as you do not want to discuss them here.

But that was not what I asked. I have no idea what you are trying to prove. If you don't have an answer to the OP, then why are you responding? I didn't ask for instructions on how to use google, I asked a very specific question: do people know of any specific websites. I have already tried search engines. I have no idea what you are trying to gain with this line of inquiry other than to wind me up and then point and laugh when I respond. This is expressly why I didn't want to discuss personal issues and yet that point is being completely ignored.

wishface

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Don't you think that to post on a site (which is about helping people to get their benefit entitlements) asking for information on a site that does this, is a bit of an insult, quite apart from what you actually said about members?

No I don't, and neither did I 'actually say' anything about any particular member. But please don't insult my intelligence by pretending there are not unpleasant nasty views that go unchecked through forums you yourself say are designed to help the vulnerable. I've seen that streak manifest plenty of times and I think it an unfortunate reflection on those that run this site that they do not seem willing to at least distance themselves from such ignorance.

wishface

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Just as an observation... almost every thread I've seen you participate in you come across as having a major attitude problem. Your written communication comes across as confrontational - if you are the same way in face-to-face dealings I'm not surprised that your perception of the staff is 'unhelpful'.

Do you find it relevant to the OP to make such assumptions about people you don't know and have never met?

Oldernotwiser

Surely you are the OP - why keep referring to yourself in the third person?

dmg24

wishface wrote: »

Why are you trying to start an argument? The point of the OP was clear. It isn't for you to tell me how to respond to other people nor is it for you to drag this thread down by ignoring my saying taht I do not want to discuss personal issues. You are deliberately ignoring what I originally asked and isntead are hell bent on pursuing somethign I expressly said I didn't want to discuss.

I am not the one who appears to be trying to start an argument here. How is suggesting that you use Google asking you to discuss personal issues?

What information have you found from Google, or is that too personal a question?

kingfisherblue

wishface, you have had some good advice considering that you are vague about what you require. Posters only ask for more information so that they can help to point you in the right direction.

I can unerstand that you might not want to give details of your personal circumstances on a public forum, but this does restrict other posters in giving accurate information.

You come across as confrontational when asked for more specific details, and you are, quite frankly, rude to some of the posters who are very helpful. But they cannot help you without knowing more.

If you have anxiety issues, but do not wish to give more information in order to enable people to help you, may I suggest that you either continue to research websites yourself, or speak to your mental health specialist.