From Trash to Cash: Dribbling a river

moneymabel

Well for a change I really dont know what to say...apart from please dont go hun,it sounds like now more than ever you need people to talk to and you know we wont judge you,I know we've never met but it really does feel like we all 'know' each other and i am gutted that i never realised that things were so bad with you, ****ing hell I dont know what to say :-(

Its easy for me to say that you need to get out of there but its obviously not that easy...I dont know what he's been up to in your name but is here anyway of speaking to someone anonymously about it to find out where you stand if it all hits the fan?

Big useless cyber hugs for you :-(

babymoo

M&P - I literally have no words for you. I am sat here crying reading your post. I honestly do not know what to say. Don't leave us, were not going to judge you, you are in a mentally and physically abusive relationship and that is NOT your fault. Everything you have done, you have done because you were scared and intimidated into doing it. Huge huge hugs for you hun and for your children. You deserve so much more and I truly hope that one day you find the energy to get away from him and start to rebuild your life.

nolongerindenial

wow what a post M&P - I read every single word of it - and if there is ANYTHING at all I can reccomend it would be to goto the police and explain your husband is committing fraud and forging documents in your name without your consent!

There is always a way out for you - A previous carer of my brother had been beaten by her husband weekly for 20 years, on her sons 21st birthday she finally managed to move out with the help of social services. Nobody wants to get them involved but at the end of the day, they are here to help you and maybe one thing you may have to seriously consider is whilst he is next out fishing - going and getting on a train - sod it if they are going to fine you for not having a ticket and walking into a council in another area and finding somewhere to live!

Then you need to work out what your next step is - Lets work out what you can do here and now for you and your DD, sure you may lose face but the way I look at it is not many of us have much face left to lose with our situation. What about your parents? can they not give you a roof over your head if you can get to them?

jo70mo

Mummyandpaige.
I have read it all and am digesting everything you have written.
I know you feel ashamed but I do not think anything bad about you at all.
You did not need to write that post but you did and I think that is because you really want someone to know what is happening and not to feel hidden and unseen.
I hope even if you don't log in that you come back and read the forum because I know the dribblers will not be ashamed of you.
There is still so much that I respect and stand in awe of.
I am not going to try right now to tell you that there are ways out and what they are because it doesn't feel right to do that in this post.
But I want you to know that you have been heard and that we will be here for you and try to help you find a way through. I know this isn't the same as real life support but it is still support and it is a start.
please try not to cut us off. Everything seems pointless I know. But its not just your children that are the point here. it is you too. You are worth so much even though it is hard for you to see it.
I will come back and post some more when I have had chance to digest it all a bit more.
remember we are not disgusted by what you have posted or at least not by your part in it.
We all still care about you and want to help. don't give up on us cos we aren't giving up on you.
Jo x

jo70mo

Big hugs to all the dribblers cos I am sure they are needed. xxx

babymoo

Will anyone be watching the sham that will be our last footie match of this World Cup? (sorry to change subject)

jo70mo

Really think we should keep this off Facebook. ie not post support on her wall.

jo70mo

Sorry for short messages if they sound curt but having to use my mobile and its painful

nixinixi

Oh M&P - please stay and we will do our best to help you through this, there must be a way and we all want to help you find it. I believe you are a lovely person and I admire your honesty, but like Jo I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of. You fell in love with a man, unfortunately not a nice one. I really really hope hat you stay around as we see you as part of our extended family and as such want to be here for you. I have tears in my eyes at what you are going through, you have tried so hard to turn it round at every opportunity. Huge hugs xxxx

Crafty_Toots

M&P, darling, you precious thing, I can't believe that you've been going through all this with no-one to lean on. You have nothing to be ashamed of at all, and not a single one of us are judging you on what you've said, other than to see what strength you've had to get through this far. None of your fight has been in vain, it's brought you to this point today where at the very least you felt you could share your pain with us. There are so many things I feel I could suggest, but I don't think this is the right time yet, you need a chance to breathe with the knowledge that this is out in the open with people who love you. Please please stay in touch. If you want to talk, shout, cry, then feel free, here or on a privately with any one of us, I'm sure, but I would certainly be here for you.

You are very much loved and I hope that gives you the strength to fight on until you find your way out.

Toots x