Threatening letter from unsuccesful buyer

richardvc

Londonsu, I respect the fact that you came back on here and faced the music as I know lots of people wouldn't have done that especially after I left a strongly worded post earlier.

Whilst I totally disagree with your reasoning and your actions, I feel very uncomfortable with the name calling etc that you have been subjected to.

When you posted originally, how did you expect people to react ?

Sooler

"Threatening letter from unsuccesful buyer" ... what was the actual threat?

Londonsu

I really hope that none of you find yourselves in the same position as me then maybe you will stop being holier than thou,


I was sent a very nasty letter which i didnt go into too much detail about it but it was nasty and threatening and in any other circumstances I would have called the police, but havent and I wont

as for asking for pity how have I done that, you all jumped to the conclusion that I was some greedy person who made a killing out of selling my flat and refused to help some poor FTB, I have explained that the situation is different to your conclusions and I have explained why, the fact that most of you cannot grasp the concept of someone facing a lifetime of no work and no money coming in is due to the fact I suspect that a lot of you have never been in my position and hopefully never will.

And I am sure that a lot of people can live on 1.5 a month but a mortgage is not the only out goings a person has as well you know

I am not going to attempt to explain my actions only to say again that I will write a polite letter explaining that I cant afford to give them a good will gesture at this time, should I or my Husband get jobs and we have monery coming in then I will give them something towards it

If you wish to call me any more names please feel free me, I am going to bed

eco-friendly_2

Londonsu wrote: »

as for asking for pity how have I done that, you all jumped to the conclusion that I was some greedy person who made a killing out of selling my flat and refused to help some poor FTB, I have explained that the situation is different to your conclusions and I have explained why, the fact that most of you cannot grasp the concept of someone facing a lifetime of no work and no money coming in is due to the fact I suspect that a lot of you have never been in my position and hopefully never will.


You're fifty five years old! there you are again playing your violin.


If you wish to call me any more names please feel free me, I am going to bed

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You should at least cough up for their survey

hipposocks

Londonsu

I have every sympathy for your situation, we were in the same position last year.

We too had to sell our property due to losing our jobs in middlelife, like you we needed to get as much as possible in order to be able to exist without claiming benefits or relying on savings until we got our pensions.

The trouble is that people like us are looked upon as greedy and grasping just because we need to cash in on an asset we had saved and worked a long time for.

First time buyers seem to think the world owes them something for nothing and there seems to be a lot of anger from them that having gone to University, got the job etc no-one is going to help them get the lifestyle they think they deserve.

We had first time buyers offering silly money for our house, wasting our time by looking at something they cant possibly afford, one wanted us to take £50,000 of the price just because the bathroom was old fashioned (didn't come from Ikea or Habitat), we eventually got the price we were looking for.The sellers of our new home had the same problem with first time buyers so were very relieved when we came along looking for a cash sale.

I would stick to your guns on this, legally you owe them nothing, and morally you have done norhing wrong, like you I hope that some of the posters here dont have to be in the same position, I dont think you are asking for pity just telling it like it is and you have a right to play the violin.

Also I would suspect that if the sale had gone through and they pulled out at the last minute your second buyer would not have offered you anthing for your legal costs

Wickedkitten

Londonsu wrote: »

I really hope that none of you find yourselves in the same position as me then maybe you will stop being holier than thou,


I was sent a very nasty letter which i didnt go into too much detail about it but it was nasty and threatening and in any other circumstances I would have called the police, but havent and I wont

as for asking for pity how have I done that, you all jumped to the conclusion that I was some greedy person who made a killing out of selling my flat and refused to help some poor FTB, I have explained that the situation is different to your conclusions and I have explained why, the fact that most of you cannot grasp the concept of someone facing a lifetime of no work and no money coming in is due to the fact I suspect that a lot of you have never been in my position and hopefully never will.

And I am sure that a lot of people can live on 1.5 a month but a mortgage is not the only out goings a person has as well you know

I am not going to attempt to explain my actions only to say again that I will write a polite letter explaining that I cant afford to give them a good will gesture at this time, should I or my Husband get jobs and we have monery coming in then I will give them something towards it

If you wish to call me any more names please feel free me, I am going to bed

It's not anyone being holier than thou at all. It's people taking exception to you deceiving someone in a business transaction when you had no intention of selling your house to them once the first buyer jumped back into the picture. You should be happy they can't have you done for fraud.

I doubt you would be getting half as much abuse if it you had told the second buyer about the situation as soon as you accepted the offer from the first buyer.

dander

I think the sob story sticks in my craw more than the actual bad deed. What the OP did was an entirely selfish act to protect their own interests at the expense of other people. If you're going to do something like that, at least own it. Your financial problems were nothing to do with the buyers you screwed over, so they are utterly irrelevant to how you treated them. I think you have a nerve trying to get sympathy out of people here, you don't deserve it.

Actions have consquences - learn to live with that.

[Deleted User]

The op has no morals. What goes around comes around

ILW

I lost all sympathy for the OP when she started trying to justify herself with all the "we are so poor stuff".
If she had just said that she had legally stitched up the buyers and tough on them for trusting her and being taken in, then I would have had a little more respect. (Not much though)

RobertoMoir

pyueck wrote: »

Libel is such a stupid law. Why you should get more in damages for calling somebody a name than punching them in the face is beyond me!

Because a bruise fades in a week but a widely distributed slur on someone's character could dog them their whole life?

Note, I'm not suggesting that I'm happy with the current, laughable, way of dealing with assault.