Threatening letter from unsuccesful buyer

Londonsu

Tell you what I will do, if one of the 50 or so jobs I have applied for on the Island Southampton and Portsmouth come to fruition if one of the jobs my husband has applied for end in a job offer so we have some money coming in rather than being scared to death that we will run out of funds before we get our pensions ( which we will make no mistake) , then and only then will I consider giving any money away, that do you? or is the spectre of poverty just selfishness in your eyes.

Still I am only scum, mind you I could have just not bothered to sell at all and relied on benefits ( I am sure my bad knees would have got me incapacity benefit if I really pushed it) then you could have called me a benefit scrounger as well.

Doozergirl

GreenSheep wrote: »

I hope none of you invest... Because for you to gain, someone will lose.
And you'd all be so racked with guilt....

I think you're really sweet but your comments are quite naive.

I do invest. A lot. And they say one on four sales fall through - and you know I can count my fall throughs on the fingers of one hand and still have two fingers spare.

And I don't believe that anyone has ever lost directly for me to gain.

If you treat others as you expect to be treated but importantly, if you don't accept being walked over as a simple fact of life then you will succeed. And you can be proud knowing you have integrity.

Doozergirl

Londonsu wrote: »

then and only then will I consider giving any money away, that do you? or is the spectre of poverty just selfishness in your eyes.

I suspect this thread will end up locked but honestly, it wasn't giving money away. It would have been offering back what someone lost as a result of what you did.

If you'd looked at it a different way, paying them back what they'd spent and accepting that you might need to do that at the start, you could have considered it an insurance policy - that for the price of their expenses ( a lot less than £10k), you would get a sale when you needed it most.

Yes, I'm sure it's tough for you but you treated someone quite badly and all you keep talking about is you - and all the fluff around you. You haven't written anything to acknowledge them or how they might feel. Just that your solicitor said they were wrong. I'd feel better if you said you actually felt really bad but that you didn't have the money to give.

And I'm genuinely sorry if you're upset by a lot of the comments. Because I don't really like to see people feeling bad, but I feel quite passionate about doing right by people and can imagine that if people can't see what they did wrong in the first place, they probably won't see it later either. So I will stop because it makes me sad that you'd rather present yourself to us here as being pathetic and hopeless than even acknowledge that you knowingly cost someone else money to help yourself - even regardless of whether you feel able to give them any financial recompense.

You could have walked away a few months ago perhaps a little less well off (but with a lot more than you would have had from those buyers) and your head held high.

Londonsu

Thanks for that, as we are trying to live on 1.5k a month what they want equates to 3 months money so would you gave 3 months salary to someone just because you feel sorry for them, I bet its not 3 months salary to them or they wouldnt have got a mortgage


If I had just sold my flat to make a huge profit I might feel differently but I need my money to live on if that makes me pathetic well thats your opinion, I just hope that you dont find yourself unemployed in middleage, if I had the money to spare I might have felt differently but I dont have it and all the sympathy in the world, all the name calling in the world wont make the situation any different.

I am writing a very polite letter telling them that we do not have the money, if our situation changes and we have money coming in then we will pay for their survey.

Doozergirl

I did say I'd stop posting but I am most definitely not calling you names at all. In the quite literal sense, not me insulting you, you are being pathetic; trying to make us pity you.
pathetic "causing or evoking pity, sympathetic sadness, sorrow, etc.; pitiful; pitiable: a pathetic letter; a pathetic sight"

And again. It's not because you feel sorry for them. I feel sorry for them - I'm not giving them the money; so no I wouldn't pay someone just because I felt sorry for them. Their loss was caused directly by your actions. So would I pay someone who lost money because of my actions? Yes I would.

And again. I'm not even beginning to suggest you give them £5000. I think you should have given them their out of pocket expensesout of fairness.

You ignore many, many points, pick out what it suites you to argue with and then feed us another line about how pathetic you are. (again, not calling names, describing how we should pity you). My five year old does stuff like that.

You know, £1500 is not a small amount of money for a couple with no mortgage and a modest sized house to live on. Perhaps if you are determined to budget and genuinely concerned for your future you should tighten your belts a bit more. The 'debt free wannabe' forum may not be quite the right term for you but the people there know every way to painlessly cut expenditure as well as the painful ways.

minnie123

1.5k a month with no mortgage to pay is far far from the poverty line and you should pay their survey costs.

new_home_owner_3

If it was me i would try and pay them at least the amount i had cost them especially with the way you have treated them.

And if i had treated someone like you have i would be looking over my shoulder all the time, just think when you leave the house they will know your out, if you have cars whenever your out you will be worrying where you park, i think if they never knew where you lived you wouldnt care.

I think you will be twitching them curtains, for a few weeks, i just hope you can sleep at night.

Maybe they will just walk away and leave it but they seem to have gone to a lot of trouble to find you.

Any way good luck in your new home;)

new_home_owner_3

Londonsu wrote: »

I am writing a very polite letter telling them that we do not have the money, if our situation changes and we have money coming in then we will pay for their survey.

Its just a shame you wasnt polite enough to tell them you was selling to someone else who had treated you like crap previously..

Your full of !!!!!!, just hope everything stays nice for you....

RX-78

The OP reminds me of a burgler I once saw - he tried to justify robbing people because he was poor and couldn't afford the food/rent/etc. He also blamed his modest birth, bad up bringing and the society that allowed the rich to get richer. It was never his fault - it was the society that was wrong. And of course the rich people didn't mind being robbed because they could easily replace the goods.

The very fact the OP has posted here and feels she needs to further justify with a sob story (despite already being reassured by her solicitor) reflects her actual thought process - she herself knows she has done wrong but is looking for sympathetic opinions to prop her already fragile moral........

jonewer

amilieval wrote: »

Tell them that you are going to report them to the police for haressment (I hope you keept the letter). .

Its not harrassment to send someone a letter.

As to the OP, that was a really sh!ty thing you did. Have you any idea how much upset this causes?

Yes, its a business deal but these are ordinary people you are f*cking over, not tesco.