What am i entitled to?

Oldernotwiser

littlediscofish wrote: »

Yes it is a reward and I appreciate that many mums don't get the chance to do this, however I simply meant that in doing this I have given up my own income and to live off my partner is extremely hard and causes friction with us. We do suffer financially because of this decision but that was a sacrafice I thought I was prepared to make for the good of our children, however now I am doing it I am finding it harder than I realised I would, which is why I would like to know if I take on a job part time, will the tax credits I recieve be stopped or would I get some sort of top up, as I don't see the point in sending my baby to a childminder 3 days a week so I can be in the same, or worse, financial situation that I am in now. Advice was all I was looking for.

Why not get a job for a couple of evenings a week when your husband is available to look afterthe children?

bunny999

sh1305 wrote: »

Yes you can:
By drinking in the pub, you're also lining the governments' pockets with the tax money they take from you.

I know. I am also helping the distressed pub trade, so when do I get my reward ?

Oldernotwiser

bunny999 wrote: »

I know. I am also helping the distressed pub trade, so when do I get my reward ?

Heaven????

littlediscofish

What a ridiculous argument, I'm not suggesting I should be paid to bring up my children, just simply asking a question, if you have no helpful advice, why even waste your time, perhaps all the passion fruit has made you bitter welshwoofs. I don't want handouts, just a little acknowledgement for the job I do would be nice, if the government would be willing to pay my childminder 80% of the costs, why is there not a little help for us mums to work part time so we can also spend these precious years with our children without it crippling us! Most of us want to work to keep our identity, but leaving a 4 month old baby with a stranger for 40 hours a week is not something that appeals to me personally.

Indie_Kid

littlediscofish wrote: »

What a ridiculous argument, I'm not suggesting I should be paid to bring up my children, just simply asking a question, if you have no helpful advice, why even waste your time, perhaps all the passion fruit has made you bitter welshwoofs. I don't want handouts, just a little acknowledgement for the job I do would be nice, if the government would be willing to pay my childminder 80% of the costs, why is there not a little help for us mums to work part time so we can also spend these precious years with our children without it crippling us! Most of us want to work to keep our identity, but leaving a 4 month old baby with a stranger for 40 hours a week is not something that appeals to me personally.

You only need (both if a couple) to work 16 hours per week to get help with child care costs.

I don't understand why you expect the government to pay you to stay at home? You chose to do that and you chose to have kids.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

littlediscofish wrote: »

Yes it is a reward and I appreciate that many mums don't get the chance to do this, however I simply meant that in doing this I have given up my own income and to live off my partner is extremely hard and causes friction with us. We do suffer financially because of this decision but that was a sacrafice I thought I was prepared to make for the good of our children, however now I am doing it I am finding it harder than I realised I would, which is why I would like to know if I take on a job part time, will the tax credits I recieve be stopped or would I get some sort of top up, as I don't see the point in sending my baby to a childminder 3 days a week so I can be in the same, or worse, financial situation that I am in now. Advice was all I was looking for.

You are a family, your partner has to support you financially, after all aren't they his children you are giving up your job to look after.

Welshwoofs

littlediscofish wrote: »

What a ridiculous argument, I'm not suggesting I should be paid to bring up my children, just simply asking a question, if you have no helpful advice, why even waste your time, perhaps all the passion fruit has made you bitter welshwoofs.

I gave you the link to entitledto.com and suggested you experiment with your circumstances to see what benefits/credits you'd receive.

What other advice were you after? As I've already said, you haven't given your partner's income so nobody can tell you exactly what you'd be entitled to!

littlediscofish

sh1305 wrote: »

You only need (both if a couple) to work 16 hours per week to get help with child care costs.

I don't understand why you expect the government to pay you to stay at home? You chose to do that and you chose to have kids.

I don't expect the government to pay me to stay home, I just wondered if, as working tax credits are available, I would benefit from them if I worked part time.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

littlediscofish wrote: »

I don't expect the government to pay me to stay home, I just wondered if, as working tax credits are available, I would benefit from them if I worked part time.

It all depends on income & as you haven't stated the household income no one can tell you.

Jomo

At the end of the day it is a choice to have children and if you are the type of person that would insist on spending all that time with your child then that is also your choice but only if you can afford to do it.

If you can't afford to be a STAH mum then why should the state pay? (Ultimately the taxpayer). Someone has already mentioned that you are a family unit and your partner shouldn't begrudge supporting you, especially if that is what you have both agreed will happen.

You chose to give up your job so one can only assume that you at least roughly worked out whether it would be affordable to do so?