DIY Divorce

Foodhoarder

Hi All,
I just wanted to make my first post on here realy and share my experience.

I have managed to get my behind into gear and finally do something about my sham marriage! Not having a great deal of money behind me I decided to complete my own divorce proceedings papers and sent them to court.

So far, i sent off the £300 and i have recieved notification that the papers are with the court (sent via recorded delivery royal mail.)

My personal situation is that my ex and i have a son who lives with me, we have flexi child contact between us and had no property/money to spilt.

The process was not that difficult and I found i was able to access the papers i needed- what i did have problems with was putting down my reasons for divorce in a few sentances without going off on one!

Corvus

Hi Foodhoarder, I'd be interested to see how this goes for you.

Well done so far, and good luck to you.

Gloomendoom

Foodhoarder wrote: »

what i did have problems with was putting down my reasons for divorce in a few sentances without going off on one!

My ex and I did a DIY divorce. That was exactly the problem she had too!

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I remember my mother, when she was getting divorced many years ago said her solicitor asked for examples of my father's behaviour (divorce was on grounds of unreasonable behaviour). Apparently he expected just a page or two.., she sent 12 pages lol. My mother was not a woman to be crossed he he!

Foodhoarder

So, an update on the proceedings.

I have been to the court and swore the afidavit- that saved me going to a solicitor and paying them to do that. I should hear from the court about the date for the hearing in the next two weeks. After that time i will get my Nisi.

There did not appear to be any problem with the reasoning. I was quite revealing in my evidence- for those interested, he is now with a man- which most would agree reason enough to want out of a relationship!

xmaslolly76

Foodhoarder i hope everything goes smoothly for you and yes i can see how being with a man would be deemed unreasonable behaviour within a marriage.

Gloomendoom

Foodhoarder wrote: »

There did not appear to be any problem with the reasoning. I was quite revealing in my evidence- for those interested, he is now with a man- which most would agree reason enough to want out of a relationship!

:eek: Well done. When we did it (my ex and I), it was all very straightforward, we shared all the costs, and we both remained on good terms.

Foodhoarder

Well, the court date is now set, so after that, is it all plain sailing? I know there is another form to fill out and another amount to pay (£40?) Then its all done...

I wont ever put myself in this situation again.

mookiandco

You seem to have got the date for Decree Nisi. You will be sent the Decree Nisi and then 6 weeks (and 1 day!) after that you can apply for Decree Absolute. You just complete the application and send off your £40.00 to the Court. They will take a couple of weeks to process it and you will then be sent you Decree Absolute.

Foodhoarder

Thanks mookiandco.
I dont know why, but i just feel lousy about all this. Like a total failure. Even though i have been 'strong' and done all this myself, hasn't helped me to feel any more incontrol.

I know it is normal to feel like this after finding out the man you thought you would spend the rest of your life with is gay.

NAR

Foodhoarder wrote: »

Thanks mookiandco.
I dont know why, but i just feel lousy about all this. Like a total failure. Even though i have been 'strong' and done all this myself, hasn't helped me to feel any more incontrol.
I know it is normal to feel like this after finding out the man you thought you would spend the rest of your life with is gay.

What were you supposed to do - change him back? Don't feel lousy or a failure; he is the one who should feel like that for not being truthful to his sexuality and instead dragging you through a sham marriage.