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my otherhalf is have counselling and has not told me
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It wasn't meant as harsh - it was meant as he went to a counsellor because he needed help with something that the OP couldn't deal with, or didn't want her to deal with. He would then keep it secret because he expected the reaction 'you've betrayed me!'.I could dream to wide extremes, I could do or die: I could yawn and be withdrawn and watch the world go by.Yup you are officially Rock n Roll
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It's not fair to speculate and certainly not fair to imply that it has anything to do with the OP, who has done nothing wrong by indicating that she's upset by discovering something secret about her partner. Sounds like a completely normal reaction to me. I'd be a bit hurt, but I'd also accept that it's my problem, not my husband's, which is exactly how the OP is proceding.
Maybe give her a break?May all your dots fall silently to the ground.0 -
I didn't mean he needed counselling about her, but that he needed to see a counsellor because he felt he couldn't handle things alone and it was secret because he anticipated the OP's reaction to be about betrayal rather than the matter itself.I could dream to wide extremes, I could do or die: I could yawn and be withdrawn and watch the world go by.Yup you are officially Rock n Roll0
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I have to say my first reaction would also be 'OMG is he talking about ME? US???' before good sense prevailed again. It's a normal human reaction to worry about stuff like that. Feeling it isn't a problem, it's just what you do with those feelings afterwards. Sounds like you have it sussed OP
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Hi studentgirl
Im must say I think I would have had the same reaction if my HUSBAND (not partner - as some people have said) was having councelling and I wasnt aware of it. I have been with my DH for 16 years and I would be very upset that he felt he couldnt talk to me about a problem he might have. I feel for you.
Do you have any idea what it could be about? Are you pretty open with each other usually or are there aspects of your lives that are kept seperate? I know my views differ from many of the comments received but I would have to comfront my DH as the worry would kill me.
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JoJo that was very harsh.
I would feel very hurt in this situation as my OH and I are best friends and there is nothing that i do not tell him
Yes I am sure that his reasons are very valid and probably in her interest but i think it is only natural to feel hurt when someone that you love acts in a way that shocks or surprises you.:silenced:They Were Up In Arms wrote: »I think tabskitten is a crying, walking, sleeping, talking, living troll :cool:0
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