New Bf Birthday - Protocol!

borokat

I would stick to your plan - you don't want to seem overbearing. I think it is more likely that he would be freaked out by you going OTT than disappointed by you not getting him anything, IYSWIM.
Play it cool!

LeeSouthEast

As a bloke, a card and a small thoughtful gift (or a nice day out, but not both) would be more than sufficient!

Pee

If you were going out when it was your birthday, you should do just the same as he did.

If you weren't, then it's trickier.

In my experience, most men are not bothered about cards or presents and the night out sounds like fun.

Steel_2

I wouldn't do a whole day out and a meal.

That to me is OTT for someone you've only been dating a few weeks. It's still early days. Keep it to a card and a simple gift if you must get him a gift. What about something small and quirky for a tenner from here. Most guys I know love this place.

If you're still together next year you can always go OTT on each other then.

By the way, aftershave isn't a small gift and it's quite personal, as if you're putting your 'smell' on him. Like you're marking your territory.

Artytarty

Aw! I was looking forward to that link but its no worky!

slightlyconfused1

Hi

If it was me, I would take him out for dinner and give him a small (not very personal) gift.

As you are "officially" now going out together I think you should give him a gift but judge how much to spend by the nature of your dates. If he normally spends a fortune taking you out, then a more expensive gift is indicated than if you have low key evenings out.

It also depends how serious your relationship is. My DH and I were serious about each other from the beginning, my friend and his OH took two years to officially become a couple. He would have gone running for the hills if she had given him an expensive or personal present after a few weeks.

lepetit

Exactly sightlconfused1 it totally depends on how 'official' your relatiomship is.

The first real gift I gave my now fiance was 7 months after we started going out and that was for his birthday and we'd said I love you and all that jazz.
I would think if you are still the early stages that are very cute btw, then a day out where you pay is sufficient but sexy undiewear for the bedroom is extra and definately a step in the right direction.
Surprising a man with sexy undiewear is always a winner and like many have already said a gift, probably the best one he'll get on the day.

Gingham_Ribbon

alipops1986 wrote: »

eek!

This is a tricky one, i'm SO confused as to what to do!

Half of me thinks, day out and meal. Other half of me is thinking, perhaps i should get him something small, like aftershave!

:eek: Seriously tricky predicament, that he didn't have to deal with for my bday! lol.

In my opinion, aftershave isn't something small! A card and a bar of chocolate is something small. Aftershave, days out and other things that are a bit more expensive and thoughtful are usually for when you're sure you're both on the same page.

If you're still at the very early stages, I'd do something small to let him know I was thinking about him, but that's all.

NAR

alipops if he's keen on you it will be your company he wants for the day, not a present. Go and enjoy yourselves.

Ivrytwr3

woody01 wrote: »

A Lap Dance?
It would go down really well

And if you could go down after the lap dance that would be even better!