Feel like I'm trapped - don't know what to do!!

Oldernotwiser

rcoo80 wrote: »

relocating to be closer to my family is my main priority, along with ensuring I secure a job before I relocate.

As long as you keep this second point to the forefront of your mind you'll be fine; you can't help your family with no income.

cali_

Tell your manager so she can have good notice to find someone to replace you. And so that you can help show the new comers the ropes with her. If you leave it too late, you will not do her or youself any favours.

piggeh

The company has long enough to recruit people to fill the vacancies and as you said, your priorities are to live closer to your family, so that has to come above your guilt about leaving.

Your manager has been given the responsibility of management because others clearly feel she can 'manage', and that includes handling staff leaving, no matter how good they are.

star69_2

Hi

the company would not give a second though to getting rid of you if they had too, you have worked hard for them, however your life is not that job and you know that. Just do what you need to do , get closer to your family, sod the job!! I have stayed in jobs I hated and made myself ill doing it, you can get another job , you don't get another life!!

be brave, do what you know is right for you.:j

shaven-monkey

never be irreplacable, it means you can't be promoted.
What happens if your manager offers you more money to stay?

getmore4less

You have decided to move and have a hard deadline of the flat lease ending.

When does the OH start his new job?

So you have two main choices

Give extended notice now.
Wait till the last day to give notice so you leave on the day you want.
(note: notice starts the day after you give it so to give 4 weeks notice to leave on a friday you have to give notice on or before the Friday)

If you are sure that the boss won't get rid of you I think I would give extended notice and help with the recruitment of 3 new people rather than 2.

Chinkle

Obviously the priority is to be near your family. Are you moving in with them? If not, without a job how will you afford to rent somewhere?

By all means give notice on your flat, in the meantime continue your job hunt and keep quiet about your intentions to your manager. If, come June, you still don't have a job back "home" then put your stuff in storage and go stay in a local guesthouse.

Once you have a new job, hand in your notice and away you go. Chances are by then your manager will have two new employees in post anyway, so less guilt on your part.

At the moment its much easier to fill a job than find one so I don't think you should move until you have that job secured back "home".

Slinky

Just a thought about the flat lease, are you sure you are 'signing' for another 12 months or are you assuming that coming to the end of a year, you will be expected to sign for another year. When we rented our house out, we rented it out for 6 months, and after that it went onto an 'assured short term tenancy' (I think the term is called), where effectively we had to give the tennants 2 months notice if we wanted them to go, or they had to give us one month's notice.

Try checking out what the terms of your lease are, if this is the thing pushing you into leaving your job with nothing to go to.

getmore4less

good point look at going periodic on the tenancy

rcoo80

Thank you so much for all your replies and advice. Just to keep you updated I told my manager today..I asked to have a word with her and explained the situation and basically said what I've said on here - that I feel trapped and I dont know what to do etc. And guess what?? Its all OK!! She said not to worry, she's said she'll be sorry to see me go but that's what happens in an office, people move on and as a manager she has to deal with that. I'm in the lucky position that I can stay until I find another job and my lease terminates on my flat. So I can now breath a big sigh of relief!! Apart from the difficult bit has only just begun....finding another job!!

Thanks again for all your responses