From Trash to Cash: the Dribbling never ends

nixinixi

Awww Jo - unlike you. If you need to chat you know where I am.

Well just made my DD some toast and she has fallen asleep.....half birthdays - now there is an idea!!

MummyandPaige

Hoping MiniNixi is feeling better today, kids are remarkable creatures who get better so much quicker than us! Have the bucket ready just in case though!

Jo - is the sun shining? Always works for me. Getting out in the garden may make you feel happier, exciting plans are only exciting if you don't do them all the time, take a chill day, indulge in something you just want to do.

Way to fill up an Inbox btw! Got you all written down, thankyou!

Swap you your powercut for the road works that have just parked outside my front door, up on the kerb, so close that I can't get the buggy out the gate

I must be mad, the bloke who I got the book off has just put 100 boxes of them on Freecycle, looks like he can't be bothered with EBay anymore, they are free.......NO, NO, NO

hmmmm, we will see how the tweeking of the flylady goes, ok so my house could do with the extra cleaning, but I also have lots of other stuff to do too, as always! Plus, I still have the paint to do DD1s bedroom at the weekend.

Question. I am currently using the spare room for stock (mainly books ), but DD2 is getting to the age where she could maybe move out of our room and into her own. This house has 2 large double rooms and one that you could maybe, if you were lcuky fit a single bed in and nothing else (the spare). Do I give DD2 the small spare room, or do I put her in with DD1 in the large double? She would have more room if she shared, but I feel guilty living in a 3 bed house and making them share.

jo70mo

Thanks Nixi, think I am just feeling a bit frustrated with myself and also feeling our complete lack of money.
also DH was great with the kids during the holidays when I was working. took them on allsorts of adventures and I think I am feeling a bit inadequate.
oh and house is a tip.
Think thats about it.
Jo x

mambury

jo70mo wrote: »

saw a blogpost somewhere where they celebrated half birthdays with a cake and some little homemade presents I think.
Jo x

I am planning to do just that this year for DD as her birthday is New Years Eve!

JO - big hugs!!

I did post earlier but it seems to have dissapeared and I can't be bothered to type it all out again!

So Hello to all, kicks and hugs to all that need it!

M&P - I am PM'ing you now....

jo70mo

would go with thesharing for now and then if as they get a bit older it beconmes a problem you can always rethink and stock levels may be different by then.
Our kids often end up in our bed anyway and both put up with sharing cos they like the feeling of someone else being in the room with them at night.
Think it really becomes a problem when kids start needing private space but thats usually an older age. think its a bit of a myth that kids need their own rooms at a young age. fine if you have the space and it works but otherwise kids are kind of hardwired to want to be near others when they are sleeping so I don't think it deprives them of anything if they share a room.
only prob may be that when one wakes the other might get woken up but think that can happen with separate rooms too.
Jo x

jo70mo

Thanks Mambury.
Jo x

nixinixi

MummyandPaige wrote: »

Hoping MiniNixi is feeling better today, kids are remarkable creatures who get better so much quicker than us! Have the bucket ready just in case though!

Jo - is the sun shining? Always works for me. Getting out in the garden may make you feel happier, exciting plans are only exciting if you don't do them all the time, take a chill day, indulge in something you just want to do.

Way to fill up an Inbox btw! Got you all written down, thankyou!

Swap you your powercut for the road works that have just parked outside my front door, up on the kerb, so close that I can't get the buggy out the gate

I must be mad, the bloke who I got the book off has just put 100 boxes of them on Freecycle, looks like he can't be bothered with EBay anymore, they are free.......NO, NO, NO

hmmmm, we will see how the tweeking of the flylady goes, ok so my house could do with the extra cleaning, but I also have lots of other stuff to do too, as always! Plus, I still have the paint to do DD1s bedroom at the weekend.

Question. I am currently using the spare room for stock (mainly books ), but DD2 is getting to the age where she could maybe move out of our room and into her own. This house has 2 large double rooms and one that you could maybe, if you were lcuky fit a single bed in and nothing else (the spare). Do I give DD2 the small spare room, or do I put her in with DD1 in the large double? She would have more room if she shared, but I feel guilty living in a 3 bed house and making them share.

WHere does he get the books from???? Could he supply you regularly and you could runa second hand book stall somewhere??

From what you have said I would consider sharing - then ou can use the spare room as your stock room, DD2 will have more room, but will DD1 be happy to share? If it doesn't work you can always reconsider!

jo70mo wrote: »

Thanks Nixi, think I am just feeling a bit frustrated with myself and also feeling our complete lack of money.
also DH was great with the kids during the holidays when I was working. took them on allsorts of adventures and I think I am feeling a bit inadequate.
oh and house is a tip.
Think thats about it.
Jo x

Hugs Jo. OH's get all the best bits lol! I end up thinking I have 3 children not 2, as I always seem to be telling him off too.....but I am just grateful taht their dad wants to play with them and have fun, though when it is at bedtime I do get a bit cross! But all ways seem to be the bad guy...it does get tough but your kids know you love them. You are def. inadequate - you just have lots more to do, it takes a lot of time to be adventourous and if you are doing that who is preparing tea, washing the clothes etc etc Life gets in the way!! Lack of money is tough and it is hard to think of things to do which don't cost much - and if you are like me you try and make sure you don't spend much during term time on activities but at holidays you do a little which also makes them seem much more exciting! I haven't got your way with words but you will be fine, I think these moments are sent to test us and make us refocus our energys where they are needed. The sun is shining - mabe a walk would help clear your mind and refresh you? It is so easy to get bogged down with everything.... How is your challenge going anyway?

If you want some books to sell MummyP knows where there ae some going!!!!! :rotfl:

Quick thought but would Amber be interested in those books? Mind you they have prob. gone by now!

cagneuk

Morning everyone,

Hope everyone is good and well.

Babymoo, so glad to hear from you, welcome back.

Well it's a beautiful sunny day here on tyneside and I'm stuck in the office staring out of the giant windows at the greenery outside.

I've just found out that the CSA I'm paying for my eldest can be reduced now that my wife and I have DS but I feel bad about it so not sure if I should ask them to reassess or not. I know I give my eldest cash & presents on top of the csa I pay, and I know the csa goes to the government rather than straight to her but I don't want to feel as if I'm contributing less to her. Does that make sense?

After 2 weeks off work, I have loads to catch up with so I must crack on as it's coming up to annual review time, my blog has sort of fallen by the wayside but hoping to get something added this week and I've just sorted a sale of some more piggins out via my work's classifieds so I have now passed £120 in my challenge, Whoop!!

jo70mo

Thanks Nixi,
I think what I need to do is just start doing! instead of feeling c**p that I don't want to wash up or tidy up. will be much nicer for us all when its done.problem is DH is better at the domesticated stuff than me but even he didn't manage to get much tidying done while I was at work so not too bad I guess.
anyone know a quick easy recipe for making own bread that doesn't take hours to do?
Jo x

MummyandPaige

Jo - don't feel inadequate. You are a constant and DH is a novelty. If DH had the kids all the time, he wouldn't be doing all the fun stuff all the time. He was probably just enjoying what little time he got ot spend with them. You have to remember that, you are with them all the time, and if you did something special like that everyday with them ,then the fun wouldn't be there, they would be spoilt. Oh is the same, if he has a day off, it is always swimming, the fayre the beach or something else, and yes DD looks forward to it, but if we did it everyday with her, it wouldn't be fun, it would just be another day. The way I see it is, if she wants a drink, dinner, a bath or a cuddle, she knows I am always here and that is equally important, OH doesn't get a look in on all of that as he is always at work. We can't be everything to our kids, we have to accept that others play a part, but we must never forget that the part that we play is important and special.

There how did I do on the reasoning advice?

re the house.....pfft, bet you mine is worse