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NorthernLas

SWB - Sorry, it was only a metaphorical slap ... 'more of a loud !!!!!! FW you are inspire so many people here and over on the dark side we do not need you having regrets'

And I am a very fortunate soul since I leave for India on Tues (positive thoughts for the Indian Consulate returning my passport and granting a visa for me tomorrow) ... I shall take pictures of the foothills so that you can add them to your dream board...

NL x

elantan

Ohhhhh NL that sounds like heaven to me .. Have fun

savingwannabe

NorthernLas what a lovely person you are! Have a great time in India. My family are from the Punjab so i know that area but that's it really. It is jolly hot but the colours and environment and people are amazing. Do have a fab time.

Firewalker

NorthernLas wrote: »

SWB - Sorry, it was only a metaphorical slap ... 'more of a loud !!!!!! FW you are inspire so many people here and over on the dark side we do not need you having regrets'

And I am a very fortunate soul since I leave for India on Tues (positive thoughts for the Indian Consulate returning my passport and granting a visa for me tomorrow) ... I shall take pictures of the foothills so that you can add them to your dream board...

NL x

Have a great time and let us know about it when back.

Firewalker

gilligansyle

NorthernLas wrote: »

And I am a very fortunate soul since I leave for India on Tues (positive thoughts for the Indian Consulate returning my passport and granting a visa for me tomorrow) ... I shall take pictures of the foothills so that you can add them to your dream board...

NL x

Have a lovely time.

FW - have been happily reading your blog, and then I found cheri's too, so have had a lovely afternoon.

Lara44

I loved the marble story, thank you Cheri. I was thinking a lot about regrets too. For the first time since I left school I am happy with the life that I have. This seems to be due to some good luck and some good crafting, for want of a better word. The idea that life both happens to you, and that part of it is built, or crafted.

I am going for education and doing some things really challenging to me. These I think are both very positive in themselves. Luxuries really, to not have to do full-time work. The first MG threads and this one have been very important for my personal evolution, and have enabled me to meet these challenges. Especially the positive thinking. I feel it has made life so much easier. Before I would have crafted some problems, and really made them big and laid out their terrible consequences. I used the elastic band techniques and some affirmations and it has broken the habit (for the most part, as I always stress about exams). Now these problems are just questions, held open until such a time as they can be solved. Changing me, has changed things a lot and also improved relationships.

The things I will regret are the spontaneous things, like just enjoying time with my OH. Something to work on

Firewalker

Yesterday we went to the park to play tennis. While trying to return Little Boy’s devastating backhand I noticed a guy walking around. He obviously had a stroke not that long ago so he was walking with difficulty, making the small jerky movements of people whose one side is paralysed. The guy was walking around a patch of grass that was no more than 40 m long and 20 m wide but it seemed to be his Golgotha. He walked for more than 30 min - up and down the fence of the courts and around the grass.
I was watching him thinking that this is somebody who always had something to fight for. Now he was fighting for his recovery and his ability to walk. Was it hard? Sure it was. Could he keep up? No he couldn't! But he kept on; and that is what matters. It doesn't matter whether it is about recovering one’s health, about paying off one’s negative wealth, or about making one's fortune. The important thing is not to keep up but to keep on.
I also worked out some numbers. There are 311 weekends till Little Boy is 16; I have decided to spend most of these weekends doing at least one fun thing with him. I will print out a table with 310 cells (this weekend I am away) and use it to plan in advance what we shall be doing.
Assuming I am fit, relatively speaking, till I'm 75 I have 1378 weekends; 27 summers and 26 winters. Not that many is it? It suddenly seems urgent to get on with working out the list of possible regrets and make sure that there is not much attack would regret not doing.
Now it is time to relax a bit – I have been working on a paper flat out. Even had nightmares about getting to the workshop, getting up and realising that I have not finished my paper and I have completely forgotten to prepare a presentation. Woke up in the middle of the night having palpitations and covered in cold sweat. Not likely but we are talking sub-consciousness here; my ‘it’ is not holding up very well, Freud would have said.
Good night and sleep well.
Firewalker

NorthernLas

Just to let you all know ... the consulate have been kind and 'I shall go to the ball' (via Helsinki as planned). Thanks for all of your good wishes.

And on Wed I believe there is a small matter of a cricket match to be played (just India and Pakistan in the semi-final). I only 'watch' cricket on the radio (I like to hear the conversations about fruit cake when play is dull), so it will be interesting to see how excited everyone gets. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Exciting adventurous tales coming soon :T:T:T

Marru

NL - if you need to know any Finnish words just ask

Karmacat

Morning - sorry to hear you were having a nightmare about it all, FW. That concept of counting out the weekends and the years is tremendous. I think I'll go to 85 with it, as that kind of health is dependent on the matrilineal line - my maternal grandmother lived till she was 93, and at 85 my mother is still taking trains up and down the country, though she's getting very tired and we can see that finishing. So till I'm 85, I have 29 summers, 28 winters, and 1496 weekends.... oh my word.

I'll make them count.