Where would i stand?

TonyMMM

MissMotivation wrote: »

No such thing as "common-law husband/wife" anymore.

There never was (unless you are in Scotland).

BitterAndTwisted

The first thing you need to do is establish exactly what that "something" you signed was because if the house is in his name only you probably own nothing.. Then you should calculate what your expenditure on the house (excluding any bills) was as a proportion of any mortgage payments made. It could be that the £7k paid out is less than 50% of two year's worth of mortgage payments, so in fact you could have contributed little or nothing, especially if the property is worth less now than it was two years ago.

Look at it this way: what might two years rent have cost you if you'd lived elsewhere on your own? You might come out with nothing and I suspect it will all come down to your negotiation skills and your powers of persuasion so I would advise you to try and appear reasonable in your demands.

chewmylegoff

you need a solicitor to assess the situation, and then if you do have some sort of claim over the property you'll need to pay the solicitor more in order to exercise your claim. unless you think the property is worth significantly more than it was 2 years ago, there's probably little point to pursuing a claim given the risk you'll have to take in terms of legal costs.

puddy

i dont see how bills would count as contribution because they are your bills too arent they, you also used the gas, electic, water and phone etc

you might have some point about the patio and decoration but even then, you had the use of those things, so why would you be reinbursed for them

if you choose to move on, thats your choice, you have to start again, or in hindsight, you should have ensured that you owned the house jointly so that if you move on, you are entitled to something, but i suspect that you didnt go on the mortgage because you were unable to contribute and thats the problem, you couldnt, so you didnt, so you cant ask for anything out of it

i can understand you're feeling angry at your partner for his infidelity (if thats what it was) but move on

Gwhiz

shane42 wrote: »

they been paying bills together, its a common in law situation, she has contributed

It's always a good idea to actually know what you are talking about before posting!

olias

£7000 over 2 years is less than £300 pm. How are you saying you could have remained renting for less than that? TBH, I think the best you can hope for is to remain amicable, hope that he is reasonable and perhaps pays for a deposit and the first few months rent for you. AFAIK you are not entitled to anything.

Olias

poppysarah

Take the patio with you.
Take the wallpaper with you.

It might take time and effort but send him away for a weekend with his mates and let him come home to a changed house.


Obviously make sure you can prove you are only taking what you've paid for.

silvercar

I cant work as i'm disabled,

It may be that, had OP lived on her own she would have received HB or LHA, so would never be in a situation where she has to pay her own rent. So she hasn't saved herself any money by living with her soon-to-be-ex, but has actually saved the taxpayer money by living with the ex rather than claiming benefit.

Milliewilly

louisebt wrote: »

I didnt say i've paid nothing, i pay towards some bills, water, gas, electric, i paid to decorate the house, and i decorated it, mostly alone... i paid to have the garden done, i paid for the blinds, curtains, soft furnishings...

I cant work as i'm disabled, i'm certainly not a sponger.... i dont pay towards the mortgage but I certainly dont want 'to live rent free' and i certainly dont live here for 'free' ....... what i would like is some of what i've put into this place back.... i lost both my grand mothers last year, they left me some cash which was ALL spent on the house, approx 7k in all, so i'd think i'm entitled to some back dont you?????

How did you decorate the house mostly alone if you are so disabled you can't work??? I take it you are on benefits - did you declare your £7K inheritance to them?

louisebt

I did indeed have both council tax and housing benefit before moving in here, i paid a small part of my rent....

As for disabilities, my disabilities arent all physical..... maybe worth checking wikapedia for the definition of disabled ;-)..... and the money i had was indeed declared... im not THAT stupid!

I did put down part of the deposit of this place, thinking back I still have the reciepts for that.... and yes he has done wrong which is why i'm looking to move...

Why should he do the dirty and get away with it?... if i'd done it i would indeed walk away, but i didnt... so why should i lose out?... this is meant to be my home too!