Will I ever get over this?

GoingForBroke

You people are all amazing! Thank you so much for your help. If anything, just posting today has made me feel a little bit clearer about my situation.

Skylight, I think I know what you mean. I have turned the BR into a monster that totally dominates my life. It's so hard to think about anything else.

I'll make an appointment as soon as I can....

So Sad Angel thanks again!

stleonardsc

Dear GFB I am going to use a phrase so don't shout at me . "I Feel Your Pain".

My story is alot more complicated than yours but dealing with DEPRESSION is a must!!.
It is EVIL and strikes you when you cannot deal with the most common of daily things.
I have no solutions for you as I at this time still sit in a flat on my own on BENEFIT wanting to talk just to pass the time of day. Go to the local shop and walk with my head down as i feel sometimes worthless.

You must see your Doctor if you have a Group Practice then see one if they don't rock your boat see another, Doctors are very very individual people, yes they are normal Human beings but they some time forget. Hoping you see a Doc try to get a morning appointment as they are fresh, and have not spent 50 mins dealing with a BUNION.

I will stop now but as others have said come back to here if you feel down and if not myself i'am sure some one will lend an ear.

For you and I hope your small journey ahead some will have been there before so you are and never will be the first or the last . But all that matters at this point in time is YOU!!

Take Care:)

Chris

lilibet1

Hi

Please try and speak to your GP. I suffer with terrible anxiety which is making the BR process very difficult for me. I have never suffered from depression as such but i can feel how much your struggling. Its not worth feeling like this (easier said than done i know) please try to put this difficult time behind you and move into the future taking whichever help you need.

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blind-as-a-bat_2

BR may 2007, nearly my 3rd aniversary

I did not feel much better until i read i had got ED, , still have the odd days, but my situation is differant, i have a situation that wont let me let go fully yet, as it look likes we have to go through it again for my OH, and that seems to be just as bad as doing myself. But putting that aside and just looking at it personaly, yes it gets better, a lot better.

skibadee

I can empathsise with how you feel regarding depression....having suffered from that and anxiety for 6 yrs.
I declared BR in September last year....to me it was a big relief.... yes I regret getting into that situation... but I did and now I'm out of it. Though I realise not everyone deals with having to declare BR such as I did...[ though after having been diagnosed with cancer 6 yrs ago...I was of the mind BR could not be anyways as hard as that ]

Please go and talk to your GP, if your feeling the need to ring the Samaritans you really do need help....you will not be classed as having ' mental health issues'.....just a normal person...who's been through a tough time...who's body is telling them its had enough and it and you need time out.

There is not the stigma attached to depression and anxiety that you might feel there is...it is more common than you realise.

Please take the advice others have given and seek help.

Classylady2010_2

Hi please dont despair, Ive pm'd you
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MicheH

Emotionally BR is so so draining. Somedays i'm fine, somedays it weighs a heavy burdon. I've been bankrupt for nearly 8 months now and yes it does get better.. the days in which you feel down get further apart but it still hits, the burdon is immense at times. There's times I can't bare to be remembered of what has happened and have needed a break from the forums - this is my first post in a while and in writing this i've sent myself back into my little 'negative feeling cave'

Bankruptcy in theory should be easy, so easy... it's the nice, honest decent people with a heart and a conscience that suffer because we beat ourselves up when nobody else is or cares!

I'm hoping AD will give me the closure i'm looking for.

Doucam

BR has been a hugely emotional experience for me as well, more so since BR date.

In the weeks leading up to it I felt fine, because I knew we had no choice, we were up to the limit on all the cards, over for some of them, we had no money in the bank, we were literally broke.

We went to court, and came out of there feeling numb, had the OR interview, which went fine, really lovely chap.

We have now been Br for nearly 4 months, and as each day goes by, I feel worse, I have started to question if it was the right thing to do, which is crazy as it really was, we could not have done anything else.

If I am honest we are better off now than we ever were, I am budgetting, and we are getting by, we are coping fine, my family have not suffered at all.

But I have, I feel a failure, I took the loans on, I paid them for 3 years, and then when we needed help, those companies basically told us where to go, it upset me, a lot, and it still does. I think that is why I have taken on so many campaigns, and get so angry over the little things.

Like Miche, i am hoping that discharge will give me closure.

GFB, I have said all this so that you know you are not alone, go and see your GP and see if they can help you xxxx

dancingfairy

Hi. I have not been bankrupt so can't help in that regard. But here's my view 1) the banks were falling over themselves to offer people credit 2) they collapsed and needed bailing out by us the taxpayer - did the directors personally suffer? did they loose sleep? probably not half as much stress and worry as you've been through.
No doubt you took the money in good faith? You did your best to pay it back? You asked for help from the banks? and now you've taken responsibilty for your mess and have taken a legal step (not lightly) knowing that it is the best thing to do.
The banks had their money out of you (and many others) and you have no doubt paid the price in terms of stress/depression.
I hope this gives you a bit of perspective and that you can forgive yourself and look after yourself. It does sound like some counselling may be of benefit though as well.
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lilibet1

Miche, i couldnt have put that better myself. Its the ones like you said that are decent etc that worry (me included) others dont care, so its says to me that Goingforbroke is a good person who just needs abit of TLC if you ask me.
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