Small Wedding...

bubbles0169

natc wrote: »

Mmmm yes a stately home would be nice, but too big for i think as id only like few guests there! Ideally, id like it to be just me and OH!!!!

you can get them with differing sized rooms so it can be as intimate as you want
yes you need to decide where your going lol
so you want your local church but you need to find the venue have a look at this

http://www.hitched.co.uk/wedding-venues/venues/checklist.htm

frannyann

natc wrote: »

That looks gorgeous frannyann!!!! Wish there was something like that near me. Doesnt look too big. Very nice inside too isnt it.

shellsuit wrote: »

Oh Franny I've not seen the pics of the hotel ~ it's gorgeous!!

Thanks guys! It has no outside space, but its lovely inside! Really elegant but small and the whole hotel is ours for the day!

Impet_Limpet

Your dad sounds bit like mine. He doesn't even know i'm engaged, and my step dad (although he and my mum are divorced ) is giving me away because he's always treated me as one of his own. Make it your day!

natc

Martine, yes, sounds like we have idiot dads! Well, put it this way, i would be reluctant to tell him when im having a baby, because i dont want him bursting that bubble too! And really, id rather not have him at my wedding as he always looks miserable and seems that everything has to revolve around him - but i always feel guilty about hurting ppl - even when theyve hurt me.

NEH, i said we should get married there when he propsed to me! It was funny because where he proposed in the water, just at the side of us on te beach was the gazebo where marriages take place! We didnt find that out until afterwards!

natc

Thanks for the link bubbles, that looks good, good info : )

bubbles0169

i dont like upsetting people either infact i hate it even if theyve hurt me
our problem is we worry too much
i worry about things i cant control its stupid!!
my stepmother was a wicked one when i lived there in my teens and had to move out when she said i wasnt allowed to return to the house between the hours of 9am and 5pm while i was on gcse study leave, thats just one of many mean things which i should batter her for but i actually talk to her now as if nothing happened all those years ago and shes never apologised
i cant stand for her to be at the wedding though and now my fathers dead(not that theyd be there if he were alive) she shouldnt be there but ive got two half sisters who are my bridesmaids and shes their mum oh how im going to work it i dont know!!

NEH

natc wrote: »

Martine, yes, sounds like we have idiot dads! Well, put it this way, i would be reluctant to tell him when im having a baby, because i dont want him bursting that bubble too! And really, id rather not have him at my wedding as he always looks miserable and seems that everything has to revolve around him - but i always feel guilty about hurting ppl - even when theyve hurt me.

NEH, i said we should get married there when he propsed to me! It was funny because where he proposed in the water, just at the side of us on te beach was the gazebo where marriages take place! We didnt find that out until afterwards!

http://www.weddingchaos.co.uk/wedding-abroad/turkey-wedding.asp


A link that might help you

and maybe that was your instinct telling you...

natc

Awww bubbles, that is just mean. Cant do with things like that. Dont let her go!!! hahaha. :rotfl: Im glad im not the only one, other ppl just cant understand why i let ppl get away with things and just get on with life. I dont like to upset ppl. But would rather my dad not be there, and even saying that on here is making me upset coz i know those words said to my dad would really hurt him!

Thank you for the link NEH,will have a peruse of that! :T

bubbles0169

but would it he be upset for the right reasons? would it be his nose was just out of joint?
maybe this could be the turning point for you, tell him everything youve told us then see what his reaction is
you maybe able to resolve it some way then
if you ever need to, please come back here to rant and most importantly to tell us your plans-i cant get enough lol x

natc

Hahaha, thanks bubbles.

I dont know, ive had 2 big talks with him, telling him how i feel. This was before we got engaged. Once was christmas 2008 in a shopping centre! I took him christmas shopping for his oh. We got sat down for a brew and we got talking, told him how i feel, that hes missed a lot of my life and i want a relationship with him, he never rings me and and when i ring him hes always like, oh hello stranger! My mum and dad split when i was 2. I didnt know this but my mum had agreed that he could have me from fri night to sun night if he wanted. She just wanted me to stay at home during the week for school and to have a routine. He never had me for the whole weekend, only on a sun afternoon. He was supposed to come for me every week, and a lot of the time id be waiting for him, and he didnt show up!!!! -rather go to pub and play football - charming! I told him all this and he tried to deny that he did it! He must think im stupid, but elephants never forget!!!! After this talk, i thought we'd be ok, that he'd get in contact more, but no, he didnt. And was his same miserable self when i did see him.

Ended up talking to him again in summer last year, a couple months before we got engaged, and told him nothing had changed since our last talk. He was upset, i was upset, and we agreed that things would change - nope! I feel reluctant to get in touch with him after all the let down from when i was younger. Hes still let me down in my adult life, i dont want the hurt and upset anymore. I feel it should be him making the effort, but he doesnt. He feels sorry for himself i think.

Put it one way, i couldnt trust him to be in charge of anything to do with the wedding!