Feeling really down :(

iamana1ias

*Summertime* wrote: »

I found out I was pregnant yesterday, why aren't I jumping for joy about it? I should be, I have wanted a baby for so long, we hadn't actually started trying, so this has come as a massive shock.

Last night, lying next to and cuddling my OH I just felt really lonely. I can't help but feel I don't want a baby yet, I want it to be just me and him for a bit longer. We were going to start trying on our honeymoon in September which is something we both really want, just not yet.

I have woken up today with no appetite and feeling sick, is that the pregnancy or just the way I am feeling about the situation

I know once we get used to the idea we will be happy, I just feel so upset that we are both not as happy as we should be.

Sorry for the depressing morning post

Sx

Firstly, it's very very early days. Without meaning to be negative you're not guaranteed a baby at the end of it. You probably have about 8 weeks to get used to the idea before things are checked and you know that things are okay.

Secondly, how can you say you weren't trying? Didn't you come off the pill? Have you been having unprotected sex or did the condom split? Surely you knew this was a possibility following the choices you've made?

*Summertime*

neneromanova wrote: »

I'm currently 19weeks pregnant and I've gone through so many phases of I want this baby, I don't want this baby, what have I done to my life sort of things. It's very normal. It's a very big shock and you probably don't even feel like it's real yet as it's still most likely just a bunch of cells at the moment. But once you've first heard that heartbeat and first felt him/her kick you will love it and realise that you were fretting over nothing

Congratulations. Plus you're having a Christmas Baby

My OH said last night it doesn't feel real yet. I'm so glad I am not the only one who is doubting whether this is the right thing to do.. You saying about the heart beat/baby kicking has bought a tears to my eyes, I am not usually an emotional person, I guess that is going to change!

Hmmm, a Christmas baby, poor thing!! (My best friends birthday is Christmas eve and she hates it, plus her hubbys birthday is Boxing day!)

Sx

aaronm_2

Anyhow congrats first. You'd better both accept the thing of going to have a baby and happiness should be shared with your friends and family members. So don't be upset, celebrate it!

neneromanova

*Summertime* wrote: »

My OH said last night it doesn't feel real yet. I'm so glad I am not the only one who is doubting whether this is the right thing to do.. You saying about the heart beat/baby kicking has bought a tears to my eyes, I am not usually an emotional person, I guess that is going to change!

Hmmm, a Christmas baby, poor thing!! (My best friends birthday is Christmas eve and she hates it, plus her hubbys birthday is Boxing day!)

Sx

Well by my calculation you're a month already, maybe more, so from february + 9 months is Nov

And yes, you will be blubbering like a little baby and not even know the reasons why. That's the joys of being pregnant. Just don't watch Marley and me. I did and was crying for the next hour! :rotfl:

iamana1ias

aaronm wrote: »

Anyhow congrats first. You'd better both accept the thing of going to have a baby and happiness should be shared with your friends and family members. So don't be upset, celebrate it!

Far far too early for that. Especially if the OP doesn't know how she feels about it.

Jo_R_2

To put a different spin on another aspect you mentioned, me and OH have never had that time 'alone' before we decided to have children as I already had my two DDs when we met. So in a way I can understand that, I wouldn't wish things to be different really so I always think our 'alone' time will be when the kids are grown-up!

I've always been nervous finding out I'm pregnant - every time and that's been four times now! It has always involved an assessment of my life.

Maybe you're a bit here and there because baby hasn't fallen into your plan of how things should happen, ie finding out you're pg after honeymoon and it's thrown you?