Feeling really down :(

*Summertime*

I found out I was pregnant yesterday, why aren't I jumping for joy about it? I should be, I have wanted a baby for so long, we hadn't actually started trying, so this has come as a massive shock.

Last night, lying next to and cuddling my OH I just felt really lonely. I can't help but feel I don't want a baby yet, I want it to be just me and him for a bit longer. We were going to start trying on our honeymoon in September which is something we both really want, just not yet.

I have woken up today with no appetite and feeling sick, is that the pregnancy or just the way I am feeling about the situation

I know once we get used to the idea we will be happy, I just feel so upset that we are both not as happy as we should be.

Sorry for the depressing morning post

Sx

renegade

Sorry to hear you are upset, but things rarely go as planned in life.
Think positively about the pregnancy, you want a baby, you are having a baby albeit earlier than you wanted, you are lucky lots a couples want a child but are unable to conceive.
Once you get used to the idea, you both will be able to celebrate the good fortune bestowed on you and plan your life accordingly.
Best wishes to you both.

robpw2

perhaps you should speak to your oh and decide if you are both ready for a baby now

if not then look at the alternatives avalible - like adoption

but i think you deserve congratulations

*Summertime*

Thank you that was really lovely.

I am shocked at myself for feeling like this, its just such a big change that we weren't quite prepared for. I know we are incredibly lucky, and I hope I don't sound too flippant (sp?) to those who are really trying with nothing happening, I have a lady like that in my office who has actually been to hell and back with her story.

I know once we get our heads round the idea we will be fine, I just want to get there quicker!

Sx

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robpw2 wrote: »

perhaps you should speak to your oh and decide if you are both ready for a baby now
if not then look at the alternatives avalible - like adoption
but i think you deserve congratulations

We had a good chat last night, he will support me whatever I chose, I know deep down he is excited but his nerves have over taken him and he is feeling out of his depth at the moment.

Adoption would make me run for the hills, this is my baby and I am keeping it! (that sounds wierd... 'my baby' )

Minxy_Bella

It's quite natural to feel a bit scared - I know I did! All three times!

You're going to go through a massive change - life will never be the same again - and you need a bit of time to get your head around it.

Oh and congratulations, btw!

xxx

robpw2

*Summertime* wrote: »

We had a good chat last night, he will support me whatever I chose, I know deep down he is excited but his nerves have over taken him and he is feeling out of his depth at the moment.

Adoption would make me run for the hills, this is my baby and I am keeping it! (that sounds wierd... 'my baby' )

well i think you have your answer then
it appears you have accepted it and its okay to feel daunted by the prospect of having a baby

fernliebee

no-one ever warns you that actually the first trimester can be the hardest! I have one DD and am PG with second bubs atm.

I have suffered the most in the first trimester. I was one of the 'lucky few' that had sickness from day one, due to the hormones you get so tired that you literally cannot keep your eyes open, also due to hormones you can get really blue or extremely happy- crazy mood swings etc!! Plus you feel rubbish and have no bump to show and most people don't even know you are PG! Phew!

Basically what I am saying is that it is quite normal to feel down in the beginning just try to focus on the reasons for feeling down ie prob hormones rather than thinking you don't want baby etc.

I fell PG straight away with both my LO's so if you were planning on starting TTC in Sept anyway it is only actually a possible 6 months of time (if you were lucky and got PG straight away) of it just being you anyway.

Pregnancy doesn't mean an end to your life, I still go out with my friends (DH looks after DD) and our parents babysit if me and DH want to go out. I didn't drink/ smoke anyway so no different for me.

gingin_2

Firstly, congratulations.

You sound much happier in your last post.

Your body is growing a little baby now so it might affect you physically as well as emotionally. The first three months are so tiring but it does get better.

The way I see things in life is that if you are going to go ahead with something even if you are uncomfortable about it, you have to make the best of it. What's tha point in being miserable, it's not going to change.

If it were me, I would buy a few preganancy mags, a big bar of chocolate and start demanding tea and sympathy from OH.

neneromanova

I'm currently 19weeks pregnant and I've gone through so many phases of I want this baby, I don't want this baby, what have I done to my life sort of things. It's very normal. It's a very big shock and you probably don't even feel like it's real yet as it's still most likely just a bunch of cells at the moment. But once you've first heard that heartbeat and first felt him/her kick you will love it and realise that you were fretting over nothing

Congratulations. Plus you're having a Christmas Baby

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gingin wrote: »

If it were me, I would buy a few preganancy mags, a big bar of chocolate and start demanding tea and sympathy from OH.

LOL, oh he knows thats coming