Children climbed into our garden and took over!!!

ooobedoo

This is the problem with society and I include myself in this, we are scared to confront children as you are scared of the ramifications of such action-such a them verbally abusing. I told a child off for bouncing a football of my bonnet and he told me to F*** off....and it shook me up. You just don' t know what revenge they will take. I am trying to being my children up to the best of my ability but do I teach them that we are scared of children? Children are so much more socially savvy....they could claim that you hit them/touched them etc etc. When I was at school one of the girls would say to the teacher that it was 'child abuse' when he told her off for messing about in class.

I feel for you

tiamai_d

I'd put trellis up ontop of the fence and sit a few pots about with the excuse of growing something. Give you privacy too.

helping_hubby

xxdeebeexx wrote: »

A fast climbing rose called 'High Hopes' did the trick for us. It's very pretty too... a lovely pink, floribunda rose with red stems. Oh.. and of course, the trellis, as someone else suggested, so that the rose has something to grow up

Good Luck

Dx

This is my plan for our back garden. It backs onto an alleyway and I worry about security. How long did it take for your Rose to take good hold? Did this one have thorns too?

red_devil

turn it round on them get your son to ask if he can go and play in their garden? Wonder what they would say?
seriously if your uncomfortable you got to stop them coming in or hope they get bored and go away.

floss2

helping_hubby wrote: »

This is my plan for our back garden. It backs onto an alleyway and I worry about security. How long did it take for your Rose to take good hold? Did this one have thorns too?

Try pyracantha - very strong, very thorny, pretty orange berries in the autumn, and recommended by police as a climber-deterrent

viktory

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

Any ideas on what I can do?

Tell them to sod off! Seriously, I would sday something along the lines of "No, you can't come in to play today and stop climbing on the fence. You'll break it". Then go and have a word with their parents.

I can't believe you are letting yourselves be intimidated by a couple of kids!

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

This is the thing, I feel so awful for my son, it would be lovely if nice children came to play, but I thought this was so rude.

I am worried also about him being bullied by them, they seem very in your face!

They are more likely to bully him if they see that he has no adult back up

1sttimer_2

This reminded me of neighbours kids when we lived in our first home many years ago. We had a shared driveway on the upper part of a hill so that the kids used our gates as goal posts! I didn't have a problem with it as next door (joint driveway neighbour) had 2 of the kids so we could really ask them to go away. The ball constantly came on our garden but we felt we had no comback really - that is until the ball went through the neighbours glass front door! That was the end of that and not long after that they moved! We put gates on and were slated by the rest of the neighbours as we stopped them playing outside our house! We moved (for another reason) 18 months later.

House we live in now is on a hill and we are in a semi with a way from the back yard to the front road, rest of the road is a long terrace, with rows of terraces behind us. When our DD's were young we often had kids 'passing through' and when I caught them, they used to say 'Oh, I was just calling to see if so and so is coming out to play' - even though they never played with them - ever! We now have new 5 ft high gates that aren't easy to open and all children round here have grown up and moved on. But when kids did come through/play with my DD's toys or play water fights when my washing was out, I used to smile and joke with them not to get my washing wet/dirty, or I'd make them do it again! And it worked! They were fine with it, but my OH would shout and berate them and they would just edge their bet with him. On one occasion, some child batted a pebble which landed on our car, denting and scratching it, and when confronted by my OH, he denied it and his grandparents (he lives with them) came out and backed him up and said he wouldn't do anything like that!

Good luck in however you decide to tackle it, as it's not nice being intimidated by anyone, regardless of age, and you never know how they or their parents react.

mrcow

I don't think you need to do anything drastic. Certainly nothing like applying anto vandal paint or growing special plants- seriously what are some people like?!

They are aged 8 and 9 and they asked to come over to play and were told "yes" - hardly thugs of the century are they!

If you see them again, tell them not to climb over the fence as it's likely to break. Simple really - and you're all still friends.

spike7451

I live in a sort of square area with 3 sides being OAP bungalows & my appartment block being at the bottom,the is a green area in the middle.

A few months ago,a load of teenagers from up the local estate descended on the square after they were turfed out of the estate for wrecking the place,so they came down here & ran over the OAP's carefully tended gardens & were smoking weed on the benches opposite the grassed bit.

The PSNI turned up 3 hours later after they were called,and I noticed the next day,my ladders on my van had been tampered with.

Anyhow,they did'nt count on on of the OAP's being the aunt of the local UDA commander in the town,never saw the little darlings down our way again....wonder why?Mmmmm.....(stroked stubble covered chin in thought...)

annabel14

I think getting things into perspective will help. they have come into your garden without permission. they are children not monsters just explain to them.
Perhaps the op needs in general to be more assertive. even if they have been brought up differently that does not mean they are feral. everything described is normal child behaviour. please dont disturb yourself by projecting allsorts of intimidatory meanings to what might come in the future. tell them you dont want them to come in , go to pound shop buy 4 trellis for 3 pounds (offer on at the moment 4 for 3) and attach to fence. then relax. they are kids. at some point your children will mix will all kinds of children you may prefer they dont. help them by showing them assertion. thats what a good mum, like you has no choice but to do. be confident in dealing with them, kids like to know the rules. They also like to be talked to so get to know them, ask their names and then you will not feel as though they are in control.