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Friend's ex moving back in and threatening to bring new gf

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  • iwantoneplease
    iwantoneplease Posts: 194 Forumite
    Where does the boyfriend intend in sleeping maybe worth also mentioning this to the council, 3 kids and possibly 3 adults when the GF visits.
  • SignificantAlter
    SignificantAlter Posts: 35 Forumite
    poppysarah wrote: »
    Complicated. She should arrange to get the locks changed now - if needs be pay for it herself if the council won't do it.

    She should arrange to let him see the kids at a place away from the house. Then there's no need for him or her to come in.

    But he's actually going to move back in.
    Speculation at this stage but I think he expects my friend to sleep on the sofa whilst he has the master bedroom
  • RAS
    RAS Posts: 36,614 Forumite
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    SignificantAlter wrote: »
    Ok, she's seeking advice from WA and has an appointment at a solicitor next week. Legal aided.

    This simply is not fast enough. She needs to get an urgent appointment tomorrow or Thursday morning.
    If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing
  • RAS
    RAS Posts: 36,614 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper
    You may find some of the stuff from the marriage and relationships forum useful

    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1276963
    If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing
  • Foggster
    Foggster Posts: 1,023 Forumite
    Can she move a "boyfriend" in ;)

    Bullies like him soon back off when they have someone the same size as them to abuse or not as the case will be!
  • pimento
    pimento Posts: 6,243 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts
    If he moves back in it will affect her benefits I think. (and not in a good way)
    "If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." -- Red Adair
  • SignificantAlter
    SignificantAlter Posts: 35 Forumite
    pimento wrote: »
    If he moves back in it will affect her benefits I think. (and not in a good way)

    yes, that is another reason why he is doing it.... and he's not paying maintainence either
    there is literally no money, income support haven't even started paying yet
  • pimento
    pimento Posts: 6,243 Forumite
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    What a prize. Sounds like she's well rid of him.
    "If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." -- Red Adair
  • RAS
    RAS Posts: 36,614 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper
    Have you read the stuff in the link I posted, as it has a lot of information that you friend needs, urgently
    If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing
  • SignificantAlter
    SignificantAlter Posts: 35 Forumite
    RAS wrote: »
    Have you read the stuff in the link I posted, as it has a lot of information that you friend needs, urgently

    yes, and all information is passed onto her.... we're really very grateful
    just waiting to hear if we can get legal appointment earlier
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