House prices take their toll on marriage

GDB2222

PasturesNew wrote: »

That must be sexism in the workplace.

As there are more women than men, it means that women do not have an equal chance of gaining such a payout ....

You are quite right, PN. The only fair way of dealing with this, as women live longer than men, is to organise an annual cull to even up the numbers. Peter Sutcliffe was doing such a splendid job .... and then they went and locked him up. Life is so unfair!

fedupfreda

lostinrates wrote: »

There is absolutely nothing wrong in paying for any good service you can afford. In fact, its positively a good thing to do;....both for quality of life, and for supporting people producing quality goods/services. The problem in our society, s we don't seem clear on what we can afford, and what we can't!

Well said, lir. I agree totally. :T:T:T

GDB2222

uzubairu wrote: »

Me and the OH ... got sick of their bickering over the wedding plans for 9 months and got married at the registry office in Manchester without them, and announced it to them when we got back from our holiday in New York.

My cousin's son got married and didn't tell his parents at all. The first thing cousin knew about it was when a letter arrived addressed to Mr & Mrs and it wasn't for him!

fedupfreda

treliac wrote: »

I once acted as a witness to the marriage of 2 strangers. The mind wandered off onto various reasons why they might have done it like that. There didn't seem anything suspicious about them. Perhaps they thought like you.... you obviously don't have any regrets.

Thank you treliac . You are quite right. I have no regrets. He was the best choice I ever made

But you are right. We had cast iron reasons for doing it the way we did. Mainly my mum, and his dad, could start an argument in an empty room :eek::eek::eek: ..... and still go away believing they were the ones in the right We decided there was no way those two would ever get together. It would be a memorable wedding for all the wrong reasons.:eek::eek::eek:

Its the choice of the 2 people concerned. If you want to spend a packet - and can afford it - thats ok. Its also equally ok to spend as little as you deem necessary. Its only strange if you equate the amount of love in a relationship with the amount of money spent on the show. I just don't get that at all :huh:

kennyboy66_2

Northants_Simon wrote: »

Nobody says you have to spend a fortune, some people choose to, some don't. What is wrong with spending £25k if you have that sort of money? .

Nothing - although I suspect many people are borrowing for at least some of it. While again, that's fine, I personally don't see the sense.

I'd have no problem chipping in something for my kids weddings (thankfully many years away), but I'd pay for their University fees followed by gifting something for a house deposit. After that there probably won't be much left for the wedding .

The word "wedding" seems to have the same effect on businesses as "insurance job" does on a garage. An excuse to gouge money out of people, after all it's once in a lifetime experience. Or not.

moggylover

I think you only have to watch one episode of one of those dreadful wedding programmes on the TV to realise that the sentiment is often badly wrong, the businesses involved have gone totally over-board on their charges and that good taste is extremely rare, let alone good sense:D

Where on Earth do they find those completely dreadful women?:eek::eek::eek::eek: I mean, just because Katie Price suffers from bad taste do so many have to want to copy her?:(

lostinrates

moggylover wrote: »

I think you only have to watch one episode of one of those dreadful wedding programmes on the TV to realise that the sentiment is often badly wrong, the businesses involved have gone totally over-board on their charges and that good taste is extremely rare, let alone good sense:D

Where on Earth do they find those completely dreadful women?:eek::eek::eek::eek: I mean, just because Katie Price suffers from bad taste do so many have to want to copy her?:(

I don't mind a bit of bad taste, if its what people want, and they can afford it.

clearing_out_my_pockets

benb76 wrote: »

I think the cost of most weddings are driven by the bride and her mother. I'm sure we all know women who live, sleep and eat weddings for up to 18 months before their big day. I'm sure that plenty get far too embroiled in the whole thing, and then have a really empty feeling in their lives when they get back from honeymoon and find that they're now married to a man that they're not actually that muh in love with.

OH & I have been 'planning' our wedding since July of last year. By planning, I mean putting down deposits so that we secure a certain price and know exactly how much we need to save. You will note from my signature that our budget is not exactly substantial, but that figure is allowing me to have two wedding dresses and we've negotiated the venue's marquee down from £2,350 to £420. :money:

I am the bride in this wedding and it was me (and my mum) that was pushing for something smaller and more intimate. My OH's mum (mother of two sons who desperately wanted a daughter) was pushing for an exclusive venue that had exclusive prices to match. OH was in total agreement with his mum, arguing that since they were offering to 'underwrite' the cost of the reception, they should have a say in where it's held. Ultimately I showed him how much it would total - over £20k! I said I was willing to go for this option, on the basis that our wedding would be in 2020 and we wouldn't be having children :rotfl:. I got my way!

GDB2222

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

that figure is allowing me to have two wedding dresses

Why on earth do you need two wedding dresses? One for the dress rehearsal? To have a spare? One much bigger than the other in case there's a happy event on the way?

Pray tell.

lostinrates

GDB2222 wrote: »

Why on earth do you need two wedding dresses? One for the dress rehearsal? To have a spare? One much bigger than the other in case there's a happy event on the way?

Pray tell.

Dress and going away outfit?