Dla/lha

mammamia2004

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Not really; an elderly person, particularly when also a carer, needs their sleep just as nuch as a child does.

Could you not put 2 single beds in your room for the 2 children and a single bed in the smaller room for yourself?

well if i was still with my partner and he need my support during the night i would stay in the same room with him and if i couldn't cope it would be time to place him in a nursing/residental home. so he could get the care he needed!!.

like your name says older not wiser

mammamia2004

sh1305 wrote: »

Some people have good reason to be on benefits for years. They don't all sit at home all day and do sod all.

not saying they don't!! its just the way some people reply, like i am expecting the rules to be changed, like someone who just takes takes takes!!!

Oldernotwiser

mammamia2004 wrote: »

well if i was still with my partner and he need my support during the night i would stay in the same room with him and if i couldn't cope it would be time to place him in a nursing/residental home. so he could get the care he needed!!.

like your name says older not wiser

Looks like he got out just in time, before you left him on a park bench!

(Are you this rude to everybody who offers you advice?)

sunnyone

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Looks like he got out just in time, before you left him on a park bench!

(Are you this rude to everybody who offers you advice?)

no she just wants special rules for her made, like many others who pop in here.

DX2

:whistle: toys, pram.

fluffymovie

Hi there

Just wanted to say that I do understand the issues you are facing but it is not possible under the LHA rules to say that you need an extra bedroom.

I am wondering if what the council are saying is that they may consider a discretionary housing payment for you meaning that you are awarded a bit extra to help with the extra costs you are incurring in having a room that they can't allow under LHA?

kingfisherblue

OP, I have not been on benefits for years - only since the breakdown of my own marriage. Although I cannot work due to my son's disabilities (HRC since 3 months old, HRM since three years old, indefinate award), I do contribute to society in other ways.

When my son is in school, I often do voluntary work at the local community centre. I also run a Brownie and a Rainbow unit, as well as being Chair of a small local group for disabled children and their families. In addition, I am involved in the local Parent's Forums, run by Aiming Higher for Disabled Children, in the hope that we can help to change things for parents, so that they don't have to fight for things that we fought for several years ago.

So even though I claim benefits, I contribute to my local community and to the disabled community.

I'm sorry if you found my post not to your liking, but there was no need to be offensive. Many people who have been on benefits for years have not had any choice in the matter - it is not for you to comment so rudely or for you to be judgemental.

Tehya

mammamia2004 wrote: »

well if i was still with my partner and he need my support during the night i would stay in the same room with him and if i couldn't cope it would be time to place him in a nursing/residental home. so he could get the care he needed!!.

like your name says older not wiser

Oh dear, I'm sure my hubby's thankful he's not married to you. I'm a carer for my very ill husband and find your attitude really strange.

What would you do when you can no longer cope with your daughter then, put her in a care home too?

I think you managed to upset quite a few people who were genuinely trying to help you and to be honest I haven't read anything in the thread that warranted your response.