Help please

RAS

Hi

Rather than counselling, you may find one of the psycho-therapies more useful. Look at CBP or NLP and focusing as starters and see what you feel comfortable with.

Counting_Pennies_2

It sounds to me she was very depressed and just couldn't get out of her rut, sadly that had terrible ramifications for you, both when you were with her and now you.

I would agree some counselling and anger management would work very well.

http://www.bacp.co.uk/

blue-bells_2

I really feel for you. I grew up in a house with alot of shouting/smashing things (step father with a very bad temper) and it's definately had an effect on me. I've found myself saying awful things in the past to my now DH during heated arguments and I am in no doubt where I have picked this up from ....My DH said it was like a red mist coming down over me at times

I would agree with talking to someone about this. I didn't see a counsellor, but to be honest it could have helped. I've worked through my issues with my DH, who is so gentle and supportive, the exact opposite from my step father, thank God. One of my friend's saw a counsellor for a while and she said it really helped her- I would definately give it a try

Good luck to you and all the best xxx

Kcgc

I really appreciate all of your replies! I am going to see the GP next week and take it from there. I dont mind waiting, at least I know im getting there.

Its so strange to think that I may need anger management but my poor bf is dealing with so much anger buried inside of me.

Ive never been able to talk to anyone about all these issues except my bf, and would feel great just to talk to someone.

Steel_2

I suspect you have a lot of suppressed rage and probably feel now your mum is so nice you shouldn't feel angry towards her any more. But you can't help it! You're angry with the way she treated you in past because she should not have treated you that way. You may also feel that because it's so long ago you shouldn't be silly and move on. All that makes the anger bubbling away worse!

I'm one to talk though. I've nursed a grudge against my father for similar behaviour to your mother's for many years. Trouble is, he's still doing it and knows what he's doing too.