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8th March *Marvelous Mon/Oh God, it's Mon again (delete as applicable)* daily chat

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  • elfen
    elfen Posts: 10,213 Forumite
    Her agenda is to keep an eye on me, as OBVIOUSLY I need it. Yet when she tries all it does is make me feel like a child and demeans me, which makes me feel worse in the long run, I don't need it.
    I know I'll gain weight by exercising, but it'll be muscle, and not fat, and with what I'm doing, it's toning too, which is what I need. I know some will shift as it's fat from eating too much, but that has to happen. I've already dropped about 3 inches off my hips and that's a good thing, but I want to be a weight I am happy at and feel confident at, which is about 10 stone, and I don't look like skin and bones.
    ** Total debt: £6950.82 ± May NSDs 1/10 **
    ** Fat Bum Shrinking: -7/56lbs **
    **SPC 2012 #1498 -£152 and 1499 ***
    I do it all because I'm scared.
  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    elfen wrote: »
    Her agenda is to keep an eye on me, as OBVIOUSLY I need it. Yet when she tries all it does is make me feel like a child and demeans me, which makes me feel worse in the long run, I don't need it.

    Her agenda is what's in it for her. Would "control" be what's in it for her?
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
  • elfen
    elfen Posts: 10,213 Forumite
    She's tried to control me since I had my breakdown nearly 3 years ago. I don't want to be controlled, not by her, she has no right to try and control what I do, how I do it, or who I'm with. !!!!'s sake, she does !!!! me off royally most of the time. Even seeing her makes me feel more depressed, as she has to comment on what I'm wearing/buying/doing - as if any of it actually matters to her.
    ** Total debt: £6950.82 ± May NSDs 1/10 **
    ** Fat Bum Shrinking: -7/56lbs **
    **SPC 2012 #1498 -£152 and 1499 ***
    I do it all because I'm scared.
  • tenmah
    tenmah Posts: 2,209 Forumite
    Arghh I have spent the last couple of hours listing on eBay. It really is a boring thing to do, took ages and I have only listed 12 books!
    OD [STRIKE] £2600 [/STRIKE] £0 :j Loan [STRIKE]£9500.00[/STRIKE] £0 :j Car [STRIKE]£3150[/STRIKE] £0 :j Moving Costs [STRIKE]£1300[/STRIKE] £0 :j Savings £1150 :j

    Everytime I hear the 'dirty' word Exercise, I wash my mouth out with chocolate!
  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    elfen wrote: »
    She's tried to control me since I had my breakdown nearly 3 years ago. I don't want to be controlled, not by her, she has no right to try and control what I do, how I do it, or who I'm with. !!!!'s sake, she does !!!! me off royally most of the time. Even seeing her makes me feel more depressed, as she has to comment on what I'm wearing/buying/doing - as if any of it actually matters to her.

    Does she make positive comments too?
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    tenmah wrote: »
    Arghh I have spent the last couple of hours listing on eBay. It really is a boring thing to do, took ages and I have only listed 12 books!

    What about the turbo-lister thingy?
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
  • elfen
    elfen Posts: 10,213 Forumite
    Nope. Or they'll be positive but with a bite - like I look good but it's too low-cut - sorry sis but when your boobs are a main feature of your body you aren't going to hide them - I can't wear high cut tops without feeling matronly (that's cos she has little boobs and I have zing-rated whazzers lol)

    I hate HATE how she treats me.....it's so annoying...and my mum and dad have had a few words about her as well. She tries to interfere in everyone's business but can't stand it when others interfere with hers.
    ** Total debt: £6950.82 ± May NSDs 1/10 **
    ** Fat Bum Shrinking: -7/56lbs **
    **SPC 2012 #1498 -£152 and 1499 ***
    I do it all because I'm scared.
  • clairewop
    clairewop Posts: 8,007 Forumite
    aaww Elfen sounds like your having a tough time

    I'm off to bed now catch you all sometime tomorrow
    Boiler pot £30.92/£1000
  • InkyCats20
    InkyCats20 Posts: 1,282 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    Elfen, when I here stories like yours I'm glad I'm an only child

    Your sister would get on well with Ames sister, who also feels the need to comment on everything Ames does & try & control aspects of her life
    Don't Take Life too Seriously - Nobody gets out alive :rotfl:
  • elfen
    elfen Posts: 10,213 Forumite
    Think I need the frying pan, I'll smack her with it then go hit Ames' sister too
    ** Total debt: £6950.82 ± May NSDs 1/10 **
    ** Fat Bum Shrinking: -7/56lbs **
    **SPC 2012 #1498 -£152 and 1499 ***
    I do it all because I'm scared.
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