Nice people thread 2 - now even nicer

lostinrates

wageslave wrote: »

How do you tell a selfish auld woman you really dont like her or approve of her choices?

You don't. Its none of your business.

where does there rubbish end and your's begin? I choice to leave the resentment behind from the date of my being my own boss legally. The chaos before I was 16 is her fault, the chaos after that is mine.

wageslave

Speculative1 wrote: »

I find that you get to know more about a person through type. People have to work harder at projecting their persona therefore you get to understand what makes people 'tick' rather more than perhaps the superficial niceties you encounter in a face to face sometimes false situation :j

You get to see below the surface but the surface is who we really are.

Everything else is just wishful thinking

wageslave

Speculative1 wrote: »

I'd like to spend a lot more time 'below the surface' with lots of people instead of the hypocrital hard nosed exterior 'surface'

Afriend, I have missed you

wageslave

Speculative1 wrote: »

Thought you'd never remember me

You never been safer.

Pobby

Hi ladies. Hope all is well. Not been well today but a bit better now. This whole darn economy thing is really getting me down.

Pobby

Just hacks me off with all the Labour lies. At least with that Thatch thing she was transparent. Hated the working class and she shoved one up `em.

sss555s

Speculative1 wrote: »

Hey Pobby, dont despair life is what you make of it. A really lovely friend has given me such a lot of support when things were not so good in all aspects of my life... I feel really good now and so will you

Some people are just so nice spec

Especially on this thread

Pobby

Awww, thanks. I guess it`s that it`s me being selfish. Only a few years to retirement, not to say that I will fully retire but if my little business goes, no overheads or debts, phew I struggle to think of how i would make even a modest living. Just being a silly old git.

LydiaJ

wageslave wrote: »

Where does that end and real life begin?

I have been soo angry with my mother and then I think about the brat and how I have failed her

It is horrible to love someone and want to murder them all at the same time.

I expect too much.

How do you tell a selfish auld woman you really dont like her or approve of her choices?

lostinrates wrote: »

You don't. Its none of your business.

where does there rubbish end and your's begin? I choice to leave the resentment behind from the date of my being my own boss legally. The chaos before I was 16 is her fault, the chaos after that is mine.

lir is very wise.

If you believe that your life can't be OK unless she changes, then you will stay stuck, because it's very unlikely that she will change at this stage in her life, and you have no power to make her change. That's an incredibly frustrating position of helplessness for you.

You need to find a way to be OK about your life whether she changes or not. If being OK only depends on who you become, rather than who she becomes, then you have the capacity to do something about it, and that's incredibly liberating and empowering.

I can recommend you books if you're the sort of person who reads books of that kind.

Pobby

I dunno. Just in plonker mode today. Got quite a decent pension in under 4 years, just don`t want to eat into it. I was reading the happiness thread about earning £35k a year. I was earning more than that a few years back. Mad , but I was bunging nearly 20k a year into pensions then and because of my wifes illness she was unable to work.
Ignore me, being silly.