Nice people thread 2 - now even nicer

fc123

SingleSue wrote: »

Just about misskool.....

It was just the telephone banking line, he wanted to ring up and ask how to go about it and they were asking for a personal pin number thingy and if he has got one, it was set up ages ago and he hasn't a scoobie what it would be...his brain is still working and can still remember the pin for his debit card but just cannot remember this vital bit of information for the call to proceed to actually speak to a human. We don't have a local branch but it was one that was recently taken over/merged by Santander so not sure if we can do it in a previously Abbey branch.

The energy levels won't stay this high, I'm running on adrenaline and sheer bloody mindedness and eventually I will come to a complete stop and fall apart for a day or two...usually when the crisis is over.

I think you can enter the wrong one a few times and they will automatically connect you eventually. Seems to be a priority to get sorted. Is Dad feeling better in himself? Is he going to have the op tomo?

lostinrates

fc123 wrote: »

Did you get the card to work? It sticks out a bit then a window should come up with options...choose load to PC from camera.

A Wii? I didn't have down as a gamer

wii fit.:) never played any sort of gmes before in my lfe, but used to be sporty. I'm lovingthe weird pseudo sport but hating rediscovering my long forgotten competitive streak. Got quite cross when the at jumped on the little platform and made my bubble floating down a river bump onto a wall and burst.

No, I can't get it in the hole in the computer...its ''sort of'' the right size, bt doesn't wan to go in....I#ve tried it all four ways and upside down, but it feels like it should fit.

carolt

Just to add, I've been oohing and aahing over the fluffy chick pic links you posted, lir - I want to cuddle them all.

So adorable.

Have been reading out snippets of your book in progress to OH, as they're v entertaining.

Please don't stop writing - I need to know how your chicks are going to grow up, and am on tenterhooks to see how many are boys...

lostinrates

carolt wrote: »

Just to add, I've been oohing and aahing over the fluffy chick pic links you posted, lir - I want to cuddle them all.

So adorable.

Have been reading out snippets of your book in progress to OH, as they're v entertaining.

Please don't stop writing - I need to know how your chicks are going to grow up, and am on tenterhooks to see how many are boys...

Me too....I want so badly for the boys to be girls..cream leg barrs are not a meat bird, so....not even really good for the pot.

SingleSue

fc123 wrote: »

I think you can enter the wrong one a few times and they will automatically connect you eventually. Seems to be a priority to get sorted. Is Dad feeling better in himself? Is he going to have the op tomo?

Think dad gave up in the end, didn't want me to sort it and mum was getting worried about dad getting too het up.

No, they are not doing the op tomorrow, it is too dangerous because of the major stroke last week, the wide area of damage and the potential for a haemorrhage is far too great...so he will have to wait 6 weeks and they will then re-evaluate.

He is feeling better but is refusing to take things slowly which is then making it harder for him to do things later on in the day as the weakness then becomes very pronounced in his left leg, he becomes quite confused/sluggish and very very tired.

Apparently no referral has been made to social services, it is something we will have to do ourselves....so of course, my parents are not too keen on this idea! Simple fact of the matter was my dad needed grab rails on the stairs etc before the stroke and needs them more than ever now.

carolt

Good luck - geeting old people to agree to help of any kind is a huge battle, but usually appreciated when it's won.

LydiaJ

Sometimes it works if you present the help as a way of avoiding other, more intrusive help. It can be easier for independent-minded old people to accept a couple of visits to install inanimate objects like grab rails if it means that they are more able to live independently afterwards. Or, for a couple who love and care about each other, you can present the help as for the other person's benefit - so you tell her that he needs the grab rails to keep him safe, and you tell him that he must get the grab rails because otherwise she will try to help him up and down the stairs, which she isn't really strong enough to do. Or something like that.

Davesnave

Can I just concur with what Lydia said, and add that once 'help' is found to be non-threatening, it is accepted much more easily next time around.

Self-reliance was something drummed-into earlier generations, so I found it easier to present assistance for Dad as ways to keep him independent, rather than being a burden on the local authority.

SingleSue

That is exactly how I have been tackling it. Even dad has said to mum about it being too much for her and it will help him be independent (along with moans about otherwise having to go into a home and selling their home to pay for it - I understand it but they certainly don't!)

There has been progress, mum is now talking about driving to the shops, she hasn't actually done it yet but at least she is talking about it!

lostinrates

Sue, My grandmother used to repeatedly (she had Alzheimers, so I really do mean repeatedly) say she ''didn't want to be a burden'' on her family. In trying not to be..e.g. opting not to live close when choosing retirement accommodation etc it actually made doing what we wanted to do for her, out of love not purely obligation, much, much more burdensome.

My father's imminent retirement and the decisions my parents are making about their own future have caused me to raise this in conversation. I'm keen for things to be in place now that mean when they DO need them they are not asking for help, or staring their mortality in the face. e.g.when talking about bathrooms recently I pointed out to dad that a wet roo would mean he never needed to change bathrooms...single floor living..that sort of thing. Luckily my parents have a pretty robust sense of humour and I am totally open: most of the problems I see in our family when I look back would have been solved with less cageyness and better communication.

Its worked a little too well, her, e.. them wanted to come with us...but you know...its not so bad. My dad is talking about going into business with me, which could be cool...he's much more reasoned than I and in many ways less confident, but has impeccable business pedigree now, I think I would learn a lot from him.

It also means, of course, as he pointed out, holidays and evenings out would be possible for me again....with a built in animal sitter.

I've been playing with my fluffy babies and today I think I have ten girls and 2 boys. Girls tend to get feathers earlier. All the ones with chipmunky legbar-female markings have wing feathers, as do the dark chicks, leaving the pretty grey and yellow chicks with feather less wings...which would tie in to with the possibilty of their colour being influenced by sex linked colour from their daddy.

what's interesting though is people often say that boys chicks are pushier (I've never noticed a sex difference in friendlyness/pushiness in teeny chicks) where as the biggish probably females in this group are noticeably pushier.

edit: also forgot to say congratulations to any ne who has a cherry tree. In the buzz of chicks and weekend plans I didn't really acknowledge the sings triumphant burst into the cherry trees. Thorn blossom really is one of my favourites, but the cheery blossom i so pretty...but the smell, the unbelievably intoxicating scent is just amazing.