Single & hearbroken

shazrobo

i agree with the others, that the flatmate thing wont work, he wants his cake and eat it. me and my ex recently split up, and he wanted to stay friends etc, which i did for a week, til he said we could still have sex like we used to, then i realised his true colours. it does hurt, you will miss him, but you will realise you deserve to be treated better
hugs
shaz x

GemmaB78

Got some places lined up at the weekend. You're right. I can't stay here. But I'm desperately trying to keep the lines of communication open. But he won't talk to me.

jackieglasgow

Oh Gemma, I've been thinking about you a lot today, have another hug {{{}}}. As foor keeping communication open, that's a good thing, but don't force the issue. Tell him you care about him, you are concerned about his wellbeing and his illness, and that you will contact him regularly to make sure he's OK, and that you expect him to do the same. Let him know you are not"abandoning" him, but don't make yourself a doormat, and don't wait for him to choose a life with you.

Get on with yours, keep in touch, even if it's just a text once a week to say hi, and then things will move on naturally for you. As I said before, you may realise you've outgrown the relationship, and then become emotionally free to pursue a life with someone else who can meet you on equal terms.

Best of luck with the house/flat hunting!

C_Mababejive

shazrobo wrote: »

i agree with the others, that the flatmate thing wont work, he wants his cake and eat it. me and my ex recently split up, and he wanted to stay friends etc, which i did for a week, til he said we could still have sex like we used to, then i realised his true colours. it does hurt, you will miss him, but you will realise you deserve to be treated better
hugs
shaz x

OMG..that is just terrible.

superskintmouse

omg what is wrong with people, why is everything black and white, people need their own space, why dont you try just sleeping in different rooms chilling out and re discovering what it is that makes you enjoy each others company, rediscover what you had and enjoy your own space. I cannot imagine what it is like being bipolar but everyone has their own issues. if you love him and want to be part of his life respect what he is telling you. im sure it has taken great courage to admit he is having these feelings. i wish you both the best of life and that you both sort it out. x

C_Mababejive

dawemouse wrote: »

omg what is wrong with people, why is everything black and white, people need their own space, why dont you try just sleeping in different rooms chilling out and re discovering what it is that makes you enjoy each others company, rediscover what you had and enjoy your own space. I cannot imagine what it is like being bipolar but everyone has their own issues. if you love him and want to be part of his life respect what he is telling you. im sure it has taken great courage to admit he is having these feelings. i wish you both the best of life and that you both sort it out. x

I agree with the "respect what hes telling you " bit.

There is nothing worse than working up the courage to say what you feel,only for someone else to disregard/over-ride/ignore you because it isnt what they want to hear.

GemmaB78

I can't do this. It's too hard. How can I get on with my life when it feels like my life has been ripped to shreds?

Wow

Just been reading the thread. So I take it things are no better then?

AlwaysWorking

Hi Gemma. I felt I had to reply. My fiance ended our relationship two weeks ago and I could have written your latest post. I understand the pain you are in and wish I could wave a magic wand to make us both feel better. Unfortunately only time will do that and in the meantime we have to take one day at a time. Please feel free to pm me if you need some support. We WILL get through this.

GemmaB78

No. No change.