DFSD's five year plan... and all it brings along the way

debtfreesomeday

Well, just had the news that Mum was taken into hospital again in the early hours of this morning. My Dad is going to keep me updated. He was still at the hospital at 3am-4am this morning and still went to work for 7am. He has a physical job, so I hope he takes it easy today, he's not in great health himself and must be exhausted. Now all prayers are that they can help Mum and sort this out once and for all.

debtfreesomeday

Sorry to hear you're having so much trouble with your shoulders Chocs, it's not an easy part of your body to rest, either, is it. My Mum often suffers from neck pain due to burst discs and I feel so bad for her when she does as neck and shoulder pain is just awful. It sounds like you need to get some therapy or something sooner rather than later.

My ebay item didn't sell again. I'm not going to bother to relist it at the moment as I hardly think it's worth it. I shall maybe try at a later date. Hopefully you had more luck with your items.

10 mystery shops! That's tough going! Good luck with those, at least they'll bring some extra money in at the end of the month. I haven't lined any more up yet but shall look in the next couple of days.

There's still no major news on my Mum's condition tonight. She has been given morphine today which has made her very sleepy and helped with the pain a little, but it doesn't touch the problem. I think she is due to see a specialist tonight, but the Dr in question is notoriously busy and has disappointed in the past by not showing up for days. I'm so worried about her, they really need to sort this problem out before it causes anything else nasty. She needs her life back too, she fights so hard to stay well, but it seems the various medical teams fail her on so many ocassions and she's back to square one. My Dad will phone me tonight with news, as he's at the hospital now.

Hubby is out at the gym tonight for a couple of hours so I'm home alone presently. I'm not really sure what to do with myself to be honest and feel at a bit of a loss tonight. I've been on the laptop for an hour now and really need to drag myself away, but to do what, I don't know. I'm not a fan of the TV and rarely have it on by choice; I can't concentrate on a book at the moment and there's no point in cleaning when the builders are going to make a mess again tomorrow. I think I shall go for a wander and see what I can find to keep myself busy...

I do hope tomorrow is a better day, for everybody.

DFSD
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Chocforever

It must be so frustrating waiting at home to hear whether your mum is OK and when and if the medical team are going to give an opinion . I hope you have found something to distract you; where are those mindless surveys when you need them :cool:.

My ebay item sold at its minimum price which I am OK with. It is so slow on there, I was prepared for it either not selling or going at the minimum price. I then put a top on BIN late last night and it had sold by the time I got up, so pleased with that. Clearly did not price it high enough!

I have next week off work, just to potter around, get a few DIY bits and pieces done and have a break. Cannot wait and I'm counting the days down at work ....

debtfreesomeday

I'm furious - yesterday my poor Mum was pumped full of drugs via IV, knocked out on morphine, severely dehydrated, had dangerously low potassium levels and a blockage in the bowel; today they are sending her home with a appointment as an outpatient for 3 weeks time. :mad::mad::mad:
Once again, they have done absolutely nothing for her. I just don't know what else we can do anymore. We've tried phoning the specialist every day for a month and 'nagging' for appointments, we've tried going private, we've tried reasoning with the medical professionals but still they treat the symptoms and never the main problem. The pain and constant suffering she has been through is inhumane.

Sorry, rant over, had to get it out somewhere...

debtfreesomeday

Focusing on other things to try and keep myself calm now.
On the moneysaving front, I have taken advantage of the Maplins glitch and ordered some more presents - think I have my Dad's Christmas present sorted now (who is notoriously hard to buy for), as well as some bits to put towards other gifts.

Last week, when I went to pick the Boots orders up, I put my advantage card into the booth they have in store to collect my online points. It seemed I had quite a lot of points owed to me which I'd forgotten about and it boosted my clubcard points up by £12! So, I have £12 odd on there now. We were intending to buy my MIL some perfume as a birthday gift which is £13odd, so if I can build the points up a little more we can buy it with the points which will be a great help.

Off to count to ten now and breathe deeply...

DFSD

debtfreesomeday

Not happy. Just got out phone bill and talktalk have kindly put the prices up - it's costing us £8 - £10 more a month! I shall look at switching tonight...

Chocforever

Good grief, what a day you have had. No wonder you are not happy .

I know you said your Mum has had private referrals in the past to no avail. Is there anyone in the UK with a special interest in her condition that she could see, even if it meant travelling some distance? It sounds like she is lacking a treatment plan so things get out of control which can't be helpful for anyone.

Is it possible to fix the underlying problem or is symptom control the best that can be done?

Let's hope things are better tomorrow xx

debtfreesomeday

I was hoping for a better day today too Chocs, but just had the news Mum's been rushed back in to hospital again this morning after collapsing.

Chocforever

I hope they were more helpful this time and haven't just discharged her without improving the situation. It must be so stressful for you and disappointing that she could not come to visit you .

debtfreesomeday

It's been a few days since I last posted, times have been busy and quite stressful. Mum was discharged the following day, still in pain and still without anyone really looking into the problem. There's not a lot more I can say really. Dad came up to stay with us overnight as he had to sign off the building work which was completed on Friday. My sister stayed with my Mum overnight and Dad returned home the following day. It was lovely to see him and spend a little time with him, but I'm concerned for his health - he's obviously worried sick at the moment and I don't think he looks well. I shed a few tears when he left. This weekend, my parents were supposed to be staying with us for a long weekend break, but obviously that couldn't happen. I am feeling really sad this weekend and missing them very much. I guess I am a little homesick at the moment.

As I said, the building work is finished and now we just have to start on the painting and decorating of the two new rooms. We have all the paint etc we need, my Dad kindly bought enough up for us, and we intend to start tomorrow. There is no rush to get it done, so we will take our time and do it bit by bit - we don't have/can't really afford any furniture for it yet anyway!

Today we cleaned the house through as the dust from the building work got everywhere. It is nice to feel like the house is clean and tidy. I also got three loads of washing done as we haven't been able to do any all week. It has all dried nicely on the line, with just a little still damp that is now in the airing cupboard.

Dinner is ready - a cottage pie my lovely Mum made and froze for us last week before she was poorly; my Dad bought it up with him on Thursday, along with lots of blackberries he'd been out picking and a big bag of windfall apples a friend of theirs had given them. I stewed all of the apple down yesterday and have frozen it for future use. Waste not, want not and all that.

I have to pick hubby up later and need to get petrol whilst I'm out - the car is running on fumes at the moment. Wishful thinking in hoping it would last until next week and payday.

I was pleased to see yesterday that two Quidco transactions have been validated - I had put an enquiry in about each and it seems they both had positve outcomes. Together, they are worth around £30, so hopefully that will pay out this month as we could do with the extra money.

DFSD