How much to charge my mum rent?

CLKG7

Good morning,

I don’t post much but wondered if any of you have any ideas of how much to charge my mum rent per month.

I live with my partner in a two bedroom house and my mum is currently going through a messy divorce.

At the moment our monthly outgoings total £1235 this includes all our bills and our monthly food budget of £120.

We would include whatever my mum wants in the food shopping.

She wants to give us money towards bills etc so have you any ideas on how much? I don’t want to be too harsh and charge her too much
What would you guys do?

Charlie x

Minxy_Bella

Did she charge you rent as a child?

I would just let her buy a bit of shopping every now and then. She'll need every penny to get herself a new home, won't she?

Or - if she insists - then anything she gives you, put to one side and give it back to her when she moves out.

Edit - sorry, I didn't mean to sound so harsh but family's family, isn't it? xx

Jowo_2

If you want to keep it low for your mum's sake and just to cover additional costs for the household, just calculate her actual likely financial impact, i.e. calculate the likely increase in the grocery and energy bills, water if its metered, and pay towards her telephone calls.

A third person joining a household might not be that costly as there's not usually any impact to council tax, insurance and often little impact with telecoms/internet/water/heating.

If she's proud and insistent and/or on a good income, have a look at what lodgers are paying for inclusive accommodation in your local area so you can assure her she's paying the 'going rate' and stop her from getting anxious.

But if you are really reluctant to accept much money and she is really determined to, let her know you prefer her to be a relative and a guest, rather than a lodger, and that you want to be hospitable, that you know she'd do the same back to you if you were in her circumstances now and that's sufficient 'payment'.

LeeSouthEast

Personally, I'd not charge her rent at all. If she wants to bung £50 in the pot then fine, but (certainly my mum anyway) would buy every second food shopping trip (and have a tantrum in the store if we refused!).

poppysarah

Is she staying with you as a short term thing?

Let her chip in to bills and shopping, but unless she's displacing a lodger don't charge her rent.

pawpurrs

I think its a tough one, if shes only staying a month or so, I wouldnt charge anything, she can buy a few bits of food and stuff. However if its likely to be six mths plus, then I think its only fair to pay something. I had my mother in law stay for a long period and she paid £20 a week to help towards food etc, and we fell out, when we went on holiday she wanted a refund or me to prepare 14 days worth of food for her! I have forgiven but my husband still doesnt want to talk to her untill she apologises to me, as I have apologised but she hasnt. Men! Lifes too short and familys family, but two women one kitchen, any length of time, bit of a nightmare!

westv

I would suggest a third of the bills including shopping plus maybe £100 a month.

getmore4less

£120pm for 2 persons groceries is low(food and houshold stuff cleaners bog roll etc.),

£100pp is more sensible

£100pm should do it or do the alternate shops.


£1235 is a lot for a months house expences

Take out mortgage/rent and CT whats the total then?

ivavoucher

I am guessing that with a budget of £120 for food per month you are not exactly rolling in it so I would ask your Mum what she thinks is fair.

It would be no good for anyone leaving you short of cash and getting stressed.

Don't feel guilty taking payment from you Mum as you are still being very supportive in her time of need.

Start with the food bill, likely to go from £120 to £180 per month
£60 off Mum

Oh heck, £75 per week seems OK to me.

Good luck and I'm sure a frank talk with Mum will have it sorted.

xxx

kaya

man your tight, i bet your butt cheeks squeak when you walk, i would never charge my mum rent, i cant believe you are even asking the question!

ivavoucher

kaya wrote: »

man your tight, i bet your butt cheeks squeak when you walk, i would never charge my mum rent, i cant believe you are even asking the question!

I bet you would expect to freeload of her too, just shows what can go wrong when you let your kids think life is for free.