MSE Parents Club Part 11

MadDogWoman_2

Hugs Tara - I hope your DS sees sense soon.

money_maker_3

OMG tara !! Thats awful !!
Do you think he really will ?? Or is he just testing you ??

tarajayne

money_maker wrote: »

OMG tara !! Thats awful !!
Do you think he really will ?? Or is he just testing you ??

You need to remember, he's autistic so doesn't think things through. He also can't see through people so is easily manipulated. If he goes that will be the end of him ever having a near decent life!!!

tarajayne

I even tried emotional blackmail (embarrassed). Tried the couldn't imagine him not being here. Then told him I needed him to stay as we relied on the child benefit etc. Was soo desperate. Made no difference.

Fitzio

KOAG

Apologies in advance if I offend you and feel free to ignore me....

I have been trying not to give you advice re Elliot as I think you seem to be overwhelmed with advice on here. I feel that you keep saying to everyone that you will try everything they suggest, and I don't really want to contribute to that any more. If you do that, you are going to get nowhere. You have to give things time to work before moving on to the next thing. By all means, listen to the advice you get on here, but only be selective about what you feel is right for you. And speak to your HV if you haven’t already as she is the person who is actually seeing you and Elliot and she is there to help.

Everyone’s experiences are different, so for what it’s worth, I will tell you mine and what I would recommend. Mine is based on Colic in relation to passing wind, not burping or reflux or anything else. I can only give you my experience and I am no more qualified than the next person.

We tried Infacol, Colocynth Granules, Dentinox Colic Remedy and finally Colief. It was only when we tried Colief that we noticed an instant difference in Holly. She never ever cried that much, but would kind of scream as if she was in pain for short bursts. She would draw her legs up whilst screaming which is indicative of Colic. She did not have a problem burping after a feed, and she wasn’t in any way constipated, but passing wind seemed to be a problem.

It may have been coincidence that it stopped when we used the Colief, as it might have run its course anyway, we have no way of knowing. Infacol seemed to help a bit but the effectiveness wore off after a few weeks. However, for other people Infacol works wonders. I think that Mel swears by Dentinox, but it did nothing for us. My friend thought the Colocynth Granules were brilliant.

You just need to pick one and stick with it for a couple of weeks. You won’t see a difference if you don’t use it consistently over a period of time. If you see no difference, move on to the next thing and try it for the same amount of time. It’s trial and error to see what suits Elliot. To be honest, I wouldn’t advise switching milk until you have tried the remedies which are designed for Colic. If they don’t help, then try switching milk. It’s just switching milk could end up causing more upset, but that's just my opinion.

As others have said, basic things you can do to help, but not cure the Colic are:
Baby massage (I can send you some instruction sheets if you like with different techniques). If you do his tummy, do it gently in a clockwise circular motion as that’s the way his digestive system flows. Also bicycle his legs gently.
Baths – for Elliot, not for you! This might ease his pain for a short while as the warm water helps.
Feed him reasonably upright, although I find it difficult to sit a young baby too upright when feeding – just make sure he is not completely lying down.
Rocking him or bouncing him gently.
Give him his milk slightly warmed or at room temperature – cold milk might not be good if he has a sensitive stomach.
Don't get so stressed as he will pick up on your stresses. If you can't relax he won't relax.
Find a distraction technique if possible. I have songs I can sing to Holly which instantly quieten her if she is crying. She starts again afterwards but it gains me a few minutes! She also likes the kitchen - apparently the white fridge and other appliances are interesting enough to stop her crying.

I hope I haven’t offended or patronised you and I hope you get some resolution to it. Remember he is a very young baby, and about 25% of babies suffer from colic so it’s completely normal, and they grow out of it after about 3 months when their digestive system matures.

Again, feel free to completely ignore everything I have said as I don’t mind in the slightest.

tarajayne

Hi Sami. XXX

Hmm, all the thanks buttons have gone!

money_maker_3

Tara, can you talk to his dad about how much you are worried for his education etc.. if he was to go now ?? Maybe delay it till he is 18 ??

scruffy96uk

I've got a job lot of toys on Ebay, I was going to freecycle them but decided to pop them on starting bid 99p so it wouldn't cost me ought to list so I wouldn't have lost anything if they didn't sell. They are currently sitting at £6.05. Woohoo I'm not complaining

money_maker_3

ooopps !!

I put a little bid on a beautiful pair of irregular choice shoes thinking they would sell for more than that and won them !!! Great for me, but how do I tell Chris I have just spent a bit too much on a pair of sandles that I really didnt need ????

Sami_Bee

SusanC wrote: »

I have three siblings and I wouldn't swap them for fancy holidays. We didn't always like each other growing up but even so I'd rather have them than not.

ETA: I realised I might not sound how I meant - what I'm trying to say is that it isn't selfish to have another child as the rest of the family (OH, Christopher and Edgar) will appreciate them too.

I know what you mean
Thanks everyone for saying you prefer your siblings to holidays I kinda knew it but was having a bit of a 'moment' I was actually coming on here to start a thread about it but caught up first and you've all made me feel happy again :T

kindofagilr wrote: »

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You may all think I am sad but I went through our freezer today and wrote down everything that is in there, and there are 46 meals worth of food (23 meals though if that makes sense one for me one of OH) I did a meal plan using the food in the freezer, so hoping shopping bill wont be too expensive this month

We also have 6kg of pasta (£3 in asda) I now need pasta ideas please lol, we usually have spag bol, or pasta bake, what else can I do with it?
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I think that's a fab idea! :T
My fave pasta sauce is some of THIS with cream/mayo/yoghurt to make it creamy :drool: we have pasta lots because Chris loves it, usually just pasta in that sauce with any thing from this list; fish, chicken, bacon, peas, sweetcorn, cheese.
You could also make some soup with a bit of pasta in a la minestrone

Glamazon wrote: »

I'll be able to run around naked! Sami will be proud

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lol now I sound like some crazy nudest

3 - thanks for missing me :kisses3:
boo - thanks for the ebay link to those pants, someone commented on Fritha's fb with the panda pants in their avvy I complimented them in the hope they'd say where they got them but they didn't take the bait and I was gutted! guess I know what my 47p in plus points is being used on