MSE Parents Club Part 11

elle_gee

It's Rhys' birthday five weeks tomorrow... :eek:

tarajayne

SM's Mse has crashed so I'm slowly typing.

To cut a long story short. DS1 is moving in with his drug taking Dad, who rents a room in a mega rough area off an alcoholic woman. I am needless to say, devastated! He's the one we think sent me the nasty baby card and has waited until DS1 reached 16.

jennynoo

Somnium wrote: »

Think we're getting somewhere with getting Tahlie to take a dummy now. Changed brand and now she'll suck away for a min or two before spitting it out!

Gettin pee'd off with my breast pads moving and then when my boobs leak ending up wet patches even the sticky tabs do nothing. So tired atm really need a nap but that's not gonn happen for more than a few minutes before OH gets noisy.

Managed to feed somewhere other than at home, admittedley was oy the inlaws but it a start x

Som, you need to wear cardies more, cover all manner of sins!

Totally gutted I missed Aless today at the kite festival, I forgot to take her number and it was impossible to find anyone there but I had fun flying my kite by myself for 5 mins .

Erin has a new favourite toy - a small beach ball! She will even roll over several times to get it We didn't blow it up fully so it's easy for her to hold. I got it free at a conference so very mse :money:

scruffy96uk

((((((Hugs))))) tara

MadDogWoman_2

Hugs Tara - I hope your DS sees sense soon.

money_maker_3

OMG tara !! Thats awful !!
Do you think he really will ?? Or is he just testing you ??

tarajayne

money_maker wrote: »

OMG tara !! Thats awful !!
Do you think he really will ?? Or is he just testing you ??

You need to remember, he's autistic so doesn't think things through. He also can't see through people so is easily manipulated. If he goes that will be the end of him ever having a near decent life!!!

tarajayne

I even tried emotional blackmail (embarrassed). Tried the couldn't imagine him not being here. Then told him I needed him to stay as we relied on the child benefit etc. Was soo desperate. Made no difference.

Fitzio

KOAG

Apologies in advance if I offend you and feel free to ignore me....

I have been trying not to give you advice re Elliot as I think you seem to be overwhelmed with advice on here. I feel that you keep saying to everyone that you will try everything they suggest, and I don't really want to contribute to that any more. If you do that, you are going to get nowhere. You have to give things time to work before moving on to the next thing. By all means, listen to the advice you get on here, but only be selective about what you feel is right for you. And speak to your HV if you haven’t already as she is the person who is actually seeing you and Elliot and she is there to help.

Everyone’s experiences are different, so for what it’s worth, I will tell you mine and what I would recommend. Mine is based on Colic in relation to passing wind, not burping or reflux or anything else. I can only give you my experience and I am no more qualified than the next person.

We tried Infacol, Colocynth Granules, Dentinox Colic Remedy and finally Colief. It was only when we tried Colief that we noticed an instant difference in Holly. She never ever cried that much, but would kind of scream as if she was in pain for short bursts. She would draw her legs up whilst screaming which is indicative of Colic. She did not have a problem burping after a feed, and she wasn’t in any way constipated, but passing wind seemed to be a problem.

It may have been coincidence that it stopped when we used the Colief, as it might have run its course anyway, we have no way of knowing. Infacol seemed to help a bit but the effectiveness wore off after a few weeks. However, for other people Infacol works wonders. I think that Mel swears by Dentinox, but it did nothing for us. My friend thought the Colocynth Granules were brilliant.

You just need to pick one and stick with it for a couple of weeks. You won’t see a difference if you don’t use it consistently over a period of time. If you see no difference, move on to the next thing and try it for the same amount of time. It’s trial and error to see what suits Elliot. To be honest, I wouldn’t advise switching milk until you have tried the remedies which are designed for Colic. If they don’t help, then try switching milk. It’s just switching milk could end up causing more upset, but that's just my opinion.

As others have said, basic things you can do to help, but not cure the Colic are:
Baby massage (I can send you some instruction sheets if you like with different techniques). If you do his tummy, do it gently in a clockwise circular motion as that’s the way his digestive system flows. Also bicycle his legs gently.
Baths – for Elliot, not for you! This might ease his pain for a short while as the warm water helps.
Feed him reasonably upright, although I find it difficult to sit a young baby too upright when feeding – just make sure he is not completely lying down.
Rocking him or bouncing him gently.
Give him his milk slightly warmed or at room temperature – cold milk might not be good if he has a sensitive stomach.
Don't get so stressed as he will pick up on your stresses. If you can't relax he won't relax.
Find a distraction technique if possible. I have songs I can sing to Holly which instantly quieten her if she is crying. She starts again afterwards but it gains me a few minutes! She also likes the kitchen - apparently the white fridge and other appliances are interesting enough to stop her crying.

I hope I haven’t offended or patronised you and I hope you get some resolution to it. Remember he is a very young baby, and about 25% of babies suffer from colic so it’s completely normal, and they grow out of it after about 3 months when their digestive system matures.

Again, feel free to completely ignore everything I have said as I don’t mind in the slightest.

tarajayne

Hi Sami. XXX

Hmm, all the thanks buttons have gone!