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  • Um, you need to be police checked to be a school governor. Not wishing to be nosey, so don't tell me, but if a judge has seen fit to say he should have no contact, then should his position as a governor be under review? Not something you have control over, I understand.
    Am a teacher, and also in a situation where ex has no residence rights, though he is allowed supervised contact. I have written to the school expressly stating that he must not, under any circs, pick child up, and why.
    It is worth revisiting this annually, don't be embarassed, as people do forget over time, with the best will in the world.
    Please do not confuse me with other gratefulsforhelp. x
  • LJM
    LJM Posts: 4,535 Forumite
    the school i work in has had this occur a few times everyone who deals with your child/children will be notified so it would not be a problem and he would not be allowed on school grounds.is your ex a govenor at their school? if not perhaps you should notify the school he is actually govenor for and let them know what has happened as yes his position should be reviewed but he may not have informed them of what has happened
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  • Um, you need to be police checked to be a school governor. Not wishing to be nosey, so don't tell me, but if a judge has seen fit to say he should have no contact, then should his position as a governor be under review? Not something you have control over, I understand.
    .

    I have not been CRB checked in my capacity as a school governor, so not sure that's strictly the case? Unless there are new safeguarding rules coming in?
  • Frith
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    edited 28 February 2010 at 10:56PM
    Yes, he is a governor at my sons' school.

    He is going to court in April (fraud) but hasn't a criminal record *yet* (as far as I know!)

    I can see he would still be able to go to governor's meetings but presumably not to school fetes etc when the boys would be there?

    I haven't spoken to anyone at school about it yet, I just left the letter with the secretary and got out as quickly as possible.

    Thanks for all the replies!
  • Frith
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    Also meant to say: he was granted supervised contact with the boys but decided not to take it.
  • I have not been CRB checked in my capacity as a school governor, so not sure that's strictly the case? Unless there are new safeguarding rules coming in?

    I am currently in the process of sending CRB application forms out to all our school governors. As most of them only come in for meetings when the children aren't in school we haven't bothered before. The latest legislation advises they should be so that is what we're doing. I assume other schools are doing the same!

    That being said no adult is allowed in our doors when the children are in without a current CRB! If they need to come in without one they are accompanied by a permanent member of staff at all times.

    OP - i work in a school office and please don't worry, we are used to situations like yours. i regularly send letters to 'other' parents and we have specific TAs who know who to release children to.

    just make sure you keep the school up to date with what they need to know and most importantly your mobile number incase your ex turns up at school.

    lou x
  • Valli
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    edited 28 February 2010 at 11:12PM
    I have not been CRB checked in my capacity as a school governor, so not sure that's strictly the case? Unless there are new safeguarding rules coming in?
    then you need to raise this with your school....
    you might well have been list 99 checked;)

    I would echo Grateful's notion of revisiting this annually.

    I had a parent (of a child in my class) come to say he was to take another child in my class home as well as his own child (due to snow but anyway) and this parent told me then said he had a codeword for the other child. So I said that he needed to tell the child the codeword (in front of me but out of my earshot) and I asked her if it was the right word. It was, so she left with him. Problem solved. No message to office, no panic but a pre-arranged system that worked. We have another child who has gone home with his p/t childminder who has 'taken him because his mum's late' (ie without prior arrangement) and caused mass panic twice now...*insert rolleyes smiley*
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  • ACEY, as another primary school teacher who has worked in many schools, I had to just put my two pennies worth in and just reassure you that there are so many other people in the same boat and you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Schools have a specific procedure and the secretary will start putting that in place (although I would to a follow up phone-call in a day or two, or have a chat with the class teacher to make sure that they've been informed of these developments). I would definitely arrange a meeting with your children's class teachers/teaching assistants to fill them in on the situation, so if your children do bring anything up regarding your ex-husband (as children so frequently do!) then they know how to deal with it.

    It'll be interesting to see if your ex-husband retains his post as governor after this, especially if he's decided not to take supervised contact with the boys?

    It will all work out absolutely fine, ACEY, don't fret. :)

    Miss_I
  • gratefulforhelp_2
    gratefulforhelp_2 Posts: 9,286 Forumite
    edited 2 March 2010 at 8:56PM
    I have not been CRB checked in my capacity as a school governor, so not sure that's strictly the case? Unless there are new safeguarding rules coming in?

    I believe we will all have to be soon, especially as we should be visiting school. The old rules about only getting police checked if left alone with the pupils no longer apply.
    Please do not confuse me with other gratefulsforhelp. x
  • Takoda
    Takoda Posts: 1,846 Forumite
    A child at my school is 'handed over' every night to one of 2 designated people for this very reason. Anyone covering that teacher's class has to escort the child out.

    Commonplace event. Unfortunately.
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