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Having read this thread i do think OP may have a problem proving that the partner been there when the officer called was just a one off and not because he lives there BUT the arguement some of you are giving that if he stays wed, fri and sat he MUST be classed as living there is pretty strange to me because that is only 3 days of the week the other 4 days he is at his brother so by your thinking he must live there too.
However a friend of mine was told recently that having her ex husband overnight to see his children and grandkids could be classed as a relationship (there is no way they would be back together LOL) because its a regular thing but should she have a differant man over every week that would be ok because there would be no relationship, so being a slapper is ok LOl0 -
WhiteHorse wrote: »The key issues are residence and finance.
He can show majority residence elsewhere. There is no evidence at your place of anything other then short stays. Regularity is immaterial. (But where does he pay council tax? What address shows on the electoral roll?).
He does not make any form of financial contribution in cash or kind.
When you are interviewed, guard your tongue. Think before you speak. Don't be bullied or intimidated.
not sure as my B/f paid his own council tax & was at another address for electoral Roll I still find myself up for tribunal,
miss montana will be in trouble next :eek:0 -
christine_chris_chrissy wrote: »not sure as my B/f paid his own council tax & was at another address for electoral Roll I still find myself up for tribunal,
miss montana will be in trouble next :eek:
Its ok, I've gone back to having a different man every other week, its better that way :rotfl:
The last OH was in the forces and got posted to Afghanistan, so that was the end of that.... found out he'd been telling everyone he was single anyways...Be who you are, say what you feel, those who mind don't matter, those who matter don't mind.They say that talking to yourself is a sign of mental illness. So I talk to the cats instead.0 -
every other week :eek: every other night might be safer :rotfl:
so glad you didn't take offence. what a nightmare for any one to deal with !
before people get too judgemental
IT COULD HAPPEN TO ANY ONE ON BENEFITS
IT COULD HAPPEN TO YOU!0 -
christine_chris_chrissy wrote: »every other week :eek: every other night might be safer :rotfl:
so glad you didn't take offence. what a nightmare for any one to deal with !
before people get too judgemental
IT COULD HAPPEN TO ANY ONE ON BENEFITS
IT COULD HAPPEN TO YOU!
lol I only take offence when people slate single mothers with tattoos who like to watch Jeremy Kyle.
At the end of the day, honesty is the best policy as far as the situation is concerned. If they tell her she shouldn't have him there so often, then they will either have to elope and get married asap (what'd he think about that Bumble?!! )and make all the changes, or he'll have to spend less time at her place or wear a disguise so they do think its a different bloke.... maybe he could take turns with his brother...Be who you are, say what you feel, those who mind don't matter, those who matter don't mind.They say that talking to yourself is a sign of mental illness. So I talk to the cats instead.0 -
No where else but the benefits world would you have someone staying over between 3 and 4 nights a week and not expect a contribution!
Unless the its the tax payers!
Vader
Thats not always true
When I was a single parent my boyfriend stayed over maybe 3 or 4 nights a week and I never expected a contribution. He used to give me a lift to or from work & would have given me money if I asked but it wasnt something I wanted from him.
Just because I was in a relationship with him did not however stop me from being a single parent.
That was however 9yrs ago & I am glad that I am no longer in that situation anymore as he moved in & we got married.
OP I hope it all works out for you. What you both need to consider is if your financial situation is more important than your happiness (as in when deciding whether he should move in or not)0 -
christine_chris_chrissy wrote: »every other week :eek: every other night might be safer :rotfl:
so glad you didn't take offence. what a nightmare for any one to deal with !
before people get too judgemental
IT COULD HAPPEN TO ANY ONE ON BENEFITS
IT COULD HAPPEN TO YOU!
Nothing to do with being judgemental but I can say for sure it could NOT happen to me!!
How can you think anyone [single parent] on benefits out there can be accused of fraud if they don't have a partner, let alone one staying over who has no fixed abode of his own!0 -
I didn't understand that sorry
what I am saying is anyone can phone & report some one then it is down to the person accused to prove they are innocent,I have spent hours upon hours trying to sort it out getting knowhere because someone held a grudge they have moved out now leaving a trail of misery for me & my family & 2 years have passed so far!
I will read this in the morning when I am not tired
hope op is ok0 -
christine_chris_chrissy wrote: »I didn't understand that sorry
what I am saying is anyone can phone & report some one then it is down to the person accused to prove they are innocent,I have spent hours upon hours trying to sort it out getting knowhere because someone held a grudge they have moved out now leaving a trail of misery for me & my family & 2 years have passed so far!
I will read this in the morning when I am not tired
hope op is ok
Anyone can be reported but not everyone could end up being investigated further.
As I said, anyone can report me and I can say for sure nothing would come of it because there is nothing going on here!0 -
If he does not stay the night there will not be a problem. He could always go home at night.(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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