4 year old bully!?!

tinkerbell1978

her behaviour is out of control she smashed my mothers mirror and broke a draw yanking it out and chucking the clothes everywhere! today we spent an hour or two together and in that time she pushed my son poked him in the eye and told my sister that he slapped her in the face and attempted to teach my son the words stinky and something else not sure what it was then when we got into the swimming pool she was quite happy splashing water in his face but when he did it to her she went mad!
found out my sister didnt take the letter in because our father tried to take over the situation and wrote it himself told her she should write it herself!
when we got home my sister looked like she was going to have a break down i just cant help her anymore than i have!

Sinope_2

Do you know the mother at all?

Sometimes mothers of bullys are not "chav" unnaproachable mothers who are bullies but upper class mothers who think the best way to control thier child is not to! I live in surrey and 9 out of 10 of the bullies in schools come from parents who just dont know how to say no.

IsItCozImKool?

I know im 14 but for the 12yo what i do if i get picked on (I'm like the hard working one in the class) I just try to ignore them, like i dont care kind of attitude or i just have some witty comeback not insulting though, and then i find that they get bored. But it hasnt happened with a best friend before so im not really good at that. Im sorry if this doesnt really help but i hope nothing else happens to him I know its gets kinda hard n i used to get frustrated but i hope he's fine.

Stratford_Bill

I don't know what to say.
I would normally tell you to get the kid down to the karate class, but they don't normally start them till they are seven.
In anticipation of the howls of protest about retaliation. I will say this: karate will teach you how to defend oneself from blows - how to parry safely etc.
The oriental martial arts are also good for your self confidence and your self discipline. It also keeps you fit, and keeps kids away from such unathletic things like cigarettes, drink, drugs et al.
I think you will just have to wait out the three years.
If you look up your old physics books, and look up the section on momentum, you can teach the kid to move in the same direction as a blow, so that it will not hurt so much.