My MSE Wedding

Great_Hairdresser

Thank you all for your kind words.

Princess - Just think EVERYONE will be talking about your wedding for years to come, it will be wonderful, if a tad over budget!

Nicky - Go girl, BHS have some sale bridesmaids dresses left at amazing prices.

McNeff - If I invite my parents, I have to invite my 5 siblings, partners and 2 neices. Then OH parents his 8 siblings, partners and children.

That is 55 guests plus me, OH and stepdaughter.

My Mum is happy as long as I am happy and this is what I want, and have the wedding I want not the wedding other people want to have. I am sure if she were to remarry my wishes wouldnt be a factor in her day.

nickyhutch

Thanks GH, I'll have to borrow the niece and have a look.

m000_2

The more we think about the wedding the more we want it smaller and smaller.

GH - yours sound perfect!

McKneff

nickyhutch wrote: »

If it's what she wanted, would you not just be happy for her?

No, i would begin to wonder why she did not want us there.

1. The dont care if youre there or not would kill me.

2. The cost thing, - that can always, always be overcome ie
people paying for themselves.

kr15snw

McNeff: But if they said 'Mum we wanted it just us, it's not we didn't want you. We just wanted to be the 3 of us' would you not understand?

Im starting to wish we did this We keep getting 'you HAVE to do this and this' The latest being we have to have my brothers as ushers. Sorry mum (not that I can tell her this) but one of my brothers is a number 1 twit and my H2B has refused to let him wear a matching suit. Which I understand.

We've just booked a holiday to Australia and have booked to climb the sydney harbour bridge and see you can get married at the top (how cool?!). Wishing we hadn't booked the wedding now so we could do it out there just the two of us

McKneff

You dont 'have' to do anything that other people say you have to. They shouldnt be saying it to you anyway, You even said it yourself in yur post,
You dont have to invite all and sundry, you could just invite parents. Sod the rest.

Just my personal point of view. Not wishing to upset you at all and sorry if i have. Every family is different and circumstances too.

But my only daughter, getting married, without me there OMG. Doesnt bear thinking about.

nickyhutch

McKneff wrote: »

You dont 'have' to do anything that other people say you have to. They shouldnt be saying it to you anyway, You even said it yourself in yur post,
You dont have to invite all and sundry, you could just invite parents. Sod the rest.

Just my personal point of view. Not wishing to upset you at all and sorry if i have. Every family is different and circumstances too.

But my only daughter, getting married, without me there OMG. Doesnt bear thinking about.

But you say your daughter "has to" invite you? I realise you're not saying that outright, but your very strong feelings on this would be evident to your daughter, making her feel like she "had to" invite you.

janthemum

Myself and other half had a wonderful wedding..no parents..ourselves 2 best friends as witnesses and our two children. A lovely meal in a restaurant after. OH and I spent one night in small hotel while friends had kids. We had a nice meal and bottle of champagne that night. It was the most wonderful and intimate wedding, all for about £ 250 all in as well. This was 5 years ago.

All parents quite happy as that is what WE wanted and WE were so happy.

My mum did the same she re married about 8 years ago now and they didnt tell any of their 5 children until after. We were all so happy for them.

My brother married a year ago phoned us up in the evening said 'guess what we have just got married...' I had tears of happiness for them.

Dazi

My daughter went to Jamaica to get married, it was just the two of them. They had a party when they got back.

It didn't upset me in the slightest, and yes, she is my only daughter. It was what they wanted. How lovely was it that they felt we loved them enough to understand. I was just happy that they had a wonderful time. (I did cry over the pics though, as any mum would)

My wedding, we did the whole family thing, if me and my now OH ever get round to it, it will prob be just us and two random people walking by for witnesses lol

McKneff

Dazi wrote: »

My daughter went to Jamaica to get married, it was just the two of them. They had a party when they got back.

It didn't upset me in the slightest, and yes, she is my only daughter. It was what they wanted. How lovely was it that they felt we loved them enough to understand. I was just happy that they had a wonderful time. (I did cry over the pics though, as any mum would)

My wedding, we did the whole family thing, if me and my now OH ever get round to it, it will prob be just us and two random people walking by for witnesses lol

Yes, I seewhat you are saying but you would possibly have felt differently if she was getting married at the registry office just down the road then going off to Jamaica.