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Alexnikov

Don't quite know what you mean Retro - what's the other thread about?

Sorry if I've worded anything in such a way that offfends anyone, it wasn't intentional.

ETA - the revolting comment is something that's purely based on my personal feelings, by the way. I'm full of admiration for parents, I really am - there's just no way I could do it.

*will go home now*

lostinrates

retro_bluebell wrote: »

the anyone child free by choice one Lost.....I totally agree that there are tons of insenstive comments made to those who dont want kids...I would never dream of saying to my closest friend (or anyone one here) some of the things I heard some others say to her...she doesnt want any end of story...but at the same time I wouldnt be friends with her if she was the type to say that having kids is a waste of time and they are something to feel repulsed/ disgusted about...Im all for people doing what they feel is right with thier lives but I dont like it when others look down their nose at me for making a choice that I feel is right for my life iykwim?

Not saying anyones done that here...Im just too sensitive I think...I think I should shut up now...and stop looking at that other thread lol

oh, I haven't seen that I don't think...or maybe I did and didn't really register it? I would steer clear of it. Its obviously likely to contain some posts which will upset a parent ! (and some non parents!)


I think the look down the nose thing is hard. I can't honestly say I've never looked down my nose at someone, though I try hard not to and to be conscious of why I might have less ''understanding'' feelings about them/choices...but honestly? Yes, I do sometimes judge people, I'm not sure but I think everyone does at times, but over different things. (I nee a confused smilie or the shruggy one back!)

piratefairy

retro, none of my comments were meant in that way!!
i've come to the conclusion that if / when i'm ready for that in the future, i'll consider the how's then..my experiences last year really did open up my thoughts to things i'd not considered before, and i went through a really depressed phase, but i think that was partly the circs and the fact we could see tht our relationship was cracking away..which was a hard thing for us to come to terms with..
but i respect everypone's decisions when it comes to having kids, as it is something that only you can decide what is right for you / what you want..i don't believe anyone else has a rigfht to make that choiuce for you..

tara747

retro_bluebell wrote: »

As much as I love you girls I really hope this isnt going to turn into a erm debate like the one on the CFBC thread as to be honest a lot of thise things said on there really upset me......I am all for freedom of choice and I dont believe at all if you say you dont want kids now that you will automatically change your mind when you hit a certain age, but I dont know if I would want to sit here and hear some of "those" types of comments iyswim?

Sorry maybe being too sensitive but I get tons of comments especially having 3 (and 2 different dads) that my hackles get up with these things....

I don't know that thread, but I'm sure we would never be like that here... we're too nice!

lostinrates wrote: »

Not sure which thread you mean retro? I think the thing is for some of us freedom of choice isn't really the issue, we can't: there is no or little choice and have to come to terms with it. I think its better to do this in a positive..what we can do with out lives way, than a negative way...
I can see why some of it might feel insensitive, but tbf, there is a lot of insensitivity over those who don't have kids too. I feel really, really uncomfortable when people ask if we are trying, or when we are going to have kids...the truth is a bit of a downer, and the alternatives untrue or flippant.

I hope we can all stay friends and open and respectful of different stances here.

Gosh yes, it's so insensitive when people do that.

Alexnikov wrote: »

Sorry if I've worded anything in such a way that offfends anyone, it wasn't intentional.

ETA - the revolting comment is something that's purely based on my personal feelings, by the way. I'm full of admiration for parents, I really am - there's just no way I could do it.

*will go home now*

Me too, I didn't mean that I was revolted by babies, just the preggers bit! And even that may not be enough to stop me wanting to try and have one sometime. *And* I really really admire parents too, you must all have endless reserves of patience and love Sorry anyway, hope I didn't offend anyone xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

retro_bluebell

Oh dear Ive created a right fuss now havent I? Ignore me Im feeling like a total loser this afternoon and Im taking my frustration out on you lol- I know you wouldn't say anything out of spite...Im having a really bad day and feel pretty pathetic and unembarrassed now

retro_bluebell

>>>off to ebay to buy a dress >>>>lol

lostinrates

retro_bluebell wrote: »

Oh dear Ive created a right fuss now havent I? Ignore me Im feeling like a total loser this afternoon and Im taking my frustration out on you lol- I know you wouldn't say anything out of spite...Im having a really bad day and feel pretty pathetic and unembarrassed now

Don't feel embarrassed, you have every right to your opinion and to air any discomfort you have! Its better to do that so we can all feel comfortable.

daisybella

No, retro I don't think you've created a fuss,

we're a friendly bunch here though, and I firmly believe we'd never judge each other on any of our choices

piratefairy

ok, lets bring the conversation back to fashion - are these cool or horrible?! i can't quite decide...

tara747

retro_bluebell wrote: »

Oh dear Ive created a right fuss now havent I? Ignore me Im feeling like a total loser this afternoon and Im taking my frustration out on you lol- I know you wouldn't say anything out of spite...Im having a really bad day and feel pretty pathetic and unembarrassed now

Don't feel bad, we know you only said it out of concern that we would all fall out!

retro_bluebell wrote: »

>>>off to ebay to buy a dress >>>>lol

*off to eat some chocolate*

*remembers Lent*

*cries*