No boxed gifts?

anderson8

were looking for money towards our honeymoon and were also hoping to move house soon.
do you think putting "no boxed gifts" on our invites would appear rude and/or too vague?

iamana1ias

anderson8 wrote: »

were looking for money towards our honeymoon and were also hoping to move house soon.
do you think putting "no boxed gifts" on our invites would appear rude

Yes. ......................

Kylie

Yes. (filler text)

violettasomerset

I would just wrap the gift with wrapping paper, rather than a box!

Also, not everyone will agree with me, but I think it's really rude to mention gifts with the invitation. Sure, let your family know you've got a gift list at Debenhams or would prefer cash or whatever, so they can pass the word on if anyone asks, or let friends know if they ask you directly. It just seems greedy if you mention it with the invitations, as no-one is under any obligation to bring a gift or cash - you've invited them for their presence not their presents. Could you set up a honeymoon list with a holiday company, so people don't have to hand over cash (and more importantly for your cash strapped friends, so it's not so obvious how much people have been able to give)?

LaLaLady

Yeah it does sound really rude.

Better to put something on lines of contributions towards your honeymoon would be gratefully as wedding present.

Alyssa_C_2

We're going to ask for honeymoon vouchers as we also have lived together for a while. Be nice about it, but don't be ambiguous or you'll be disapointed!

dawnebabe

I agree it does sound a little rude.

I also agree with Violetta, we aren't going to mention gifts on our invitations. I usually ask when going to a wedding if there is a guest list, if not, then it's easier to give money anyway, but find it a bit cringe worthy to ask for money. It's like asking for guests to pay to come celebrate your day. Just my opinion of course!

laura2481

Why not ask for gift vouchers for one or two particular stores then you get thing for the new house as you find you need them. Eg you could ask for B&Q vouchers for when you need to DIY and Debenahms vouchers for when you need the new cuttlery etc I think 'no boxed gifts' is a bit vague and I wouldn't know what you meant and probably get you something which wasn't in a box :rotfl:

Dizzie77

I agree - I'd think you were on some sort of eco challenge to cut down on packaging or something....!!

Vouchers for the new house would be useful though...

floss2

We have had similar thoughts - I'm currently waiting for DF to get home from site to agree the following to go with our invites:

As we have a home filled with everything we need, we do not have a gift list. However, if you insist, Thomas Cook or Debenhams vouchers would be very gratefully received.

Hope that helps!

anderson8

it was my H2B who mentioned the wording it like that!
apparently someone at his work worded there invites like that, im quite happy not to put anything in the invites as most of the people coming already know that we would like contributions towards honeymoon/new house.
im not really bothered about gifts at all because as was previously stated, as long as the people i love are there with me then thats present enough