I need all the support I can get right now! - update!

zarazara

thats GREAT,and thanks for letting us know the update. Hope it all goes well for you now.

Jacobs_Crackers

Thank you so much NID - you're a gem!

raq

never-in-doubt wrote: »

Is it me or am I missing the obvious here? I never thought someone being in debt was enough to ruin an otherwise happy relationship. If my mrs came to me and told me she was in debt you know what, i'd be more mortified at myself for not realising - the last thing i'd do is moan at her - jesus! Its only money, we earn it and spend it, if it all goes we save up again or work through it together - we do not fall out with each other, that's not what people in love do. Well, certainly not in my world anyway.

Jacobs, if he gets funny then tell him to get lost - his loss. I say fair play to you for getting the courage but if it were me i'd just come out with it and say 'listen love, i'm in debt and couldn't face telling you. Obviously it's no big deal and i'll sort it out but right now I need your support'.

Then talk to him! If he shouts or anything remind him, if he was that loving then why the hell didn't he notice?

still remember to this day when I told my husband. He knew we where £6500.00 in debt but it was actually £13000.00. I cried and cried, but do you know what he was brilliant with it all and said I should have told him sooner. He was so scared that maybe I was depressed ( just had another baby ) , or didn't want him any more. It all worked out in the end and we are todate still together and still paying as much off as we possibly can.

CHin up , sure it will work out for you.

Jacobs_Crackers

Hi Raq,
thanks for your lovely message.
Well a couple of days has passed now, & I've still got the ring on my finger & he's still supporting me! Honestly, I am so shocked. His reaction, what I thought it was going to be, was the main reason why I hadn't told him earlier! Silly me!
JC.
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nicnacnoo

im so glad it went well, was looking for this thread today. I knew it would all be ok, it can only get better from now

Nic

slummymummyof3

Really pleased for you that your OH is supportive of you.

timmmers

Just occasionally humans restore your faith don't they ?

inca_2

That's great to hear the weight has been lifted from your shoulders. Now you have to focus on the positive steps you've taken, you're dealing with your debt not hiding from it, you've shared with your partner and you're taking responsibility for things. You sounded like you were really beating yourself up in your earlier posts. I understand your frustration but don't get so hard on yourself, it won't change anything except to make you miserable. You're dealing with it in a positive way and you've taken the hardest steps so it's onwards and upwards from here!

ramirezhenry55

You are such a lucky gal and more than anything else am sure that you will always be honest with him because he seem to be so understanding and supportive!Kudos to you two!

Jacobs_Crackers

timmmers wrote: »

Just occasionally humans restore your faith don't they ?

Yes, this is very true. However, what I find even more heart warming, is the way that people rally round each other to support & lift spirits. What a God-send this place is.

Thanks again everyone & good luck to anyone else who may find themselves in a similar situation.

JC.
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