Family/friends reaction to br

dojoman

If anyone has told family or friends of their BR, I was wondering what sort of reaction you have had from them?

IF

I know I was very lucky not all are....I couldn’t have done it without them. But there is only so much you can talk to them about. Here you can say so much in one post than you can in a dozen conversations with them. Until you have gone bankrupt, no one really understands the fear you feel before and during....except for here.....

Jaxb_2

I have told my brother and sister in law that I am going for bankruptcy, well oh did, and they were very understanding but then they are in an IVA and the only reason they didn't go for bankruptcy was because of her job.

I have no intention of telling my parents as they wouldn't understand and my mum would be very dissapointed. I don't want to have to face that. I also won't be telling my other brother as he would 'accidently' let it slip to my parents.

tabskitten

Jaxb wrote: »

I have told my brother and sister in law that I am going for bankruptcy, well oh did, and they were very understanding but then they are in an IVA and the only reason they didn't go for bankruptcy was because of her job.

I have no intention of telling my parents as they wouldn't understand and my mum would be very dissapointed. I don't want to have to face that. I also won't be telling my other brother as he would 'accidently' let it slip to my parents.

surely they will find out another way in the end. then be mad at you for hiding it?

Jaxb_2

How will they find out? its not like we discuss finances on a daily basis, or ever in fact.

tabskitten

well- surely you will not be working?

Jaxb_2

Why not? my job will not be affected by the BR so there is no reason for me to stop working!

callywally

Why would you not be working after bancrupcy??? what has that got to do with it?
didnt know bancrupcy stopped you from working?

money_penny_26

hi peeps i cant say for family becauce of elderly parents did not think it fair to worry them.my sister we did not tell either again worried she may say something to the parents. i think what we have learnt 5 month on is this can show you who your real friends are.1 couple in paticular who when we told them about the trouble we were in an that we were going to court,an how worried we were,they had us round for a meal to find out all about it,an just how much we owed an how it had happened,an what we would be likely tro lose!! on the day we came out of court we went to thier house again an the comment was "is that it then,what have you lost,surely your car!!" err no.the comment was then."blimey if its that easy,think i might do it" i tried to say that the nightmare we had gone through leading up to the court day,an emotionally the toll it had taken on us was enough.needless to say we left after a comment about .."we will have to come to your house for a meal now you can afford it." so beware who you tell they can come back to slap ya in the face. other friends have been invaluable,an a great support, but some just like to get you to tell them all about it in your weak moments when you are down.then when you are up an ok they dissapear. regards penny

fredfedup

We told both our families. Parents and siblings. My parents were a little disappointed (not because we went BR, just we had not told them we were struggling earlier) everyone else was fine, and very supportive. We have told a couple of close friends, who again were great. But as for anyone else, I do not feel the need to shout about it. I guess its partly the 'shame of it' and also not wishing to air my private life to every one. I know in my heart of hearts it was the right thing to do, and even if anyone was to find out. I would brazen it out and tell them to mind there own business, if they were unkind in any way.
fred

fiveyearplan

I decided not to tell too many people as I didn't see as it was anyone's business and I didn't really need anyone's support as I got all that I needed on here.