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Bossyboots

Oh hilary, I am so sorry. We had our dog put to sleep in July and I know just how you feel.

As to the ashes, it is not weird or sad (or at least if it is, you are not alone). When our first dog was put to sleep on the 23rd August 2004 I said that I wanted him cremated separately and the ashes returned to be scattered. Well, two years on and we still have the ashes. I couldn't bear to scatter them and I now wish I hadn't asked for them back. After a while, we just decided we would deal with the first set of ashes when we lost our second dog. When it was time to let the second one go, we were able to plan a bit better. This time we ordered a proper urn which can be buried outside. We were full of good intentions. We ordered one big enough for both sets of ashes and had a plate inscribed with their names on the top. It has taken us until now to be able to do anything about it and opening up the urn to add the first set of ashes was very emotional. We have purchased a garden pot which can come with us when we move and this weekend we are determined that we are finally going to bury the urn. Whether we do or not remains to be seen.

I found it very hard to go home after our dog had gone. I would still walk through the door and expect him to be there. Even this week I have done that twice.

hilary1

Thank you for your comments. We make our pets part of our families but we know the time will come when we will lose them but it doesnt make it easier.

I went to give her her breakfast this morning, but funny enough I feel better with her on the kitchen windlow ledge which is where she is at the moment.

A horrible part of life we have to deal with -how strange that what some people would call 'just an animal' can make such an impact on our lives.

redmandarin

hilary1 wrote:

Thank you for your comments. We make our pets part of our families but we know the time will come when we will lose them but it doesnt make it easier.

I went to give her her breakfast this morning, but funny enough I feel better with her on the kitchen windlow ledge which is where she is at the moment.

A horrible part of life we have to deal with -how strange that what some people would call 'just an animal' can make such an impact on our lives.

Hi hilary, not sure if you'll read this, as it's been a few days since your last post, but I thought I'd write anyway. I just read your thread about Daisy and it made me cry. I do feel for you.

I don't think your reaction is at all weird. I think that people who believe that humans are more important than animals are the weird ones. Humans have such a great capacity for love and this doesn't just extend to other human beings.

The only thing I can say to you (and to bossyboots) is that the pain you feel will ease with time. My cat was ill and we took him to the vet. The vet said he had a bowel tumour and it would be best for him to put him to sleep. My daughter and my partner were with me and we each had to take turns to say goodbye to him - it was awful. My daughter was only ten. She cried in the car all the way home. I had to look brave and try to not cry, for her sake - it was a terrible time and we still miss him.

My neighbour's cat was attacked and killed by dogs in our garden. We cried for two weeks - he wasn't even our cat, but we had grown so attached to him.

I know it's a cliche to say that time is a great healer, but it is true. It may take a while, but eventually you will realise that the amount of times that you think about her throughout the day has decreased and (although you may not believe it at the moment) you will start to feel less distressed. Of course you will always miss her and will think of her often and fondly, but give it time and as you slowly come to terms with your loss, you will start to feel a lot better. Good luck and my thoughts are with you. rm