Creepy seller sending inappropriate emails - advice needed

wibblewibble

My mother bought an item of clothing from a seller who has now started sending very creepy, inappropriate messages to her via ebay asking her has she worn it yet, what it feels like on, telling her about how he loves ladies wearing that kind of fabric etc etc. She's very freaked out by it - when the first one came in I told her to ignore it and not respond just leave feedback and don't give him cause to contact her again. But he's now messaged again.

I know you can report it but she's concerned that as they were involved in a transaction he has her address and can get her phone number - he doesn't live all that far from her which adds to the unease. She's worried that if she reports him that could make things worse.

Is there any way she can block him from sending any more messages? The transaction is complete, so he shouldn't be contacting her anyway - let alone with these kinds of messages.

She paid quite a bit for the item but the nature and content of these sexually suggestive messages means she no longer feels she wants to wear it.

chezba

wibblewibble wrote: »

My mother bought an item of clothing from a seller who has now started sending very creepy, inappropriate messages to her via ebay asking her has she worn it yet, what it feels like on, telling her about how he loves ladies wearing that kind of fabric etc etc. She's very freaked out by it - when the first one came in I told her to ignore it and not respond just leave feedback and don't give him cause to contact her again. But he's now messaged again.

I know you can report it but she's concerned that as they were involved in a transaction he has her address and can get her phone number - he doesn't live all that far from her which adds to the unease. She's worried that if she reports him that could make things worse.

Is there any way she can block him from sending any more messages? The transaction is complete, so he shouldn't be contacting her anyway - let alone with these kinds of messages.

She paid quite a bit for the item but the nature and content of these sexually suggestive messages means she no longer feels she wants to wear it.

She will be able to request his address etc too which I suggest she does then takes those details along with the messages to the police as that is harrassment!

Ivrytwr3

3 options from me:

1. Report him to EBay/Police

2. Ignore him.

3. Warn him to stop or (refer to option 1)

I, personally, would nip this in the bud now. Send a message back to him teliing him what he is doing is harrassment and he is to stop immediately as you have saved his messages and will be reporting him to the Police and to Ebay.

LadyGooGoo_2

Can't eBay block him for her?

Failing that, I would set up a new eBay account and email for her and give the details of his messages to the police and eBay. I'm not sure that they would do anything but if he ever did turn up on the doorstep I would hope that they would come round that much quicker because of there being an existing report.

Worryingly I think there are some men who use eBay as way of gaining access to women. I've seen posts on it on here before.

GregtheHammer

Personally I would report them to the police, it is most definately harassment.

cyberbob

Get his details. Copy the messages and give them to the police

RabbitMad

alternatively set up a really expensive 0898 number teminating in uganda or somewhere and tell him to call you and you'll try the item on for him there and then. I'm sure you could easily string it out for a couple of hours and be quids in.

savingmummy

I would report it to the police and to ebay!

I say the police due to him having her details through him sending her the clothing. Ebay can chuck him off but he can always return with different name and continue!!

How awful for your mum, i hate that sort of thing and it would really freak me out too!!! Has she kept the emails?

Hermia

Do you not know an articulate man who could send this creep a polite, but firm email stating that this mustn't continue or the police will be contacted? I got stalked in my last job by a customer. I was having nightmares about the stalking escalating, but one day my boss saw the man in our car park. He went out and had a word with him (he made it obvious he was VERY serious, but did not threaten him) and I never saw the guy again. A lot of these guys are all mouth and no trousers. I wonder whether knowing a bloke is keeping an eye on your mum will put him off.

gavjbrown

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

I, personally, would nip this in the bud now. Send a message back to him teliing him what he is doing is harrassment and he is to stop immediately as you have saved his messages and will be reporting him to the Police and to Ebay.

I agree and tell him you are the husband and not very happy

kiwi_fruit

there're weirdos everywhere and ebay's definately not an exception, just have a look at the thread re: people on ebay buying used underwear and socks urgh. I can't see him carrying on messaging if you ignore, so I'd probably do just that. Or respond asking not to message anymore. I had a question once when selling lingerie set on ebay(new!) if I can wear it before posting it, I just told them where to go and blocked.