Creepy seller sending inappropriate emails - advice needed

Jacks_xxx

Not to be alarmist but I think it's best to take these things seriously.

Maybe the guy doesn't realise that what he's doing is upsetting - but that's all the more reason to tell him. Firmly.

I always think it's best to shout this stuff from the rooftops. Report it to everybody you can think of. Your mum feels unsafe and worried in her own home because of this - and that's a serious thing.

You could ask eBay for his details and phone him yourself, but if you do I think it's also a good idea to put it on the record with eBay and the police. I've been through this - they'll take you seriously.

treepotato1

Hermia wrote: »

Do you not know an articulate man who could send this creep a polite, but firm email stating that this mustn't continue or the police will be contacted? I got stalked in my last job by a customer. I was having nightmares about the stalking escalating, but one day my boss saw the man in our car park. He went out and had a word with him (he made it obvious he was VERY serious, but did not threaten him) and I never saw the guy again. A lot of these guys are all mouth and no trousers. I wonder whether knowing a bloke is keeping an eye on your mum will put him off.

Why would it need to be a man who emailed him? No-one need know the gender of an emailer.

wibblewibble

He was sent an email from my father via mums ebay account very politely stating that my mother wasn't interested in either "chatting" to him or purchasing any further items from him, and asking him not to contact her again or he'd be reported to ebay.

In response the seller sent an all caps reply threatening to report mum to the police for threatening him (presumably the "threat" was that he'd be reported to ebay if he continued) then stating that it wasn't his fault that my mother had been buying "fetishwear" from him and was obviously a pervert.

Bear in mind my mother is in her late 60's and had purchased a raincoat listed in the womens clothing catagory absolutely nothing in the listing indicated the item was anything other than a perfectly ordinary raincoat - I'm informed by her that 4 other women in her weight watchers class all have similar coats as they are all the fashion these days .... it most certainly isn't "fetishwear".

Needless to say he has now been reported to ebay.

lucystardust

That seller sounds mental, I think you should also take this to the police.

I know its not quite the same, but I once stopped having driving lessons with an instructor who I found to be a bit creepy and annoying. Then he bombarded me with harassing calls and texts demanding to know why I didn't want to continue lessons. I thought the best thing to do was just ignore it and he'd stop - but this continued for 3 months and he started calling my landline too. I wish I had just told him at the beginning to shove off cos I had constant worry for those few months every time I got a text, and also knowing that he knew my address etc.

You've definitely done the right thing by sending him an email from your dad, can't believe he had the cheek to reply with threats! What a weirdo.

boombap

If I were in your mothers shoes (no pun intended, we're not on the 'well worn shoes' thread now) AND I didn't want to inform ebay / the police then I'd message him back and say that the item was bought for someone else and not you/your mum thus you haven't tried it on and have no intention of doing so.

S.