A deep breath...

Scared2tell

I wouldn't say I was brave to be honest far from it. But I got to breaking point. I could not take it any longer. I hid it from him for over six years and lived in denial, buying lots of christmas presents, holidays etc and it just got too much, knowing if i didn't tell him soon it would break us up. I ended up looking at it from worse case scenario, he's either going to leave me when he finds out himself or leave me when I tell him. Either way it wasn't going to be any good.

Although I still feel he is disappointed in me and I feel like I have let him down. He now feels if I can tell him this I can tell him anything and it has brought us closer, he now looks at me in a different way rather than looking and worrying that I wasn't telling him something. Does that make sense? He always knew something was wrong, he is now relieved that we don't have a barrier there anymore.

I may be completely wrong, but he probably senses that something is wrong but doesn't know what, so essentially might not be that happy either. In terms of help, he may not be able to help monetary wise but can in support. It is really hard and don't for one minute think I think its easy because its one of the hardest things I ever had to do.

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wuzzypoo

Hi S2T,

Well done in telling your fella, and I bet he's so glad he now knows what has been wrong with you. I know it's going to be a long slog for you, as it is for me and many others of us on here who, have all like you said have been stupid or just a victim of circumtsance which has put us all into a similar situation, but in doing this there are so many folk on here who have been or are going through the same so who totally understand exactly where you are coming form. Although you said you don't feel any better yet, I'm sure you will do soon as it will be a bit less pressure for you not to have to cope with on your own in such a stressful situation.

To litttlesmurf, well done in sorting out your DMP, and hopefully you will know when the time is right to tell your partner. At least you can show your partner what you have to do sort things out, so instead of everything looking bleak, there is a light at the end of the proverbial tunnel.

The only thing I can now say to S2T is now your gonna have to change your name, as your no longer scared!

Good luck to you and Littlesmurf.

Wuzz

littlesmurf

your situation sounds bery much like mine s2tell . I do so want to tell my hubby but something always comes up , he is so unhappy in his job of 22 years atm and so low that how can i put any more pressure on him
take care
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