Title After Marriage....

cazziebo

I kept my name and interchange Miss and Ms. Always correct people who call me Mrs - Mrs X is my mother!

When we split I changed the children's name to mine (they were pre school so weren't used to any name) so we all have the same name.

Aileen_Una

A title isn't a legal thing, hence why you can choose Miss or Ms. So you can keep your surname at marriage as anyone could, and go ahead and pick your title.

Mrs Maiden Name should be fine, some of our teachers at school did this.

thursdaynext

I am a Ms not a Miss - as in, I tell people that is my title and that's what they call me. As a general rule, if I don't know someone well enough for them to use my first name to talk to me, then I don't think they really need to know my marital status...

There's no formal rule that says you have to be a Mrs because you're married (or that you can't be Mrs if you're not), it's a social convention/tradition that's evolvedfrom the idea that married women are somehow different/better/more worthy of respect than unmarried... (I know that 'cos I looked it up on Wikipedia :rotfl:)

Call yourself what you like - but there will be an assumption that the two of you share a surname if you use 'Mrs' so be prepared to spend a significant amount of time correcting people, if that's what you choose...

snapping_crocodile

Kavanne wrote: »

I just read this post out and he said 'I see no reason not to'!!!!! :eek::eek::eek::eek: I never thought of doing that before.... but he'd have to change by deed poll, yes?

Excellent...problem solved I think you are right he would have to change by deed poll, but I think it only costs £30 ish pounds, and for that bargainous price you get to keep your heritage and share your cool surname with your OH, whilst he gets to lose his 'ordinary' name. Win win!! :rotfl:

notisis

I kept my own surname when I married. I'll answer to Miss or Ms - most often Ms. I didn't bother changing bank details so all my cheque book, debit cards still have Miss on them. In fact I didn't inform anyone like DVLA so everything still in maiden name. If we have children then we said we'd double barrel.

skintchick

Do what you want! I changed my surname but stayed Ms (it's NOT for divorced people or mistresses! It's a non-marriage-specific title, same as Mr is for men).

Penelope_Penguin

Proc wrote: »

Just out of interest why do you want to keep your name and not change? If my missus even suggested keeping her name after marriage I'd not be happy.

What if she wanted you to change your name to hers?

JabT wrote: »

I haven't changed my surname, one of my conditions for gettting marriage as I don't like his! If I have to put a title I put 'Ms' otherwise just use my initials. Really pees me off when people call me by his name not mine.

It'sfunny when people call him by Mr *your surname* though :rotfl:

I kept my name when we got married, and husband kept his. We're both Docs, though, so change of title never arose.

You can call yourself whatever you like, as long as you're not doing it to commit fraud.

fayhare

I would use Ms.

I am a Ms as I have no desire to announce my marital status via my name. Miss is a suitable title for a female child but not for a grown woman in my book.

yoni_one

Whatever you want to go by is ok.

And congratulations!

*Edit - oops, only just spotted that you 'might' be getting married, so my congrats may be a tad premature, but you can bank 'em for the right time if you want

Churchmouse

Penelope_Penguin wrote: »

What if she wanted you to change your name to hers?



It'sfunny when people call him by Mr *your surname* though :rotfl:

I kept my name when we got married, and husband kept his. We're both Docs, though, so change of title never arose.

You can call yourself whatever you like, as long as you're not doing it to commit fraud.

Yes that's absolutely correct, you can call yourself by any name you choose, but for ease of life with "official" things, it can be useful to make the change by deed poll or statutory declaration.

The intriguing part comes as to what to call any children. I read an article by a woman who was professing how she wanted her children to carry her surname rather than their father's ( to whom she was married) She had her father's surname. Interesting that she felt fine carrying her father's surname, but felt her children should carry their grandfather's surname rather than their own father's.:huh: Still it's all these variations that make life interesting To the OP, how lovely that prospective DH would be happy to take your surname :T He must be very confident in himself for who he is