42 week pregnancy - advice!

looby75

Maybe we should all have a collective shout to your little one and tell him/her times up and it's time for eviction

I propose 10 am tomorrow if you haven't had the baby by then LOL

Jo_R_2

Kimberley wrote:

I didn't think they let you go over two weeks late :eek:

Oooh Kimberley the conversations I have had about this with sooo many people!

Other comments include, "how long will they LET you go?", "Don't you HAVE to be induced after 41/42 weeks?" and "what's the furthest you'll be ALLOWED to go?"

Basically the simple explanation to what you are saying is "they" advise and recommend. It's me that decides, it's my choice, and I can listen to them talk about induction for hours (as they like to!) but at the end of the day it's me who says what's happening, not them -and it's the same for anyone.

I have read too many stories about women having various things done that they weren't happy with because (and I quote) "I didn't realise I had a choice." It makes me feel really sad that anyone thinks that because a doctor says the hospital policy is induction after 42 weeks, that they HAVE to have an induction.

The thing is, some doctors/midwives would have you believe you didn't have a choice in the way they phrase things - but I think that's more to cover their backs in case you choose something that goes against guidelines because obviously they'd be the ones questioned about the advice they gave to you.

Tbh I don't feel too different to how I felt at 39/40 weeks and things are fine in there so am happy to wait! But on that note I think things might be happening... Let's wait and see!:j

Lillibet_2

Good grief Jo, set off a firework under your chair for goodness sake:rotfl:

WeirdoMagnet

Jo_R wrote:

But on that note I think things might be happening... Let's wait and see!:j

How exciting! Good luck Jo_R, although I'm sure you don't need it! It's a good point that you've made about YOU being the decision maker - when my SIL had her baby she was a few days overdue, but they were talking about inducing her after 10 days (hosp policy), and I think we just 'toe the line' and go along with their daft 'policies' as we're expected to!

I have been following this thread everyday to keep up with developments! It is really interesting to read everyone's stories, but I've already decided that if/when I have kids, they're going to be gift-wrapped and delivered by the stork!!! :rotfl:

George

Jo_R_2

Georgina wrote:

It is really interesting to read everyone's stories, but I've already decided that if/when I have kids, they're going to be gift-wrapped and delivered by the stork!!! :rotfl:

George

:rotfl: George! I might have to have that arranged if we have any more!!!

looby75

ooooh fingers crossed (but not legs though...that will slow things down ) lol

bumpybecky

Jo_R wrote:

But on that note I think things might be happening... Let's wait and see!:j

if you keep doing lots of these - :j :j :j I'm sure that'll help

best wishes for a fantastic home birth, when ever baby is ready

Kimberley

Jo_R wrote:

Oooh Kimberley the conversations I have had about this with sooo many people!

Other comments include, "how long will they LET you go?", "Don't you HAVE to be induced after 41/42 weeks?" and "what's the furthest you'll be ALLOWED to go?"

Basically the simple explanation to what you are saying is "they" advise and recommend. It's me that decides, it's my choice, and I can listen to them talk about induction for hours (as they like to!) but at the end of the day it's me who says what's happening, not them -and it's the same for anyone.

I have read too many stories about women having various things done that they weren't happy with because (and I quote) "I didn't realise I had a choice." It makes me feel really sad that anyone thinks that because a doctor says the hospital policy is induction after 42 weeks, that they HAVE to have an induction.

The thing is, some doctors/midwives would have you believe you didn't have a choice in the way they phrase things - but I think that's more to cover their backs in case you choose something that goes against guidelines because obviously they'd be the ones questioned about the advice they gave to you.

Tbh I don't feel too different to how I felt at 39/40 weeks and things are fine in there so am happy to wait! But on that note I think things might be happening... Let's wait and see!:j

I understand what you say, but the longer you go over your date, isn't it a risk to the baby to stay put? and also the plumper baby will be

bikerqueen

There is a fear that the placenta will start to deteriorate after 2 weeks over term, but regular monitoring at the hospital will give her a good idea if this is the case and avoid induction. Also, the dates are based on 28 day cycles and 40 weeks being term, many other first world countries measure it differnetly.

My birth pool's just arrived Jo, want to come and see if that helps?

northernstar_3

Good luck with the birth - I hope you get exactly what you want. I'm a midwife and an advocate of home births I've just looked after someone who went to 42+5 and we were really hoping that she'd go into labour and deliver her baby at home. Unfortunately, she ended up going to the hospital to be induced, but she did have a nice normal birth.
I think it all depends on how strong a person you are when it comes to standing up to health professionals (sad, but true), and the consultants who medicalise everything and make you think you're terrible person if you defy 'their rules'.