Bedtime for young children

xmaslolly76

As others have said i think it each to their own. my kids are 7 and 11 now and the 7 year old goes at 7:30 and is allowed 30 mins tv and the older goes at 9pm but isnt alloweed tv she was given the option of going 1/2 hr early but chose to stay up. My ex Mil used to let her daughter fall asleep down stairs which often meant she was up until 10-11pm she was then a nightmare to get up in the morning for school. I used to think it was ridiculas but then it was her child so her choice :-)

elektra-2007

My neighbours kids are up til 10-11pm they goto sleep down stairs and are put to bed when there parents goto bed, so i can sympathise as im often woken by screaming tired kids and parents. I dont think there is alot you can do. Ive found using ear plugs and setting my alarm to loud has helped alot, you can still hear but its a muffled sound.
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tandraig

I cant help wondering - even if everyone agreed that the kids should be in bed by 8.00 where exactly are you going with this thread? help and advice i am willing to give - but not sure what you are asking for here?
do you just want to feel justified in your viewpoint? or do you have some idea that these kids are somehow 'at risk' and want backing to phone social services?
or are you just annoyed at being kept awake after your own bedtime?

digitalphase

tandraig wrote: »

I cant help wondering - even if everyone agreed that the kids should be in bed by 8.00 where exactly are you going with this thread? help and advice i am willing to give - but not sure what you are asking for here?
do you just want to feel justified in your viewpoint? or do you have some idea that these kids are somehow 'at risk' and want backing to phone social services?
or are you just annoyed at being kept awake after your own bedtime?

:rotfl: I'm not 'going anywhere' with this thread, simply wanted some views, not for everyone to say "I agree with you" :rotfl:

Obviously it is up to the parents what time their kids go to bed, but seems odd when they will need a routine for when they go to school. If they go to bed late then they won't get up in time for school, and if they do, they aren't going to learn properly.

I'm not looking for advice, we are looking to move shortly anyway, so it is not our problem. I just thought I'd see what other's opinions are

For the user who mentioned earplugs - the noise can still be heard through earplugs, so this has been tried. Also our neighbours are well aware of the noise level as we have 'discussed' it before.

tandraig

fair enough digitalphase - just wanted to know!
my thoughts are - the parents are either irresponsible - or the kids are night owls!
one or both of the parents work shifts.

the kids suffer from ADD or ADHD and are brought to grandparents to give parents a break!

either way - your routine is disrupted. you have tried a word with the neighbours - when you hear kids arriving do you have a spare room which is quieter? you could camp in there for the night?

your house must be like mine - paper thin walls! i found the front bedroom is quietest when it comes to neighbour liking late night tv!

have you got a tv or radio in bedroom? sometimes if neighbour is a bit loud i put music on to drown it out. can sleep ok then!

digitalphase

tandraig wrote: »

fair enough digitalphase - just wanted to know!
my thoughts are - the parents are either irresponsible - or the kids are night owls!
one or both of the parents work shifts.

the kids suffer from ADD or ADHD and are brought to grandparents to give parents a break!

either way - your routine is disrupted. you have tried a word with the neighbours - when you hear kids arriving do you have a spare room which is quieter? you could camp in there for the night?

your house must be like mine - paper thin walls! i found the front bedroom is quietest when it comes to neighbour liking late night tv!

have you got a tv or radio in bedroom? sometimes if neighbour is a bit loud i put music on to drown it out. can sleep ok then!

The parents don't work shifts, I'm not sure they work at all. They are round at their parents almost everyday, it has been like this for years, and will continue to be well after we've moved.

Unfortunately both main bedrooms are back to back with theirs, so no escape from the noise :rotfl:Definitely paper thin walls! The house was made in times when people didn't have loud TV's or music players :rotfl:

I'm not asking for advice on it at all, I just wondered what time other parents put their kids to bed!

mumslave

I have a 4, 3 and 1 year old. All in bed 7pm. I dont agree with preschool age children being up so late at night, but then I am old fashioned really.

Counting_Pennies_2

When I got my first flat, (wanted to escape home, so got a job, mortgage and escaped) my neighbours moved into work accommodation (he was a prison officer) and rented their flat next to mine to the housing association.

They put a teenage mum in there and she used to let the little one roam outside in the road all hours of the night. Social services weren't in the least bit worried. The child wasn't looked after well, and the walls were paper thin and I heard everything that could be heard!

This is where it isn't right.

I moved quite soon after!

milliebear00001

My kids are now both in bed at 7.30/8pm on school nights as my oldest is at school. They go a bit later at the weekend. When they were both pre-school age (and so didn't have to get up in the morning) we kept them up later so that daddy got to actually see them during the week. I don't think it's irresponsible to keep them up late if they don't have particular hours to keep - it certainly didn't make it harder for me to impose an earlier bedtime as soon as mine needed it (i.e. when the oldest started school).

daveyjp

If the parents don't work the children in the OP thread will have a loose structure to their day. There's no need for them to get up, they can sleep during the day so to them it's not an issue if they go to bed late.

Our DD is in nursery for 7.30am and is home for 4.30pm, she doesn't sleep during the day anymore and as a result we are lucky if she sees 7pm. She then wakes at 6ish am.