MSE Parents Club Part 10

wi3adora

Awww Buttons I'm not very good with words and wouldn't even know where to
begin, but I've seen the photos of Keira you post and she looks like a happy child, not one who is abandoned by their mother.

Have some hugs from me xx

wi3adora

Well I shan't be going into work today, I went to bed at 10pm and between then and now I'm lucky if I've had 30mins sleep

Both DH and Daniel are still not well, Daniel hasn't kept a bottle or any food down all day. I got projectile vomited into my eye and mouth before hows that for I love you mummy!! Trip to the docs for both of them in a few hours methinks.

weezl74

mornin Dora! I've been up since 3.10.

Miserable isn't it?

Whatcha up to?

xxx

weezl74

Button I haven't read back heaps as life is a bit frantic with me at the mo, but I wanted you to know that I've read your post about your mum and Keira and I feel very moved and so I want to say some things about what you've written.

You know I work in the area of counselling and all that jazz, right?:D

Well one thing we counsellors know is that mostly when people flip out and start accusing others of stuff it's usually a projection of something they really think about themselves, only can't bring themselves to admit it.

For your mum, at some level she knows she didn't get it right while you were growing up. That 'bad mummy' guilt probably buzzes around in her like an angry wasp, and when she's had little sleep/is under pressure/stressed or whatever, she has a strong psychological need to throw it at someone else.

I'm really sorry you got stung by your mum's wasp. That makes me feel terribly sad.

Here's what I think. And I know it's not worth much when some woman from Wales you've never met says something, when it's your own mum's opinion it's up against, but I really believe this so I'll try.

Button you are an excellent mum to Keira.

Normally people who have hard childhoods land up just mindlessly repeating what happened in their families with their children.

It's like a line of dominoes all stacked up, and you touch one and it splats the next one and that splats the next one and.... and that's like each generation just toppling onto the kids.

Sometimes though, there are rare and noble dominoes, who make a decision to glue thenseves to the floor and refuse to just topple onto their kids. They say in their hearts 'this is going to end with me. In this generation, and I will not let it hurt my kids'.

In all the ways you talk about Keira and your decisions about her I hear your resolve to be that glued down domino, refusing to topple on Keira.

I really, really admire you for it. I feel so impressed with you.

Please know that it's not you. It's not your issue, it's hers.

I feel that loads of the mums here on our parent thread (and Dads too) are trying in our own ways to be that kind of glued down domino.

That's why I really like you all.

Love Weezl x

wi3adora

Morning Weezl xx

I actually managed to get a couple of hours. What annoys me though is I have to wait till 8.30 before I can ring the docs or work :mad:

How are you feelin? xx

ladybirdintheuk

Morning all. I was going to moan about not having enough sleep, but I'll shut up now.

BM :mad: at your Mum. Not got anything helpful to say, Weezly is better at words than me, but I will add that she is a big fat meanie, if that helps at all.

I have a little stripper here - she keeps taking her trousers off. She was kissing my nephews wrestler figures yesterday too. Should I be worrying? :rotfl:

elle_gee

Morning all..

Day # 1 of the new "get up at 7am plan", completed! (*groan* Can I go back to bed now? *groan* )

OH was actually on his way down the hall with Rhys as I was just switching everything off last night. Apparently he'd been wittering since OH took him to bed and wouldn't drink his bottle.... Nooo, that's because he need changing - quite obvious to someone without a cold! :cool: So sorted that out, put him back in bed, he downed his bottle and was out like a light. OH not impressed!

Plan for today is finish my cuppa, tidy up a bit, get sorted and dressed ready for carpet fitter coming at half nine. Will leave Rhys to wake up on his own. Mum's coming round at some point this morning to drop off the cotbed, mattress and futon so it appeared we have some flatpack building to do later tonight! I've bought our tea ready made (Morrisons The Best Lasagne, ohh err, and rhubarb crumble) for ease and laziness

Button, I don't know what to say but *hugs* for you xx
Dora, hope your boys are better soon xx
Weezl, any chance of you getting a nap today? xx

Hope everyone has a good day xx

weezl74

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Weezly is better at words than me, but I will add that she is a big fat meanie...

I read that as me the first time :rotfl:and you would've been right! I am ginormous :DThere's only about 1 cm left before I am gonna be an outy and I am already a little bit at the end of a day. Yucky yuck

Elle, and dora, thanks I might get a little nap later cos DH is taking Fergie to a 1 hr settling in session at the new childminder at 1.30

pinkpig08

Morning

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ELLE!! Any plans for today? Other than getting up at 7am!

Think we're going to the childminders this afternoon. She text me last week about sorting out some settling in sessions for Caitlyn, so need to arrange some times with her It's all coming too fast! I'm dreading it too because Caitlyn won't stay with anyone else at the minute.

Think I have a poopy baby, back later x

weezl74

pinkpig08 wrote: »

Morning

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ELLE!! Any plans for today? Other than getting up at 7am!

Sorry Elle, I didn't realise it was your birthday:beer:, I hope you have a good one with some pampering

I've been mulling on your PM BTW, just got a bit of a head full at the mo, but will come up with some recipes soon