MSE Parents Club Part 10

elle_gee

Hmm.. so much for our new resolution of being in bed by midnight! :cool: OH has just gone and I'm staying up for the next 27mins (so the washing machine tells me) plus however long it takes me to put the washing on the airer Anything before the usual 2.30am is a bonus, I suppose!

Sami_Bee

Krystaltips wrote: »

Bit of both I think... Mixed in with sleep deficiency lol... I think we're ok... He bent over so I poked his !!!! and he laughed at me... It's a good sign...

Happy birthday!!!

hmm... Can say arsed but not ar5e.... Interesting... Not...

:rotfl:I do that to OH too

Beenie - sorry you get it to but but glad I'm not alone IYSWIM xx

searching_me

night i really should go to bed ... gotta take zoe to school in the morning night night lovelys xxx

Krystaltips

Lol Sami,does your hubby jump and swear when you do it too?

My favourite is when he's leaning forward and a bit of his bum shows... I like to poke pens or spoons or anything handy into the crack...

Sami_Bee

Krystaltips wrote: »

Lol Sami,does your hubby jump and swear when you do it too?

My favourite is when he's leaning forward and a bit of his bum shows... I like to poke pens or spoons or anything handy into the crack...

yep and me too :cool:

elle_gee

Bedtime at last... an hour early, woohoo! Night night all xx

MadDogWoman_2

Elle - no let down for me in ages. Weirdly though mid afternoon when at work I get the tingle (no leaking) must be when I start thinking about getting home to Katie.

Katie drinks out of anything, she can even handle a pint glass! (half full)

Happy Birthday Elle!

Sweet dreams everyone.

BeenieCat

Can't sleep

Worried about my cat. She goes out every night no matter what the weather, but Sat daytime was puking on my rug so i kicked her out thinking she just had a furball, cos it'd either be eating dry food too fast or furball.
Anyway she was asking to be in after that but i was about to go to bed and she's a pita at night wrecking and meowing, so just put the food bowl outside and thought nothing of it, she's usually at the window first thing on a morning.

Food hadn't been touched when i went out in morn and not seen the cat since?? She's actually a boy (lol) and still has his (tiny) balls so i know they tend to wander off occasionally for a day or two but now feel like crap in case she was ill and is now dead

Buttonmoons

Sorry to hear that Beenie But because he/she still has it's balls, he's probably just roaming for a hottie on the streets. Male cats do tend to wander off for a few days (more so if they still have their danglys)

I'm going to rant:

Ok, me and OH went into town last night, I asked my mum if she would babysit Keira, if she had said no, then fair enough, I wouldn't of went out. Wasn't a big deal either way.

Anyways she said yes so Keira was happy to go play with Ellie and me and OH went out.

I ended up back at one of our friends house with a bunch of friends and eventually fell asleep on the hardwood floor at about 9am - oops! AnyHEW, my mum apparently called my mobile at 12, now I had set my alarm to go off then but it obviously conincided with the thing going off (I totally cant remember!) and I cut her off.

The issue was, that during the night at my mums Keira woke up around 3am, complaining of a sore stomach and she was soaked in sweat. She HAD had a cold (slight sniffles, no biggy) before she went, and obviously she developed a fever and it broke in the night. She had called my house at 10:30 and told OH, and OH just said "Oh well her fever obviously broke etc etc"

Now my mum is a total OTT douchebag when it comes to sick kids, the only time she actually shows some concern, and was raving to OH to get her to the emergency doctors (omg why) and he told her he didn't think it warrented a visit and was a bit extreme, hence probably why she had phoned me later to moan about OH, and moan moan moan.

Keira is still under the weather, her eyes are full (watery etc) she does keep getting stomaches and her farts are utterly butterly dreadful, I'll be keeping her off nursery again, but it doesn't require a doctor visit. She has a Winter bug, It's not nice, but calpol and some huggles is all she needs.

Anyways I go on FB earlier and my mum is giving me the spanish inquisition about what I had done the night before, and then basically launched into an attack about how IM an unfit parent and shouldnt be going out and pawning my sick child on people, how dare I not answer my mobile etc etc.

I was RAGING.

Firstly, Keira wasn't even "Sick" when she went to my mums. She had a sniffle, and perhaps my mum shouldn't of let her outside to play in the effing snow, without her gloves on (which I had packed!)

Secondly, Why does it matter if I DID NOT ANSWER HER CALL, she had already told OH about it all an hour and a half previously, last time *I* checked, he was her parent too.

Thirdly, if Keira was apparently THAT sick, why did she not call or text me at 3am, when she woke up with a sore stomach? I would of taken a taxi there and back home with Keira, if she was geuninely very unwell, and not some imaginery stomach disease that my mum conjurs up.

FOURTHLY - My mum let Keira outside again today to play in the snow so she has a serious effing cheek to comment on me and my LACK OF CARE, when she is letting an APPARENTLY SICK CHILD WHO NEEDS TO GO TO THE DOCTORS outside to play in artic conditions.


just the whole sarcastic twatness of her messages made me want to punch her stupid saggy face in. She is the most unfit mother in the world! Bloody battered me with a whiskey bottle as my step dad strangled me in one of their weird sick drunken games that involved instigating me to be cheeky to them so they could basically beat the crap outta me, but jesus yeah! I go out on a night out with friends and my OH, my daughter had some stuck gas and HOLY MOTHER OF EARTH IM THE WORST MOTHER IN THE WORLD.

I apparently go out too much too, like it has anything to do with her? I was practically a hermit since I had Keira, it's only in the past few months Ive actually started socialising again because I feel like people won't laugh at me based on my appearence. I have serious self esteem issues, probably stemmed from the fact growing up, she fed me crap food, and then they all called me fat.

Im sitting here in tears, I know fine she will of been on the phone proclaiming to everyone about how I abandoned my sick child to drink booze. That is what she does, makes out she is a FAB parent, when she has been OUT every Sat AND Sun since Ellie was born. Well mostly.

Im back in contact with my real dad, and he gave me and OH a lift into town yesterday and he was telling me that the few times he did see me, I was right fat and my mum just fed me crap food, and he told her to put me on a diet (ok harsh whatever) and she started raving at him. I can see his point, if Keira got fat like I was as a kid, Id put her on a diet too (obviously within reason)

Ellie said to me last week when I was looking after her (oh yes did I mention I practically raised Ellie from an infant until I moved out, I used be up for work at 5:30am, and not get home until near 5pm, and if I didnt babysit Ellie at nights for her to go to bingo, then I'd be kicked out, lurvely)

Ellie said "Karen, I like you, you talk to me, my mummy doesn't talk to me"

It breaks my heart, because I know exactly what she means, you are spoken too, to be told to do XYZ or stop doing ABC, but you are rarely spoken too and involved in conversation.

I know myself I've been out a lot lately, well maybe once every two weeks or so, but at the end of the day, I'm 22, I got pregnant at 17, I had no friends in between, I just crave a little normality for what 22yo's have. I don't even neccassarily mean going into town, just meeting friends, having a chat etc.
I love Keira SO much, but she is almost 4 now, she doesn't need me as much as she did as an infant, when I go out, she's with her dad usually.

The insane thing is, If I was a lone parent and Keira went to her dads every weekend, no-one would even judge me for going out every weekend because she would be with her dad, how is it any different if I go out if OH is with her?

I just feel so crap now, I hate being judged by my mum, she lives in her own little ignorant bubble, and yet every comment she makes about me is like being stabbed and I dont even know why I let it bother me so much because she is basically pond scum. OH says it's because she is controlling and always has, and he's probably right.

I can't even sleep because Im upset about it all. Why should I even care what she thinks? She is the worst parent I know (except for my step gran) has never even taken Ellie to a park !!!!!!!

Buttonmoons

I'm still going on about this:

I know I'm not a perfect parent, sometimes I feed Keira crap, I give in to her moans now and then, sometimes I can snap and shout at her if she is being particularly draining that day, I've never ever ever smacked her, which is an everyday occurence to poor Ellie (and no it doesnt improve her behaviour)

I'm not against smacking per se, just don't agree with it when your angry, as I don't see how it teaches your child anything, except to lash out when your mad, you can't punch another adult in the street because they annoyed you (well your not supposed too ) so why is it okay to do it too a child?

I would smack Keira if she ran onto a road or something though because a sharp shock and some bruised feelings are preferable to a broken a neck.

I don't even know what my point is, I guess it's that I do my best for Keira and I hope that she knows I love her and when she looks back on her memories, she has a positive outlook on it.

I hate when I shout at her, though she calls it screaming, probably the same to a 3year old, but sometimes my patience just snaps and OMG she never stops talking sometimes and I'm trying to talk on the phone and she's going BLAHBLAHBLAH MOAN MOAN I WANT I WANT GIMMIE BLAH BLAH and it's like ARGGGGH BE QUIET FOR 5 MINUTEEEES.